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• Now we know everything there is to know about one end of the uncomfortable emotion spectrum—ANGER.

• Time to learn about the other end—ANXIETY.

• Once we do this, we can MASTER each and every uncomfortable emotion there is, in between the two ends!

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ANXIETY Has Only TWO Possible Causes

CAUSES OF ANXIETY

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LOSS

The ONLY two sources of ANXIETY in the world are: LOSS - a stress coming from outside your boundary, and being low on CONFIDENCE (fear) - inside your boundary.

So, your Personal Boundary is your FIRST LINE DEFENSE against LOSS. However, if LOSS gets into you, it BELONGS to you and has changed form, into ANXIETY.

The thing people often pay less attention to is that the far more common cause is IN us—the fears we have (lack of CONFIDENCE).

CONFIDENCE actually STRENGTHENS our boundary against the specific attacker called

CAUSES OF ANXIETY

Confidence/Trust)

ANXIETY

LOSS

CAUSES OF ANXIETY

Let's say that I have a LOSS coming in—a large bill in the mail (loss of money), and I am not very confident about how money works. I can't even balance a checkbook. What will I feel? ANXIOUS!

But what if I have a great deal of CONFIDENCE about how money works. Maybe I am trained as a tax attorney and a large bill comes in. Even if I don't have any money at the time, I will NOT BE ANXIOUS, because I know I can generate more whenever I want!

CAUSES OF ANXIETY

• Did you know that at one point, Donald Trump's NET WORTH was negative 2 billion dollars? Did he care? Did he fret? Well, not much.

• The bottom line (no pun intended) is that LOSS and CONFIDENCE are matter and antimatter. They cancel each other out in a puff of smoke, and whichever one is bigger, WINS.

The ONLY THREE Possibilities For Anxiety

OPTIONS FOR ANXIETY

ANXIETY

Impulsiveness

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including helplessness, hopelessness, worry, complaint, regret, and a "poor me" attitude including helplessness, hopelessness, worry, complaint, regret, and a "poor me" attitude

Anxiety is not good or bad. Just like Anger, it is a SIGNAL. It tells you something is wrong and needs to be done.

When we are anxious, we can:

Be IMPULSIVE or AVOIDANT, which is the PASSIVE way to let anxiety run your body.

Be a VICTIM and think like one. A destructive decision (WIN/LOSE) of how to think with your anxiety—carrying with it helplessness, hopelessness, worry, complaint, regret and all the anxiety symptoms of DEPRESSION (this is the psychological link between depression and anxiety).

FINALLY, the ONLY WAY OUT of problems of ANXIETY, IMPULSIVENESS, AVOIDANCE or VICTIM-IDENTITY is through COURAGE; a WIN/WIN, constructive way to think with anxiety before acting.

Continue reading here: Impulsiveness And Avoidance The Passive Options For Anxiety

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