Grab your white coats, gentlemen, and follow me.
Pook and the others go down the hall and turn to the left.
Ahh, now we are at the testing room. Behind the window is where we will experiment. They will not see us, gentlemen, for they will see only a mirror. Here, we can peek in on the outside world.
"But Dr. Pook, what is the experiment going to be?"
Patience, indeed! Let us begin.
A man was in the room and all was well. Then, all of a sudden, a GORGOUS woman enters the room. The man snuck glances. Soon, the woman got tired of this game and she came over to speak to him.
Focus, gentlemen! Watch how he responds!
"Uhhh ummmm errrr ooh ummm..."
"Errr ohhh ummmm dohh..."
Stop! Remove the woman! Quarantine the male. We cannot risk the possibility that his error is contageous.
"Anything you say, Dr. Pook."
Ahh... it is so nice when they do what you ask. Now, display the data on our subject.
The screen flashed up the male's brain map.
Good heavens! I was afraid of this. His entire frontal lobe is severely damaged. Gentlemen, to show you the extent of the damage this male labels as shyness, let us look at it through the woman's perspective.
Yes. OK, she walks into the room. She KNOWS the guy is checking her out. (Guys, the girls are more clever then you think. They WILL SPOT YOU if you check them out. If you like a chick, she will eventually know it.) So the chick decides to talk to the guy. And the guy didn't seem capable of conversation! Why, he just mumbled and bumbled about something. What did he say? It doesn't matter. Look at HOW he said it. He wasn't speaking, he was farting from his mouth!
Now, what was the woman thinking?
A gentleman peered at the data and looked up, stunned. "She thought he was brain damaged."
Exactly! And you know what, HE WAS. SHE is right here and HE is wrong. He knew something was wrong but he can't figure it out.
The problem is Descartes. Yes, 'ol Descartes thought that he could divide the mind and body with his philosophies. Descartes thought that human beings were composed of physical bodies and immaterial minds. That blasted Dutchman Spinoza disagreed. Why, to Spinoza, feeling was not opposed to reason. Rather, feeling was an accomplice. With Spinoza, mind and body are not two but one.
Some believe in a third way which is Freud. Freud believed that this young male's reaction was because of repression. I'm sure you've heard it before: 'that guy is going to turn into a playboy because he was sexually repressed!' But this is nonsense. We are humans, not caged animals.
It is impossible to turn off all emotions in rational descision making. A girl can be hot but what does that matter unless you mentally acknoledge it? Ever have a particular girl you kept thinking about? Lust is not just fleshy. Lust is both mental and fleshy.
The point is that Spinoza was right and Descartes was wrong. "Pook, is there a purpose to this?"
There is and it is in that young male. When the beautiful woman came into his orbit, he tried to compartmentalize. A wave of emotion came over him. He fought against it rather than accepting it. And so, the result, is a guy that just stands there like a mark with a whole army shooting at him. Logic is to this universe as feeling/conversation is to Womaniverse. The woman thought, "Typical male!" and went off to find a WORTHIER recipient.
Do you want to get rid of your shyness? You're going to have to open up and get out of your solitary shell. Sure, you can deploy 'tactics' and 'maneuvers' and turn women into a piece of mathematical equation. But in the end, you are still in your same shy philosophy-obsessed world. You just destroyed her and turned her into a part of a 'philosophy' to absorb.
Instead of dehumanizing the woman, why not humanize yourself? Sexuality Problem #5: Lack of Experience
"No experience, no job! No job, no experience! It is like that with women!"
Oh, foolish lad! She doesn't care if you are still running on VIRGIN or not. The only problem is that if YOU have a problem with it. Some guys worry about their experience, worry about stupid labels. "I am still a VIRGIN though!" So what? Despite what the movies portray, sex is not life. If you have a problem with it, it is guaranteed that SHE will. Stop worrying!
Sexuality is not a 'philosophy' to learn, it is more like a 'dance'. Some males get it, others don't. Do not demand philosophies of sexuality; you'll only end up destroying it. And if you ask for a theory to create another 'philosophy' to be stacked in a bookish format to further continue your ego as A Great Thinker, consider yourself chained to this website forever.
Embrace your sexuality and embrace life!
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