Focus Makes Her Heart Grow Fonder

Few things are more seductive to a woman than a man who focuses only on her. According to virtually all the women I spoke to, one of the biggest mistakes a man can make is not focusing on his date. It's easy to lose points here—but it's just as easy to gain them.

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize—Her!

For HIS Eyes OnJy

Guy*, nobody expects you to be blind or dead where other women art concerned. If a particularly attractive woman catches your eye, it's okjy to iook—but keep it brief and, above all, subtle. Whatever you do, don't let your attention be focused On another woman for very long. Your date will see it, and you'll have a hard row to hoe to make up for it

For HIS Eyes OnJy

Guy*, nobody expects you to be blind or dead where other women art concerned. If a particularly attractive woman catches your eye, it's okjy to iook—but keep it brief and, above all, subtle. Whatever you do, don't let your attention be focused On another woman for very long. Your date will see it, and you'll have a hard row to hoe to make up for it

One of the best ways you can show you're focused on the woman you're with is to use good eye contact. Really look at her as you speak and listen to her. Don't let your eyes roam all over the room looking at other people (particularly other women); zoom in on her.

I'm certain that you've heard women complaining about being with a man who looks all around the room and focuses on everything (or, more accurately, everyone) but his date. There's nothing worse than a man who jerks his head around to watch a pretty woman walk by.

Since the primary rule of being attractive and interesting to a woman is to be attracted and interested, this kind of behavior goes a long way toward keeping you out of the major leagues. I've even known women to get up and leave the table at a fine restaurant, rather than stay with a man who gawks at the other women in the room.

On the other hand, I've known men who seem to be completely oblivious to other women, and who give the impression that they wouldn't even give a naked supermodel a second glance when they're with a woman. This kind of man, sports fans, hits superstar status with the woman he's accompanying. It tells her that you appreciate beauty as much as the next guy, but that you find her more captivating than anyone else. You won't even have to say anything; your actions will speak loud and clear, and she will appreciate it more than you can imagine.

Making the Present Perfect (and Leaving History in the Classroom)

To be seductive to the woman you're with, you have to make her feel that, for now, she is the only woman who really matters to you. One of the quickest ways to shatter this feeling is to dwell on your past relationships in her presence.

Many women have told me that one of their greatest turn-offs is a man who talks too much about his ex-wife or former girlfriend. It doesn't even matter what he has to say about a past lover; simply talking about her is a losing proposition. If he gushes about how great she was, a woman will figure he's still hung up on her. If he grouses about how horrible she was, a woman will assume that he'll be saying the same thing about her in six months.

The time for discussing past relationships comes later in the relationship. For now, the woman you're with needs to feel as if she's the only woman in your world. There's no way to gain points by summoning ghosts from the past. Save the past for the future, and you'll prevent yourself from losing valuable points.

"But what do I do if my date asks me about a past relationship?" asked my client Rob. "Is she just setting me up?" Hardly. If your date asks you such a question, she's trying to get to know you better (and see how well you've handled yourself in other relationships). Here's how to handle questions about your past that not only won't lose you any points, but may even gain you a few:

• Relate some positive aspects of the old relationship, without sounding as if you're still carrying a torch.

• Even if the old relationship didn't end on the best of terms, find something positive that you can honestly say about it.

• If she wants to know why you broke up, focus on describing the things you could have done better, and don't provide a laundry list of your ex's shortcomings. You'll appear much more evolved in your new lady's eyes, and you might even gain a better understanding of your place in the old relationship in the process.

• If, on the other hand, her questions begin to seem like a cross-examination, and they're making you uncomfortable, you're not obligated to keep providing answers. (You might take note of her grilling as an early warning sign. Pay attention to your gut reaction.) Tactfully let her know you'd rather go on to other subjects—that you're much more interested in the present, and in her.

Whatever you say or don't say about the past, your goal is to make it clear to the woman you're with how glad you are that you are with her—right here, right now.

Ask the Love Coach

Throughout history, women have been won by fine words. The story of Cyrano de Bergerac illustrates this point The truth ii, everyone loves to hear words that reach deep inside and touch the soul, but few of us are skilled poets. No matter. What ii important is that the WQldi corny from deep within, and that they reflect your honest thoughts and emotions. A simple "I like your smile," spoken from the heart, will be more powerfully seductive to a woman than all of Shakespeare's sonnets, repeated from memory.

Ask the Love Coach

Throughout history, women have been won by fine words. The story of Cyrano de Bergerac illustrates this point The truth ii, everyone loves to hear words that reach deep inside and touch the soul, but few of us are skilled poets. No matter. What ii important is that the WQldi corny from deep within, and that they reflect your honest thoughts and emotions. A simple "I like your smile," spoken from the heart, will be more powerfully seductive to a woman than all of Shakespeare's sonnets, repeated from memory.

Make Her Feel Fascinating

Make Her Feel Fascinating

For HIS Eyes Only

Guys, a woman want you to let her know where she stands with you. If you're out with her and you're genuinely interested in seeing her again, let her know. This is not the time to play g^mes. After all, she probably has other pursuers, so you want to make sure you're in the running. If you're not interested in going out with her again, don't lead her on,

For HIS Eyes Only

Guys, a woman want you to let her know where she stands with you. If you're out with her and you're genuinely interested in seeing her again, let her know. This is not the time to play g^mes. After all, she probably has other pursuers, so you want to make sure you're in the running. If you're not interested in going out with her again, don't lead her on,

In all of the studies and surveys I conducted, the number-one biggest dating turn on for women was, "A man who shows genuine interest in me." A woman absolutely loves it when she senses that you find her fascinating. You can demonstrate your interest in several ways. Again, this is an excellent chance to win points. Beyond all thoughts of a game, however, you may well be setting the course for a whole new relationship here, so pay attention to details. Here's what you should do:

• Listen to her and ask questions. Ask her to tell you about everything from her greatest accomplishments or her best qualities to how her day was or what she did last weekend. As she's telling you about herself, listen closely, and ask more questions where appropriate. Not only will you be letting her know that you are really interested in her, you might even find more about her that you like and can relate to. Remember: To be interesting interested.

• Be a gentleman. First off, most women still like it when you open doors for them. In recent years, there's been some confusion about this. What it boils down to is this: Good manners are never sexist. Beyond the courtly gestures, being a gentleman means displaying consideration for her comfort and well-being. Pay attention to her physical comfort: Is she cold? Does she need something from the waiter?

• Make her feel at ease. She needs to feel that if she accidentally knocked over her water glass, or dropped her spoon on the waiter's foot, you wouldn't act as if she'd committed some terrible blunder. Remember, she may be every bit as nervous and self-conscious as you, particularly if you're in elegant or stuffy surroundings. Put her at ease, even make her laugh—and your score will go through the roof.

• Touch her in a tender, caring way. Touching can be a sticky topic to figure out. Is it okay to touch? How much touching is too much? Once you're on a date, it's not only okay, it's a turn on if you touch her occasionally. Touch her when you're talking to her, as you're walking to the car together, walking her to her door. Be careful not to touch in an overtly sexual or predatory manner; just be subtle and affectionate. (We'll go into this subject in more detail in later chapters.)

Never make a promise to a woman if you have no intention of keeping iL it's very disappointing when a man you like pnornijes to call and he doesn't, if you're nut intireited in going out with her again, be polite, let her know you enjoyed the date-but don't lead her On, (And if you are interested, and promised her you'll call, do it, for goodness sake IJ

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