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the delights that can be created by a pair of loving hands and a few drops of warm, fragrant oil, you are in for an exquisite treat. There are many good books and videos that show you simple massage techniques for relaxation or stimulation. Or just try doing what feels good to both of you. Remember, however, to pay close attention to your lover's reactions, so you don't cause any pain or damage to muscles or tender tissues.

• The power of smell. It's been said that the sense of smell is the quickest route to the emotions. "Aromatherapy" has become quite a buzzword in recent years, but it is based on traditions that began in China, India, and Egypt centuries ago. The judicious use of scent can create a delicious environment for you and your lover. Using essential oils for massage, for sensual baths, or in the bedroom can have a relaxing or stimulating effect, depending on the scents used. Essential oils, and advice for using them, are available in health food stores or shops that cater to holistic lifestyles.

• The power of taste. Sharing food can be a very sensual experience in itself. Some foods are naturals for a seductive meal, due to their reputation as an aphrodisiac, or to their taste, color, texture, or shape. (For example, slice a strawberry in half lengthwise and look at the interior portion of the slice. Remind you of anything?) Furthermore, the setting in which you eat can turn an ordinary meal into an erotic banquet. Candlelight dinners and champagne brunches are wonderful, but why not prepare a light, sensuous meal together, and then have a midnight picnic in bed, in the nude? Don't forget the chocolate!

• The power of sight. We know that guys are visual, but so are women. You can delight each other's sense of sight in many ways—for example, by using warm, sexy colors and soft lights in the bedroom.

• The power of sound. Experiment with listening to different types of music, particularly in the bedroom. Whether you sample Andean flute music, Tibetan chants, Chinese classical music, or flamenco guitar doesn't matter. Just know that there is a whole wonderful world of sounds waiting to be discovered. Some of this music is unabashedly sensual and can take you and your lover to new heights of pleasure.

Heart Brahes

Don't prepare a sensuous meal for your lover without finding out if he or the has any food sensitivities or allergies. Unfortunately, many people are allergic to common foods such as chocolate or strawberries. Many others have a sensitivity to daily products, 5o before you go to all the trouble of preparing that white chocolate cheesecake or strawberry-kiwi mousse, make sure your partner wi'N be a bis to enjoy the treat with you.

Heart Brahes

Don't prepare a sensuous meal for your lover without finding out if he or the has any food sensitivities or allergies. Unfortunately, many people are allergic to common foods such as chocolate or strawberries. Many others have a sensitivity to daily products, 5o before you go to all the trouble of preparing that white chocolate cheesecake or strawberry-kiwi mousse, make sure your partner wi'N be a bis to enjoy the treat with you.

The whole point is to use your imagination, and 11329 stop finding ways to appeal to all of your senses.

Ask the Love Coach

Ask the Love Coach

Taking a bath together is a wonderful way to appeal to all of your senses, Use fragrant bath laiti and flavored massage oils to delight your senses of smeil and taste. Have enough background to add to the ambiance. Mow you exercise your sense of trjuch.,,-sveiJ, I'll leave that up to you.

Yoga ft a syiteivi of eKencising, svhich involves deep meditation, controlled breathing, and achieving certain postures. It's good for the body and wonderful for the soul, and doing yoga with someone you love can be very pleasurable. If you really want to malie it a sensual experience, consider doing your yoga together in the nude,

Exercising together is another way to keep your love and lust alive. Virtually any type of robust physical activity you do together—whether you're nude or not—can be very erotic (not to mention healthy).

Working out with weights, doing yoga or aerobics, taking a brisk walk together, riding your bicycles to the park, salsa dancing—just about any activity that gets those natural opiates fired up in your brains will be pleasurable in itself, and can lead to fireworks in the bedroom later. Heck, even doing a couple of hours of strenuous yard work, and then having a cool-off session in the shower together, can lead to some real fun.

Don't ever be afraid to try new experiences with your partner. Get out of your comfort zone, experience life together, and your relationship will be a perpetual seduction for both of you. Even if it doesn't last, you will have made the most of your time together, and you will have given each other a precious gift.

Taking a bath together is a wonderful way to appeal to all of your senses, Use fragrant bath laiti and flavored massage oils to delight your senses of smeil and taste. Have enough background to add to the ambiance. Mow you exercise your sense of trjuch.,,-sveiJ, I'll leave that up to you.

Let's Get Physical

Let's Get Physical

Yoga ft a syiteivi of eKencising, svhich involves deep meditation, controlled breathing, and achieving certain postures. It's good for the body and wonderful for the soul, and doing yoga with someone you love can be very pleasurable. If you really want to malie it a sensual experience, consider doing your yoga together in the nude,

Wordplay

Wordplay

The Leajt You Need to Know

V Women's top relationship needs include emotional security; romance and affection; a man's occasional undivided attention; and his willingness to listen,

> Men's thief relationship needs include being accepted just the way they are; sexual fulfillment; respect and admiration; and companionship.

You can strengthen your relationship by giving attention to the signposts along the way, and collecting souvenirs of the good times.

V You can keep your relationship strong and lively if you get in the habit of creating adventures together, such as day trips, theme excursions, and minivacations.

V One way to keep the seduction going is by constantly creating experiences for you and your lover that appeal to all of your senses: touch, smell, taste, sight, and Hearing,

>■ Exercising and engaging in physical activity with your lover is fun and healthy, and is almost certain to have a beneficial effect on your se* Jffe,

Chapter 21

Keeping It Spicy: Fanning the Flames with Fantasies and Games

> How the safe use of fantasy ten bring you doser together V Spicing it up with men's most steamy sexual fantasies >■ Spicing it up with women's most sultry sexual fantasies

Just about everybody has sexual fantasies. It's perfectly normal, since we humans are imaginative creatures by nature. We fantasize about many things—winning the lottery, going on a dream vacation, buying a ludicrously expensive sports car—so it would be surprising if we didn't fantasize about sex too.

The majority of us keep our most private fantasies to ourselves, and we don't act them out. But did you know that sharing your sexual fantasies with your intimate partner can be an incredible aphrodisiac (and thus a great seductive tool) or can inject some seductive spice into a relationship that's lost some of its thrill?

Sharing your fantasies (and even some harmless acting-out) can also bring the two of you closer by giving you unique insight into each other's sexual desires and emotional needs.

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