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One of the most hideous artifacts of the '70s—second only to polyester leisure suits—was the emergence (if not refinement) of the pickup line. The widespread resurgence of interest in matters metaphysical gave rise to the use of the cliche approach, "What's your sign?" By asking a prospective love interest "What's your sign?" the pursuer was attempting to identify him-or herself as a deep thinker, interested in much more than something as mundane as a simple date.

Well, it may have worked for about three days, twenty-odd years ago, but the pat oneliner has completely lost its effectiveness in modern romance. Nowadays, men and women alike are looking for something more than shallow attempts at cleverness. We want someone who is observant enough to perceive our value as a whole person, secure enough to acknowledge that value, and intelligent enough to understand what we feel is important. In short, we want to be around people who are three-dimensional, whose personalities have more depth than a one-liner can encompass.

On the odd chance that you're unsure of what I mean by a "line," I've listed a few examples of the things you never want to say to someone you've just met:

• "God, I bet you look good in a swimsuit/naked!"

• "If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?"

• "Hey, I like your outfit—I'd like it even more crumpled up on the floor next to my bed."

• He: "You look just like my third wife."

She: "And how many times have you been married?" He: "Twice"

The whole point of avoiding such corny one-liners (or, in the case of that last example, two-liners) is that you want to be perceived as a person of substance, and that you see a prospective partner as such a person, as well. At this point, you may be wondering how, with only a few seconds available to you, you can communicate so much? It's really not that difficult. The secret, if you will, lies in something we've mentioned before in this book:

• How you express that intent

For HIS Eyes Only

No matter how cfrop-dead gorgeous she may be, and no matter how attractive some of her phyiicaf attributes might be to you, remember to foeut on what makes her unique as a person. Whatever part of her you focos on wifl be the part you are teeing her you want most

For HIS Eyes Only

No matter how cfrop-dead gorgeous she may be, and no matter how attractive some of her phyiicaf attributes might be to you, remember to foeut on what makes her unique as a person. Whatever part of her you focos on wifl be the part you are teeing her you want most

Assuming a benevolent intent on your part, how do you convey your intent in an enticing manner? I'll answer that question with another one: When you first notice a person, what is it about him or her that first catches your eye? No, forget that. We want to focus on the entire person, remember? Okay, what is the second thing? Maybe the way that person speaks is particularly entrancing to you. Perhaps he or she is talking about a subject that you find particularly interesting. Zero in on something that makes this person different from all the other people in the room.

And no matter how attracted you are to someone's looks, remember that you're not going to focus on physical anatomy. After all, no matter how appealing a person's physical attributes may be, those attributes are more or less common to half the world's population. If you approach someone focused on physical appearance alone, you are saying that any one of the billions of individuals who share his or her gender and some of those same physical traits would be just as attractive to you right now. Hardly the basis for a fulfilling relationship, is it?

Your task, then, is to find some extraordinary, not overtly sexual trait about that person, and let him or her know you've noticed.

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