Laughter Is the Best Medicine and the Best Aphrodisiac to Boot

Cindy and Rick realized how in tune they were with each other almost from the moment they met. They happened to meet while standing in line at a Monty Python film festival, which led naturally to a conversation about their favorite comedians and humorous movies. It turned out that they liked all the same stand-up comedians and sketch performers, delighted in the same jokes and routines, could recite by heart the same favorite punch lines. They soon found they were compatible in many other ways...

More Props for Your Passion Play

You're already familiar with the notion of using props to communicate seductively. And you know that clothing can be a prop to aid in the actual seduction. Here are some more ideas to add delight to your lovemaking. Consider A silk scarf. Use it to stroke your lover on his or her most tender places, or employ it for gentle bondage. Mirrors. A mirror allows both of you to be both voyeur and exhibitionist at the same time. You may also enjoy the sensation of pressing your bare skin against the...

The Wrong Person

Sexual desire can be very deceptive when you're overcome with it, you can easily be blinded to a person's imperfections and even a person's critical flaws. Unfortunately, once you've established a sexual bond with someone, you've created a link that could be permanent. Remember in Chapter 1 where we said that seduction has lasting effects Sex, for better or worse, utterly changes the dynamics of a relationship. It has been said that sex is the glue that keeps relationships together....

You Wear It Well

The day came for Harold and Julia when they decided it was time to get to work on their wardrobes. They had gained confidence in their looks and felt they definitely deserved better packaging. Both consulted experts to help them with their new looks. For evaluating appearance and advising on changes, Harold and Julia had several types of experts to choose from Image consultants advise clients on hair color, hairstyle, make-up, clothing, and accessories, and may advise on posture, general...

Cleanliness Is Next to Well

I knew a man in college who, when preparing for a date, would actually sift through his dirty laundry until he found a shirt he wanted to wear. Upon finding it, he would sniff it and should it be, shall we say, reminiscent of its last wearing, he would simply spray some cologne or deodorant on it and put it on. Maybe you were like my old friend when you were young and wild. Nowadays, of course, you're not guilty of any such hygiene-impaired behavior (right ). Since we're discussing...

Emotional Seductiveness

Part 1 Becoming a Modern-Day Seductress or Seducer 1 A Thousand Years of Good Intent 4 How Do You Tell the Good From the Bad 5 Nonsexual Seduction The Good, the Bad, and the Downright Ugly 5 Something to Which We Can All Relate Food 5 Sexual Seduction The Sublime and the Squalid 7 Delicious Seduction A Little Slice of Heaven 8 Malicious Seduction Devil on a Blue Bike 10 There's No Such Thing As a One-Night Stand Seduction Has Lasting 11 Effects General Seductiveness The Elements of Allure 11...

Mens Most Powerful Fantasies

After talking with thousands of men, I discovered there were several fantasies most of them had in common. While they said they enjoyed thinking about their fantasies, many said they would be hesitant to live out some of the wilder ones. Here is a list of some of the most common male fantasies Having sex with two women at the same time Watching a woman undress or masturbate without her knowing you're watching (voyeurism) Having sex outdoors or in a public place Being with a woman who is an...

Secrets for the Seductress

When you share a hidden fantasy with your partner, be sure that When you share a hidden fantasy with your partner, be sure that A feather can have more impact than a baseball bat You can let him know you're thinking about him, but don't always tell him wfui A feather can have more impact than a baseball bat You can let him know you're thinking about him, but don't always tell him wfui There is a widespread notion that seduction is much easier for a woman than for a man. Billy Crystal once said...

Encore or Final Curtain

So you've had your morning shower and cup of coffee. You've worked your way through your self-doubts and remorse, and, best of all, your partner and you are still looking at each other with that gleam of lust in your eyes. You're really feeling pretty darned good about the whole seduction. Or, alternatively, you've had your shower and coffee, you've had some time to think about your feelings, and frankly, you're thinking that maybe the whole thing was a big mistake. Or perhaps you're...

If Youll Be Jane He Will Be Your Tarzan

Men love to be with a woman who really enjoys sex, especially when she lets her man know how much she enjoys sex with him. Behind the sexism in the old saying about a man wanting a whore in the bedroom lies a great deal of truth. Your passionate cries, as well as your pleas for him to continue doing what he's doing, will leave your man wanting to pound his chest with pride. That's not, by any means, a put-down of the man, but rather an acknowledgment, even a celebration, of the fact that he...

Can We Talk About Commitment

What if it looks as if your love is going to be much more than just another affair to remembef' What if you want it to be an affair to continue What if you're thinking about that C word commitment Well, first of all, I don't believe you can, or should, make a commitment to somebody until you have been with that person long enough to determine whether you are truly compatible. As I said at the beginning of this chapter, it is beyond the scope of this book to go into the details of compatibility....

Relax Its Not a Competition

Before we go any further, let's stop for this reminder Sex should be fun. And it will be a lot more fun for both of you if you keep these points in mind Laughter is not only an aphrodisiac, it can also be an expression of pure defight This is particularly true for some women during sex. for these women, laughter is simply a spontaneous expression of their joy. Unfortunately, some men misinterpret this, and think they're being laughed at Not to wony, guys if she gets the giggles in bed, consider...

Seduction Can Be Forever Make It So

If I didn't believe that seduction can be forever, I wouldn't have devoted an entire book to this topic. I hope by now you're convinced that seduction is a process, and that it's up to you to choose how long that process lasts. Of course, there's only one first time with your partner, but that doesn't mean that the two of you can't continue to discover thrilling new things about each other and yourselves, and the world around you for as long as your relationship lasts. So how do you make...

The Least You Meed to Know

V- Driesmj and fantasy can be powerful tools to heighten sexual tension. > A woman can increase her seductweness to a man by being subtfe and spontaneous, and by concentrating or> her own unique visual appeal. > A man can increase his seductive appeal to a woman by paying attention to atmosphere, appreciating her physical beauty, and creating a sense that he wants to savor each moment rather than simply rush into sex, > A delicious seduction ij an entire experience, not just a single...

Emotional Seductiveness Creates a Win Win Situation

The whole process of really listening to and empathizing, resonating, laughing, having fun with, and of genuinely liking another person, serves to validate his or her sense of self-worth. The most powerful and the only positive form of seduction is the kind that leaves the person being seduced feeling somehow enriched by the experience. To enhance another person's good feelings about him-or herself, and about the experiences he or she shares with you, is the ultimate goal in seduction. Equally...

Body Talk Saying It Without Words

If it's important to know how to read body language, it's equally as important to know how to speak with your own body. You probably know what you want to say. Now we're going to look at a few ways to say it, clearly, without uttering a word. Keep in mind that this isn't about deception, and it's not about engaging in the sort of forced posturing that's as obvious as a rhino in a phone booth. Instead, what we are trying to do is make you aware of what your body language is saying, so you can be...

Jersey Girl

Jennifer had been dating Max for a little over two months, and recently they had begun a sexual relationship. One evening Max called from his cell phone and asked if he could stop by her place for awhile. I thought maybe we could watch a video, he said. I rented the new Steven Seagal movie. He added, I'm about ten minutes away. Jennifer had only recently arrived home after a long, grueling day at work, and had just finished shedding her clothes, preparing for a relaxing evening alone. But she...

Ask the Love Coach

Complacent after they've bedded a woman. It's as if they believe that once they've gotten her, most of their obligation to be attentive has ended. That's simply not the case. Guys, no woman expects you to give her your complete, undivided attention 24 hours a day. But you do need to let her know that her happiness and well-being are high priorities to you. And I'm not just talking about sex, though of course sexual attention is certainly part of the package. I'm also talking about the little...

The First Three Times Dont Count

Before we leave the subject of pre-game jitters and get back to the good stuff, I want to leave you with one final tip. No matter how compatible you are with your partner, and how at ease you are with each other, your first shot at lovemaking may not be all fireworks. In fact, the opposite might be true. If so, don't be dismayed. Remember, you're two real people in a real situation only in movies and romance novels does the first time proceed without a hitch. To ease his performance anxiety,...

The Laws of the Gender Jungle

Every human being has a range of intellectual and emotional needs, and no single person can meet all of those needs. Too many relationships fail because people expect their lovers or spouses to meet all of their needs. That's too heavy a burden to place on one person, or one relationship. There are, however, certain basic emotional needs that only an intimate partner can meet. Some of these needs are different for men and women, and some are shared by both sexes. If both partners' needs aren't...

Youre on a Journey Together So Dont Forget the Souvenirs

At the very beginning of a relationship, there are little signposts that remind you of the excitement you felt on those first couple of dates. Some couples, married for decades, remember a special song that was playing the first time they were out together. For others, the place they went on their first date is forever wrapped in the special ambience they felt that first night. It is important to remember the little details, because doing so tells your partner that you continue to look upon him...

Take That Fear andTransform It

The basic animal act of sex comes more or less easily and naturally to our species, as it does to most species. That's part of nature's plan. The fine art of lovemaking, however, is more complicated. Even if you're not obsessed with arbitrary standards of sexual performance or physical beauty, it's quite natural to have some anxiety about being a good lover. And it's perfectly normal to be nervous before making love with someone for the first time. If you have a good honest relationship with...

Self Worth The Reflection of Your Essence

There is frequently some confusion between the concepts of self-confidence and self-worth. Quite simply, where self-confidence is how you measure your own capabilities, self-worth is a measure of something much more intrinsic. It is your perception of your value as a human being. The two can either reinforce each other, or can be diametrically opposed. The process of boosting your sense of self-worth is probably about 20 percent introspection and 80 percent action. Consider what it is you like...

Personal Ads Learning to Read Between the Lines

Just like the Internet, the personal ads in your local paper or magazine can provide you with an abundance of new people to meet. And, just like the Internet, the personal ads represent a faceless anonymity that some people perceive as license to reinvent themselves into someone quite different from their own real personalities. Predators in cyberspace can sometimes wear the most benevolent of guises, If you think you're being victimized, stop responding to the predator's posti, and notify the...

Focus Makes Her Heart Grow Fonder

Few things are more seductive to a woman than a man who focuses only on her. According to virtually all the women I spoke to, one of the biggest mistakes a man can make is not focusing on his date. It's easy to lose points here but it's just as easy to gain them. Guy*, nobody expects you to be blind or dead where other women art concerned. If a particularly attractive woman catches your eye, it's okjy to iook but keep it brief and, above all, subtle. Whatever you do, don't let your attention be...

Forget the Strong Silent Approach Open Up

For many years, the ideal man was portrayed in movies and television shows as the strong, silent type. Men learned that they weren't supposed to show any feelings. Guys, it's time you taught that silent dude to talk After all, a woman needs to know she's attractive and interesting to her date. In that respect, we're not that different from you men. And we're also every bit as curious about you as you are about us. Of course, I realize you guys can feel pretty uncomfortable letting your date...

Nonfiction

Anne Hooper's Pocket Sex Guide by Anne Hooper, DK Publishing, 1994. Aphrodite A Memoir of the Senses by Isabel Allende, HarperCollins, 1998. The Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margo Anand, J.P. Tarcher, 1991. The Best Love, The Best Sex Creating Sensual, Soulful, Supersatisfying Relationships by Suzi Landolphi, Putnam Publishers Group, 1996. Body Language by Julius Fast, Pocket Books, 1970. Cracking the Love Code Six Proven Principles to Find and Keep Real Love With the Right Person by Janet O'Neal,...

Goal Setting The Proactive Approach to Seduction

> Taking control of your life V The lessons of history classic seductreiiei and ieJocers > Deciding to become seductive > Determining the type of people you want to attract This chapter is about goal setting deciding exactly what you want and beginning the process of getting it. If you're an incurable romantic, you may be wondering why we're talking about goal setting at all in a book about seduction. Perhaps you think any mention of goals in this context sounds too much like business and...

The Added Seduction of the Unexpected

Lovemaking doesn't always have to take place in the bedroom. As we saw in Chapter 17 with Christy and Paul, who showed us how seductive a Jeep can be, sometimes even the first time occurs in an unconventional place. Making love in an unexpected location, or at an unexpected time, can add a thrilling dimension to your seduction. Again, you can draw on the movies for inspiration. Think of Kevin Costner's hot limo scene in No Way Out, or Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson on the kitchen table in The...

Singles Night at the Local Bookstore Coffee Bar Sometimes You Can Tell a Book by Its Cover

Bookstores and libraries aren't just for eggheads anymore. (Not that there's anything wrong with being an egghead in fact, it's become rather stylish.) In case you haven't been in one of the big superstores lately, take a trip to one near you. No doubt you'll notice a significant number of interesting people hanging around, looking altogether literary. You might even notice that the bookstore has lots of couches clustered around coffee tables, or, for that matter, that there is a painfully...

Maintaining the Intrigue Setting the Stage for Next Time

Okay, so you've at least feigned an attempt to keep a rein on your enthusiasm and your passion. You've convinced yourself that you're behaving in a mature manner, and that you have looked at the situation as objectively as you can at this point. Now that all the mature stuff is out of the way, you want to focus on making sure that the incredible excitement you have shared isn't a one-time thing. At one time, the argument against premarital sex was that people didn't buy the cow when the milk...

In the Beginning Passionate Love

Some call it infatuation, some call it insanity, but most of us agree that it's glorious. I'm talking, of course, about that fevered state known as passionate love. Passionate love is a state of fierce longing for your partner. At this early stage in your romantic relationship, the two of you are completely absorbed in each other, and it's often difficult to tell where lust ends and love begins. Perhaps that point is moot unless, of course, you're thinking of making a long-term commitment when...

Sing the Body Erotic

If you ask me, the concept of erogenous zone is almost moot. With the right stimulation, the entire body can be an erogenous zone. You can supercharge your lover by lavishing your attentions on Ears. Gently sucking your lover's earlobe, or softly probing the tender inner portions of the ear with your tongue, can create shivers of delight. But remember to be gentle. Neck. This is another sensitive area that responds beautifully to gentle sucking and licking. As you may know, the Japanese...

The Spirit of the Enchantress Making It or Breaking It Without Lifting a Finger

In the exercise earlier in this chapter, we demonstrated how a woman's attitude and her internal dialog can dramatically affect her outward seductiveness, simply by making her feel more seductive. At an even deeper level, our attitudes affect the way we perceive the men in our lives, and thus, how we act toward them. The key word in this whole process is intent. How we feel toward men in general, and the man we are with in particular, has a great effect upon our behavior, even in ways of which...

Becoming A Modernday Seductress Or Seducer

The very word holds a promise of tantalizing pleasures, sensual indulgence, or, perhaps, forbidden delights. If you're like most of today's women and men, however, you're not hungering for forbidden fruit you simply want a pragmatic, honest, and mutually pleasurable path to enticing a lover. Over the years, I've worked with thousands of couples and individuals first through owning the video dating service Friend Connection, and now through my relationship...

And Other Oral Delights

To some people, oral sex is strictly foreplay, just a prelude to intercourse. To others, it is every bit as pleasurable, if not more so, than intercourse. There are even some people to whom oral sex, like kissing, implies a greater level of intimacy than intercourse. And although there are a few people who are turned off by the idea of giving or receiving oral sex, most couples in our society today do consider it a normal part of lovemaking whether it occurs before or after intercourse, or as...