Seductive Is As Seductive Does

For HER Eyes Only

We've aM heard the saying that a woman should be "a lady in thii parlor and a whore in bed." The more modem version? A woman should be competent and sophisticated, with an element of the ultimate temptress lingering, just below the surface. It isn't broadcast, but he ¿Jways knows ft^s there.

For HER Eyes Only

We've aM heard the saying that a woman should be "a lady in thii parlor and a whore in bed." The more modem version? A woman should be competent and sophisticated, with an element of the ultimate temptress lingering, just below the surface. It isn't broadcast, but he ¿Jways knows ft^s there.

If you pay attention to the media nowadays, you probably assume that men think the most seductive women are 18 to 25 years old, wear as little clothing as possible, and have the inclination genetically implanted in their brains to hop into bed at the earliest possible opportunity. Such an assumption is not only frustrating and demeaning to most women, it is patently untrue.

There's an old joke in which a man states that the most important quality in his woman is that she be facing in his direction. Silly as this may seem, we women frequently forget that a man wants and needs Our attention. Focus on him; let him know that, at this moment, he's the most important thing in your world.

For HER Ey« Onfy

There's an old joke in which a man states that the most important quality in his woman is that she be facing in his direction. Silly as this may seem, we women frequently forget that a man wants and needs Our attention. Focus on him; let him know that, at this moment, he's the most important thing in your world.

So how does a woman have to behave in order to be considered alluring to men? Does her every action need to scream "yes" to everyone she's with? Hardly. Remember that a man, just like a woman, wants to feel valued and special. A woman who seems to be available to everybody she encounters may well be the object of his prurient fantasy, but not of his prolonged attention. A far more appropriate projection would be, "Perhaps.. .but only with you." To be truly seductive, such a statement would come from deep within her, rather than being tattooed across her forehead.

Focus, Focus, Focus!

The first element in female behavior that men consider alluring is the woman's ability (and desire) to focus her attention on him and him alone. I'm certain every woman knows what it's like to be talking with a man who seems to be paying as much attention to other women as he is to her: It doesn't feel very good. So why would we think that men like receiving the same treatment from us? Is it because they don't have the same feelings that we do? Of course not.

A Confidante...or the Town Tattler?

Trust is an important element in seductiveness, ft mea i*u knowing that howyour1 partner behaves around you accurately reflects what he or she actually thinki or feels. It doesn't mean agreeing with everything the other person says or does, but it does mean letting that person know that hii or htr well-being is a priority to you.

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Trust is an important element in seductiveness, ft mea i*u knowing that howyour1 partner behaves around you accurately reflects what he or she actually thinki or feels. It doesn't mean agreeing with everything the other person says or does, but it does mean letting that person know that hii or htr well-being is a priority to you.

Another element important to a man is his need to be able to trust the woman he's with. He needs to know that she is being honest with him, and that theories she tells her friends about him will be consistent with what she says to his face.

He needs to know that what he says to her in confidence will remain their shared secret. He wants to be sure that, if he shows her his more vulnerable side, it won't become an item for discussion around the coffee pot at the office.

This sounds simple enough, yet we women often damage that trust just by sharing someone else's confidence with him. We may think that we're letting him "inside" when we tell him about so-and-so's problems, but we're actually letting him know we can't keep a secret. So don't say anything that could be construed as gossip, or he will close up like a bear trap, and may never let you in again. Learn to be gentle and discreet in your descriptions of others, as gentle as you would want your man to be with you.

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