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• Don't forget that humor has a place in a healthy sexual relationship. In other words, lighten up! You already know that the first three times don't count. But no matter how many times you've made love, leave room in your sex life for the unexpected. That way, if the dog comes bounding into the room and jumps on the bed while you're engaged in a steamy caress, you can laugh about it and just go on with what you were doing (well, after you send the dog out of the bedroom and shut the door).

• Remember that it's not a race, but a journey—and getting there is half the fun. Many people, particularly men, tend to approach situations with specific goals in mind. While setting goals is essential in business ventures, temper that inclination in the bedroom. As we've said before, your only goal should be a mutually pleasurable lovemaking experience.

Easing into the Situation

Heart Brakes

AkohoJ On be an icebreaker for some people; in Jew closes it is a stimulant, and it can reduce inhibitions. But for many would-be loverj, it's too easy to crosi the fine from slightly stimulated to numb, because alcohol becomes a depressant after you've had a few drinks. Artd if it reduCei your inhibitions,, it can aTso wieak havoc on your judgment Remember that there is going to be a morning after, and don't do anything iexudlty white ytw'rc drinking frityov wouldn't do Sober.

Heart Brakes

AkohoJ On be an icebreaker for some people; in Jew closes it is a stimulant, and it can reduce inhibitions. But for many would-be loverj, it's too easy to crosi the fine from slightly stimulated to numb, because alcohol becomes a depressant after you've had a few drinks. Artd if it reduCei your inhibitions,, it can aTso wieak havoc on your judgment Remember that there is going to be a morning after, and don't do anything iexudlty white ytw'rc drinking frityov wouldn't do Sober.

So you've made your first move, and your partner has indicated that your overtures are welcome. What if you're still feeling a bit awkward, or you're nervous about making the next move? There are several ways to loosen up and ease into greater intimacy.

I want to share with you the story of Seth and Sara, a couple of octogenarians who got married back in the days when most women were still virgins on their wedding night. That first night, Seth took his bride into the bedroom and sat her on his lap. He began kissing and caressing her through her clothes, and continued to caress her until she had an orgasm. Then they talked and danced to the music on the Victrola, and had a little champagne, followed by more kissing and caressing. Eventually he began touching her under her clothes, and finally he began to slowly undress her. But they did not have penetration until much later that night.

What Seth did was to create a safe environment for Sara, and a feeling that the two of them had all the time in the world. There was no rushing toward a goal, no "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am." Seth made Sara know that her pleasure was very important to him. So Sara's introduction to sex was slow and gentle and exquisitely sweet—and, needless to say, even though they've been married for nearly 60 years, that woman still looks adoringly at Seth.

For HIS Eyes Only

While you may Chink thatSeth's actions to soothe the anxiety of his virgin wife Sara might take some of the sizzle away for him, just the opposite was true. Putting his dimax on the back burner just caused his sexual tensio-n to mount, ultimately creating a magnificent ofgasm. Deliberate^ building sexuai tension is a very seductive technique, both for the seducer and the peraon being seduced.

For HIS Eyes Only

While you may Chink thatSeth's actions to soothe the anxiety of his virgin wife Sara might take some of the sizzle away for him, just the opposite was true. Putting his dimax on the back burner just caused his sexual tensio-n to mount, ultimately creating a magnificent ofgasm. Deliberate^ building sexuai tension is a very seductive technique, both for the seducer and the peraon being seduced.

Whether or not this is your first time to have sex, if it is your first time with a new partner, it's going to take both of you some time to open up to each other. This is where seduction can become not only the lead-up to some pretty steamy sex, but a tool to help you both feel at ease. Just take it slowly and gently, and let your only goal be one of mutual delight. Even if you don't have a problem with nervousness, you can use some of the seductive suggestions below to help you get really ready:

• So...how'dyou make out last night? Why not have a good old-fashioned make-out session, complete with what used to be called "heavy petting," or "second base"? Or why not play around a little with "dry humping," in other words, sex with all your clothes on? Think back to when you were a teenager and sex was forbidden. Almost-but-not-quite "doing it" will help you get to know each other's bodies better, thereby increasing the level of trust between you.

• There's the rub. Even if you're not quite ready for a full body massage, giving each other a sensuous shoulder rub or back rub can help both of you relax and loosen up. Or try a foot massage. This is one of the most profoundly sensual experiences you can give each other. After all, your feet are just about the most sensitive parts of your body (they have over 7,000 nerve endings!), and a warm but firm caress by a loving partner, particularly on the soles of the feet, can be very erotic. Try it.

• Good clean fun. A warm, fragrant bath together, in a room lit with nothing but candles, can be one of the most relaxing and intensely erotic experiences you can create for each other. If you're still a little shy, make it a bubble bath with lots of bubbles, and you can let the bubbles fall away (or let your lover brush them away) gradually.

Wordplay

For most people, the word foreplay means certain acts that lead to sexual intercourse. Foreplay generally implies a greater level of intimacy than just kissing or holding hands, such as fondling each other'* genitals or having oral se*. But foreplay can mean different things to different people; for example, some people aren't comfortable with oral sex, but perhapi a bout of pasjionate kissing is their prelude to intercourse. If your foreplay doesn't end in infeercourse^or if it occurs some time after intercourse—what's important is that it is a mutually pleasurable experience.

It's very likely that once the two of you are relaxed and have begun opening up your senses to each other, the rest will come naturally. Whatever happens, the most important point is that you both enjoy the experience. Despite the popularity of terms such as foreplay, please keep in mind that there is no set script for you to follow. For example, if you end up satisfying each other manually or orally the first time, and don't even have intercourse, so what? If you begin with intercourse and don't have oral sex until much later, who cares? As long as you're both left with a feeling of delight, then your night to remember has been a success.

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