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Seduction—what a titillating topic. The very word holds a promise of tantalizing pleasures, sensual indulgence, or, perhaps, forbidden delights. If you're like most of today's women and men, however, you're not hungering for forbidden fruit; you simply want a pragmatic, honest, and mutually pleasurable path to enticing a lover.

Over the years, I've worked with thousands of couples and individuals—first through owning the video dating service Friend Connection, and now through my relationship coaching. I've learned that many people have misconceptions about seduction and what it takes to be seductive. The good news is that anyone can master the art of seduction—yes, this means you, too—and you don't have to look like Cindy Crawford or Brad Pitt to be positively irresistible to a lover.

In this part we're going to set the stage for your transformation into a modern-day seductress or seducer. After learning a new definition of seduction—as befits the new era we're approaching—you'll learn how to take a proactive approach to your love life by setting goals. You'll discover the elements of seductiveness—all those facets of you that make up the alluring whole—and you'll learn how you can enhance them in order to create your captivating new self. So...let the magic begin!

Chapter 1

Redefining Seduction

In This Chapter

> What IS seduction? A new definition for a new millennium >■ Good reduction versus bad seduction

> What makes a person ieductive

So you want to be seductive. Hmmmm.. .where to begin? Just by virtue of having the desire to be so, you're already on the path to seductiveness. And you've definitely come to the right book.

Before we begin the how-to, though, I want to make sure we're all in agreement about what seduction means. There are easily as many negative as positive connotations for this word. For example, seduction can imply coercion and abuse of power. Over the years, the news media has assailed us with various high-profile cases, though in some instances it was difficult to tell just who was seducing whom.

On the other hand, we have hopelessly sweet and romantic images of seduction, many of which are fictional (the movie Don Juan de Marco comes to mind, for example). There are, however, countless true-life cases in which people are seduced in a delightful manner by someone who really has their best interests in mind. These cases just don't make the headlines.

The point is that there is bad seduction and good seduction—or, you might say, malicious and delicious seduction. Too often in the past, seduction has implied the harmful variety. With this in mind, I think it's time for the entire concept of seduction to get an overhaul.

Our aim here is to define, or redefine, seduction for real life (as opposed to reel life). We're going to look at seduction as a way to:

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• Be charismatic

I want to make it clear that the focus of this book is the new seduction—seduction for the new millennium, if you will. For many of us, this new millennium that everyone's talking about holds the promise of being a more joyous, happy time; a time when people will become more conscious of, and motivated toward, a general state of well-being. It follows that the shift in emphasis of seduction would be toward actions that would have a positive effect on a person's spirit and life in general. The seduction we're going to talk about in this book is seduction that goes beyond purely selfish intent, and results in the benefit of all involved.

A Thousand Years of Good Intent

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The word ¡educe has- been in use at Jeast sii>ce the 15th century, it comes from the Latin seducere, which is made irp of the prefix it (without, apart} and ducere (to Fead)—other words, "to lead apart (or away)," Tn its earnest uses, seduce meant "to divert from aFJegianee or service," or "to induce [a woman] to surrender her chastity." The negative connotation lingers today, but the new seduction we're focusing on iii this book ss a positive, exhifarating experience for both parties,

English is a flexible language. As linguists and other scholars continue to remind us, we have always changed the meanings of words according to time, place, and circumstance.

Seduction is certainly one of those words whose meaning has changed with the times. Originally, to seduce someone or to be seductive meant to do something to the person, or to entice a person to do something that was generally not in his or her best interest.

Over the years, however, the definition has expanded to include actions taken to win over or attract another person. The context may or may not be sexual, and the results may be beneficial or harmful. In just a little while, we'll explore examples of the varieties of seduction—nonsexual and sexual, beneficial and hurtful.

How Do You Tell the "Good" From the "Bad"?

What's the difference between the archaic, negative seduction and the new, enlightened sort of seduction we'll be exploring in this book? The distinction lies in two factors:

• The intent or purpose: You can judge whether your actions represent the new seduction or the old, based upon your motives. Are you just after a momentary thrill, with no regard for the welfare of the person you're seducing (or for how you'll feel about yourself when it's all over)? Or do you truly want to create a pleasurable experience for both of you?

• The results: For better or worse, the effects of seduction almost always outlast "the act." The ultimate results are as significant as the intent (and we all know what they say about the road to hell). Consider the residuals of your act: Will it leave one or both of you with feelings of guilt or regret, or with smiles on your faces?

If your intent is benevolent and your actions bring no harm to that person—or to yourself—then it's safe to say you are practicing the "new" seduction. Just to make sure we're clear on the distinctions between the various types of seduction, we'll look at a few examples.

Nonsexual Seduction: The Good, the Bad, and the Downright Ugly

Seduction comes in many forms; it isn't always about sex. In fact, sometimes it isn't even about you and another person.

Something to Which We Can All Relate: Food.

self-sabotage it's eaiy to fall prey to bad ieducbort of thii type. One powerful antidote is to focus on the negative con sequence! you'll fact if you yield to temptation.

Let's say you get hold of a big red apple, and it looks so fresh that you just know it's going to be crisp and juicy and sweet. Your mouth begins watering at the mere thought of that first bite. That apple is calling to you—yes, seducing you—until you simply can't resist anymore. You close your eyes, almost as if in prayer, open your mouth wide, and take that first, tantalizing bite.

Exactly as you had imagined, it has just the right crunch and it is bursting with sweet juiciness. When you separate yourself from the rapture of that first taste, your intellectual side tells you that

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On the other hand, imagine that you're on a diet, and you're being tempted by a piece of pecan pie. That pie calls to you, sings to you. Though you know the pie is full of fat, calories, and artery-clogging cholesterol, its sweetness has an almost hypnotic appeal. Throwing caution and moderation to the wind, you eat the pie. After all, you've been depriving yourself for weeks now. But somehow when you're finished, you don't feel rewarded; you immediately feel heavy and guilt ridden. You feel bad about yourself, and your self-image has taken a minor nosedive.

For the purpose of this example, then, we can say the act of eating the pie represents bad seduction, whereas eating the apple represents good seduction.

Seducers on Two Legs

In the food examples we just listed, there really wasn't the factor of intent or purpose—at least not from the objects that seduced us. Obviously, apples and slices of pecan pie are not sentient beings. You could, however, consider these examples to be cases of se/f-seduction, in which case the pie incident would constitute self-sabotage.

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What'i the difference between seduction and manipulation? Is the latter neceitfnfy '"good" or "had," or are there shades of grey? Gill and Louite had a spirited disunion about thit very matter when they rented the vintage movie Breakhstit TWfny'i. Louise found the movie charming, and Audrey Hepburn's HoNy Go lightly character waif ishiy appealing. BjJI lifted the movie too, but had this comment about the character: "What a manipulator. No guy with any sense would tolerate that kind of behavior today."

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What'i the difference between seduction and manipulation? Is the latter neceitfnfy '"good" or "had," or are there shades of grey? Gill and Louite had a spirited disunion about thit very matter when they rented the vintage movie Breakhstit TWfny'i. Louise found the movie charming, and Audrey Hepburn's HoNy Go lightly character waif ishiy appealing. BjJI lifted the movie too, but had this comment about the character: "What a manipulator. No guy with any sense would tolerate that kind of behavior today."

Many people of Lett1 genders use manipulation of some sort when they're afraid to ask directly for what they want Watching this movie led Bill and Louise into a division about their own relationship. They were both abfe io cite exam pies when they wed manipulative tactic? with each other. This behavior wasn't always oveiUy destructive, but it often fed to misunderstandings and frustration. They each made a pact to be more careful about this in the future.

Now let's look at some examples involving other people. Imagine you're at a party and a woman you know comes up to you and says, "Michael, you're so good with children. You're so funny; kids think you're just like a clown. I would just love for you to dress up as a clown on Christmas Eve and spend a couple of hours in the burn section of the Children's Hospital, just giving the kids gifts and talking to them.. .you know, generally lifting their spirits."

Almost without your realizing it, she seduces you into taking time out of your frantic holiday schedule to visit the hospital. It's easy to understand why. The person making the request is someone who likes you and holds you in high esteem, and you feel the same about her. She has appealed to your higher self, enmeshing you in the holiday spirit and the natural glow that comes from doing good deeds.

Afterwards, of course, you feel wonderful. You think of how fortunate you are to be healthy, and you're glad you have brought some joy into these children's lives. You even promise yourself, "This is something that I will do every year from now on, because not only did I bring joy to the kids, it made me feel good."

Did the person who originally seduced you into going to the hospital and becoming a clown practice negative or positive seduction? Obviously, this is a case of the latter.

Picture yourself at another party. A woman you know who's a stockbroker comes up to you and says, "Michael, I have the greatest deal for you. I have some inside information no one else has about a stock that's about to split. You're going to make so much money if you buy it. Just think how great you'd look in that new Porsche you've been wanting." Glossing over that phrase "inside information," you let yourself be talked into buying the stock.

Why? This woman has appealed to your greedy side and your vanity. You want to make money, and besides, you really like the broker's implication that you would be more attractive with an expensive new car. So you purchase the stock—and then it doesn't split, after all. In the end, you lose a lot of money.

The woman did, indeed, seduce you, but not in a good way, and you ended up feeling used. She made a huge commission, and what did you get? Nothing but a big dose of what avarice will do to you. That's the negative form of seduction.

Sexual Seduction: The Sublime and the Squalid

For most of us, the word "seduction" has sexual connotations above all else. After all, that's why you're reading this book, isn't it?

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Sexual energy is a powerful force, and when the factor of seduction is added, it can either move your soul or shatter you to your very core. Again, it all depends on how it is used—the intent and purpose, and the results.

Delicious Seduction: A Little Slice of Heaven

Imagine that you're coming home from a hard day's work, and you haven't had a very good day with the boss. You're cranky and tired. As you pull into the driveway, you see your husband's car. He's home early. That's curious; he's not normally home before you. Half suspicious, half worried, you fumble for your keys and push open the front door—only to look across the foyer to the stairs, where you see a rose petal on each step, beckoning you up the stairway.

What's this? you wonder. Following the trail of rose petals you are led into the bathroom, where you see a tiny envelope with your name on it. You open the envelope and read the note inside. The note says, "My Love: The bubble bath is drawn for you. I hope it's the right temperature. I put in the rose scented bath salts you like so much. On the vanity you will find one champagne glass, and a chilled bottle in the bucket next to the tub. Please pour yourself a glass, slip into the tub, and just let the day fade away. I Love You."

You get into the tub, simply delighted. Your husband has never done anything like this before. You lie there in the gentle caress of the bubbles, sipping the champagne, and you begin to drift off and actually forget about how bad your day was.

Then you get out and find brand-new, big, fluffy bath towel waiting there with another note pinned to it. The note says, "This towel was made for one purpose: to pamper the most beautiful body that I have ever seen. After you are finished drying off, please come into the bedroom." The softness of the towel delights you as you dry your body. You find that you're laughing now, your frustration washed away, replaced by the feeling that you really are beautiful.

You go into the bedroom and find another note. "Lie down on the bed and put on this mask. Listen to the music I've selected on the stereo, and just relax. In a few moments, I'll come in and give you a massage. My hope is that my hands will speak clearly, and tell you just how much I adore you."

You put the mask on and lie down, completely lost in a sense of sheer delight. The music begins softly, barely audible, then rises just loud enough for you to recognize and follow the melody. Strains of "Winter," from Vivaldi's Four Seasons begin to weave their unique spell. God, how long have you loved this piece? Your reverie is only slightly interrupted by the feel of warm oil, gently pressed into your skin by two strong, sensitive hands—hands that you know, and that know you, so very well.

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The touch is soft but masculine upon your neck and shoulders, moving down your body, sweetly kneading away what little tension remains in your now supple flesh. He just keeps on, working those hands down the length of your body, all the way down to your toes. He isn't saying anything to you, yet you hear him well.

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As you start to drift off, completely relaxed, you feel the slight tickle of a feather upon your skin, grazing lightly across your breasts and sending tingles, so familiar, yet brand new, through your body. Without even fully awakening, you reach out, drawing this wondrous man close against you, and the two of you make love passionately. And yes, my dear, you have just been delightfully and completely seduced.

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Think about this scene (how can you not?). Was this a sweet seduction for the new millennium—delicious seduction, in other words—or an example of the old, "evil," malicious seduction?

Consider the intent. Your husband went to some trouble to put this entire scenario together and he did this out of adoration for you. Think of the results. During the next few days, you find your mind drifting back to that wonderful afternoon, thinking every day how loved you feel, and appreciating all of the work and thought that went into giving you such a delightful experience.

This seduction left nothing in its wake but warm, tender emotions, increased feelings of self-worth, and the sense that the two of you are closer to each other than ever before.

Obviously, this was an example of delicious seduction. Malicious Seduction: Devil on a Blue Bike

Now, let's take a look at another scenario. It's late at night and you go into a bar. You start dancing with a pretty good-looking guy in a motorcycle jacket. He's whispering something in your ear that you can't quite understand, and as you drink and dance and drink some more, things begin to get very sexy. Before you know it, it's getting late, but he keeps buying you drinks, and pretty soon your mind is a little foggy.

Then he invites you to take a ride on his motorcycle, and maybe come over to his place. That doesn't sound like such a great idea, mainly because you're in a committed relationship with a terrific boyfriend who's out of town, and because this leather-clad man is a complete stranger. But your new friend keeps up the pressure until you finally give in and go with him. When you get to his house, he opens up a bottle, and you have more to drink. Next thing you know, you're having some very rough sex. Afterwards, your head spinning from the booze, you fall asleep.

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The next morning, you awaken early and find yourself next to someone you don't know at all, who is not nearly as sexy as he was the night before. He has a growth of beard on his face, and his breath reeks of stale beer.

You look around and really observe the way he lives, the place that you've put yourself in. To say that he's not very tidy would be an understatement, and you find that you want, more than anything in the world, just to be away—from him, from his filthy place, and, sadly, from yourself most of all. Your self-worth is about as low as it's ever been, and you feel very ashamed that you have been unfaithful to your trusting boyfriend. 46

Right now, you're experiencing what is known as "coyote love." A coyote, caught in a trap, will literally gnaw its own leg off to escape, and, at this moment, you would almost rather do the same thing than wake this guy up and ask him to drive you home.

This scenario, too, was a seduction, but what type was it? Was it delicious or malicious? The best way to tell is to ask yourself how you feel. Your self-worth is down, you don't even want to speak to this person, and God knows what horrible disease you might now carry. This clearly falls into the category of bad seduction.

There's No Such Thing As a One-Night Stand: Seduction Has Lasting Effects.

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Some men, even in this era of safesex consciousness,, are "¡eriaF seducers," Calf it the Don Juan syndrome, the Casanova complex, or ¡ex addiction—but whatever you calT it, ifs not reduction for the new millennium. No matter how benign their motives, serial teducers not onJy dehumanize the women they seduce, but they doojti themselves to exist in what artist and writer Kent Nerburn cafls "a mitery of hopePejs expectations." An enlightened seducer wants a more profound experience than the thrill of the chase, or the excitement of the next conquest.

When you engage in good seduction, you must have no harmful intent in mind for the person you're seducing. On the contrary, you must wish for this individual as much pleasure, both short and long term, as you desire for yourself.

As we just saw in the example above, a bad seduction inevitably has a toxic outcome. If your intent is clearly focused on your own selfish need, oblivious to the well-being of your partner, the outcome will always be less than joyous. After you've been on the receiving end of such a toxic seduction, you feel like you've been drained, as if the life force has just been sucked out of you. You're left feeling tired and not very pleased with who you are.

On the other hand, if you've been seduced by someone who holds your own well-being high on their priority list, life somehow seems better for you. And if you're the kind of sweet seducer who holds the pleasure and well-being of your partner as dearly as your own, the rewards you will reap go beyond those of a carnal nature.

In either case, seduction has effects that last long past the act itself. That's why it's always important to consider not just the intent, but the results.

General Seductiveness: The Elements of Allure

We've talked about seductive situations, but now it's time to get personal. Just what is it that makes a person seductive, and how do we recognize such a person?

On a recent promotional tour for my book, Cracking the Love Code, I had a fascinating conversation about this very topic with one of my escorts. An escort is a person who picks you up and drives you to and from radio and TV shows or book^signings while you're in a city—your new best friend for a day.

My escort told me about the time she'd been an escort for General Norman Schwartzkopf. She described to me what a delightful day she had spent with him.

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"He was so charismatic, so confident, so enjoyable to talk to, and so very funny," she said. She added that, while he certainly didn't fit her usual definition of sexy, there was something very sensuous and really quite sexual about him. She felt compelled, however, to fill her narrative with disclaimers. "Don't misunderstand," she said over and over, "I wasn't attracted to him."

To which I finally responded, "Oh, yes, you were. You were very much attracted to him. But just because you were attracted to him doesn't mean that you necessarily wanted to act on it in a sexual way." This was a very happily married woman, but she couldn't help noticing—and being affected by—a man with Schwartzkopfs obvious seductive qualities.

This only makes sense. After all, he was a phenomenal leader, and the ability to completely seduce is an essential quality of great leadership. In order to lead people into action, an individual must have more in his or her personal repertoire than the ability to bark orders. This type of person must be able to inspire and entice others to do his or her bidding, to obey—not just out of necessity, but out of a genuine willingness to please.

As a leader, Schwartzkopf had these qualities in abundance. He may not be a perfect reflection of our culture's masculine beauty ideal du jour, but he possesses that magical stuff from which seductive power springs: charisma.

Ingredients to Cast a Seductive Spell

What exactly does this magical substance consist of? It's not any single element or quality. It's certainly not anything that you can drape over you before walking out the door to greet the world. Rather, charisma is the essence of the person, the sum of all the person's other qualities and characteristics—and as such, it takes on its own energy.

This is one instance in which the whole is truly greater than the sum of its parts. It's much like a precious stone, which shines clearly with the reflected light of its many facets. Should one or more of the facets be flawed, the stone fails to shine and its value is diminished. However, with all facets polished to perfection, the gem exudes a light and splendor that is a source of awe and wonderment.

So, what are the magical ingredients of seductiveness?

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• A pinch of physical attraction: The first important element is physical body and appearance. Physical presence is both an outgrowth of a person's attitude toward him- or herself and a factor in the shaping of that attitude. Obviously, a person tends to be happier and, thus, more attractive, if he or she is in good health. Grooming and hygiene are certainly factors in a pleasing physical appearance as well. And to a lesser, but still significant, extent, what a person wears can also enhance his or her self-image if the cut and fabrics are sensual, and signal approachability. Approachability is a key word here. A truly seductive person looks warm and real and touchable, unlike some of the stunning beauties or hunks we often see on TV and in the movies. We'll learn about physical attraction in Chapter 3.

While a certain degree of nnyitery is intriguing, you have to be approachable to be seductive. it's important to look w^rm and touchable, but you alio must senile, make eye contact, laugh, and generally seem interested in the people around you. .Aloofness and disinterest are not seductive-receptivity is.

• A dash of intellectual magnetism: Another element of a person's essence is the mind. To be truly seductive, a person must be stimulating on an intellectual level. After all, it has been rightfully said that our primary erogenous zones are in our minds. What makes a person interesting? In general, a truly interesting person is one who has a keen sense of curiosity and is able to communicate that interest. This person expresses interest in you in a way that lets you know there are things he or she wants to learn from you, as well as teach you. Such a person has a hunger for knowledge about the surrounding world and about the person he or she is with. We'll talk about intellectual attractiveness in Chapter 4.

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• A touch of emotional seductiveness: No less crucial than any of the other elements is the person's emotional being. By emotional being, we mean the ability to feel compassion, to open him- or herself to feelings for you, to have empathy with your plight or even the plight of someone he or she has never met, half a world away.

An emotionally attractive person experiences joy merely touching or being touched by you in a safe and tender way. And that is extraordinarily seductive. In Chapter 5, we'll discuss emotional seductiveness.

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• Mix well, and you have...spirit: Finally, we come to the person's spirit, or essence—and we're right back where we started. Spirit (to return to our original metaphor) is truly the luminescence of the precious gem, emanating from its many facets and shining its light out into the world. This essence includes how a person looks, thinks, and how he or she emotes, but it also includes factors that are less immediately discernible. Among these are a person's self-confidence and sense of self-worth, and intent toward others. We'll discuss spirit, and go into more detail about purpose and intent, in Chapter 6.

The good news is that by focusing on your own individual "elements"—the physical, intellectual, and emotional aspects that make up your essence—you can be seductive and charismatic yourself. Before we get into these elements of seductiveness, however, we need to talk about goal setting.

The Least You Need to Know

> There are other types of seduction betides sexual seduction, such as situations fnvoFvJf>g food, money, or other temptations.

V The difference between delicious seduction and in a lido us seduction Ires in the intent of the seducer and the resulting feelings of the person being ieduced.

> Whether the seduction is the good or bad variety, it can have fong-Jasting effects,

>- Seductiveness is a combination of physical, emotional, and intellectual factors that compose the person's spirit,

> Vou can learn to be seductive.

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