There I am, minding my own business on my computer, when a message pops up to scream,
"W00t! Eh git da Pook! Tale me, Puke, whut cun eh dew ta git da woa-men?"
And then appears one of the following lines:
"How do I approach?"
"How do you call her?"
"How do I get laid easier?"
"Where do I meet the girls?"
"How do I increase my testosterone?"
"What cologne should I put on?"
"Which are the clothes that women like?"
"Should I walk with swagger or not?"
"Facial hair or not?"
"Should I use more action verbs in my speech?" "What sexual position should I use?" "What date should I do?"
"Should I be ambitious, artistic, or just domineering?"
Gentlemen, if I attempt to answer your every request, I shall be here until Doomsday. You come onto the forum and think, "If I obtain this information, my future with women shall be changed."
This is a bald-faced lie.
Your future is the same. It is only your past that keeps changing.
Nice Guy, Seducer, Cocky Guy- what does it matter? You're looking for guarantees. Then you change your past ("I lost to the women because I was sheepish and not cocky enough"). Maybe you have different results. But then it goes back to the way it was. And you search for more information. And then you change your past again ("oh, I lost to the women because I lacked testosterone within me"). Maybe you have different results. But then it goes back to the way it was. And you search for something else...
On and on it goes. So excuse me for not giving you a traditional answer. Let me answer you in another way.
It is to know the difference between a security and a mistake. 'Securities'
What is a 'security'? It is a calculus of action. It is a planned way of thought, of movement, of talk, and of love. For example, anchoring conversation with "notice something about her" is a 'security'. It implies that if you talk about a necklace or something she is wearing, your odds for 'winning' are better. Here is another 'security'. "A cool fast car!" Since it is observed that women like the cool fast cars, guys will get them because they believe it boosts their chances of getting the girl.
All seduction techniques are 'securities'. All NLP is a 'security'. The entire idea is to boost your chances of getting the girl.
Self-improvement is readily a good thing. But a very big problem (or should I say cancer?) occurs when self-improvement becomes a 'security'. The idea that improving yourself, in this or that way, will boost your chances. But the problem is that it never stops. Go into a gym and you will find many single guys working out. They will remain there because they always think they have to be perfect to get the ladies! Watch television and you will see ads implying that if you wear this shampoo, you will have this social life, eat this brand of rice, and your romantic life will look like this, on and on and on. Use this product and you will be "perfect" it implies. Well, perfect is boring.
Take a young man asking some guy on the internet where should he go for the date? What should he eat? What should he wear? Which restaurant should he go to? What should he talk about? (And yes, he even asks) What sexual position should I use? Should I kiss her here or there?
He thinks, Eh em ubtaining all dis infoormadion! W00t! Luk dat mee!
But I'm shaking my head thinking, My goodness! This guy is letting a stranger from the internet define his love life! He doesn't know where he wants to go, what he wants to eat, what to talk about, or what to wear.
Women will look at such a guy with the same attitude.
A 'security' is an act or thought that makes you eliminate mistakes. It is one thing to foresee mistakes (after all, you can't just marry any girl), but it is disaster to life to deny them. You want misery in your life? Keep sucking up 'securities' to mold and sculpt your life.
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