Codependence

CODEPENDENCE--a struggle with a winner and loser

EMOTION IDEAS DECISIONS (MAJORITY)

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EMOTION IDEAS DECISIONS (MAJORITY)

INDEPENDENCE AGAIN

When two people become "stuck" in intimacy, they are seduced by the illusion of doubling the size of their boundary (success), resources and imaginary, instantaneous personal growth, but also have lost the boundary between each other, and with it, the power to say "NO" or tolerate hearing "NO" from each other.

When this happens, they find it hard to return to INDEPENDENCE and still have a relationship. COMMITMENT is missing from the system.

Usually, the natural history of such a relationship is for one person to "bully" the other, until most resources are gathered in their corner of the "shared" boundary, and finally, to eject the other.

Essentially, as an immature system and by definition, CODEPENDENCE is a WIN/LOSE situation.

Continue reading here: Psychological Trauma Damage To The Boundary

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