Forget the Strong Silent Approach Open Up

For many years, the ideal man was portrayed in movies and television shows as the strong, silent type. Men learned that they weren't supposed to show any feelings. Guys, it's time you taught that silent dude to talk! After all, a woman needs to know she's attractive and interesting to her date. In that respect, we're not that different from you men. And we're also every bit as curious about you as you are about us.

Of course, I realize you guys can feel pretty uncomfortable letting your date know what you're like below the surface. There's always that fear of rejection, and it's easier to face the rejection if you haven't put so much of yourself on the line. Unfortunately, if you don't put those feelings out there where your date can see them, you'll be ensuring that the rejection will happen.

So take a chance. You might get shot down sometimes, but eventually, your efforts will pay off. If you want to win, you've got to play. If you never play, you've already lost.

Never make a promise to a woman if you have no intention of keeping iL it's very disappointing when a man you like pnornijes to call and he doesn't, if you're nut intireited in going out with her again, be polite, let her know you enjoyed the date-but don't lead her On, (And if you are interested, and promised her you'll call, do it, for goodness sake IJ

Heart Brake*

Heart Brake*

You don't have to tell her your whole life story on the first date. That's not only inappropriate, it's a turn-off to most women. But do let her know a little about the fascinating (and seductive) being who lives below that powerful exterior. Here are some suggestions to win points with her:

• Initiate a conversation about hopes or fears by sharing with her some of your own dreads or desires. Of course, don't pick any weird ones on the first date, such as your desire to loll around naked with the Miss Universe finalists in a vat of green gelatin, or your fear that a meteor will come crashing into your home and destroy your priceless collection of celebrity dentures.

• Tell her about a happy, amusing, or touching memory from your childhood. But save the dramas and the traumas for serious heart-to-hearts later on in the relationship. Remember, she's not a therapist or a talk show host; your goal is to give her some insight into you—but you want it to be the type of insight that will encourage her to like you and to be glad she's with you.

• It's okay to talk about some of your accomplishments, but don't cross the line into boasting. Women are generally turned off by bragging. You'll win more points if you focus more on what makes you passionate or enthusiastic, and talk about your accomplishments in that context.

The whole idea is to allow her a glimpse of who you really are. You'll be giving her the encouragement she needs to open up to you, and even to like you. And even if your time together doesn't turn into a seductive experience, she'll leave with a good impression of you.

Ask the Love Coach

Marguerite describes a recent blind date as "a legend in hii own mind, an ugly memory in mine." Edward was an entrepreneur who had recently enjoyed a string of successes with his franchise companies, as weH 35 considerable media attention.

Ask the Love Coach

Marguerite describes a recent blind date as "a legend in hii own mind, an ugly memory in mine." Edward was an entrepreneur who had recently enjoyed a string of successes with his franchise companies, as weH 35 considerable media attention.

"Unfortunately," Marguerite groaned, "his ego was easily as large as his bank account. Ed spent most of the nigjit bragging about his awesome rags-to-richer story, his business 'conquests,' an J his Machiavellian tactics for becoming number one in his field. Not once did he ask me anything about myself or my work"

To say this man lost points with Marguerite it an understate my nt. As far as she was concerned, ht> was out of the game permanently. Nearly all of the women I surveyed cited a boastftil man as a major turn-off. If you spend your time listing all of your remarkable qualities and great achievements, you're telling a woman you haw; an ogO so large you can focus only on yourielf, No woman want* that, ihe wants to know about you—but she also wants you to show interest in her and ask her questions. A confident man doesn't need to shove all of his fine qualities in a woman's face-and confidence is a big part of seductiveness,

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