Same Situation Different Perspective

Men and women think, act and decide differently - about everything. As Dr. John Gray wrote, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". The differences between how men and women view the dating process are as far apart as the North and South Poles on planet Earth.

Women thoroughly relish the long swelling waves of romancing that go up and down in our minds. We feel completely absorbed, engulfed and rejuvenated while going through the rigmarole of emotional upheavals. We LOVE sailing through the rough seas of dating and romance.

Men, on the other hand, like less drama, less of an emotional splurge and more stability. Guys prefer sailing in the tranquility of a rock-steady relationship. They aren't necessarily ready to drop anchor and dock their ship but they do prefer smooth sailing.

Men rush in and latch on to the woman of their life - as if there is no tomorrow -and the woman is viewing it totally differently. She visualizes pain before pleasure. Spends time thinking of what the future holds and neglecting how she can hold on to the present. Exclusivity, monogamy - women yearn for that - but all at the pace which she sets. The course and speed of the game is decided by her.

You will earnestly desire to quickly end the emotional distress associated with dating and stabilize the relationship - none of the wildness of dating will make you happy - you will want to go steady with a single woman. There may be plenty of reasons for such behavior from men - seeking immediate but temporary monogamy. Definitely, a faulty understanding of women and wrong assumptions about how women think and what they believe is one of the main ones.

When you begin dating and continue dating a woman, your adrenalin will rise, you will get emotionally charged, but if you don't understand the woman's nature and expectations, you will fall flat. You will gradually start to lose ground. That will affect your own sense of pride and self esteem. You will start thinking that the whole process of dating and romancing is a self-defeating exercise.

The thing is, because you are a man and want the whole meeting and dating thing to end as quickly and painlessly as possible with the positive outcome of getting into a stable relationship with one woman; your objective is the very thing that will cause you not to succeed. A woman who feels like she is being pushed and hurried into a relationship that she isn't anywhere near ready for, will dump you in a New York minute.

The pace and timing of a relationship all depends on the woman. She will set the pace and you must get in step with her. The dating process has a purpose. The purpose is for a man and a woman to get to know each other well. The process needs to conducted in many different settings and under many different sets of circumstances.

The woman that you are pursuing will want to observe how you conduct yourself in many different places and at many different events. She will want to determine whether you are a person she can depend upon to be there when the going gets tough. She many even break up with you at least once before she decides that you are the one for her just to see if she cares enough about you that she would miss you and be lost without you.

Dr. Gray is right - Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. But the difference are what keeps the world going around.

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