An example of a simple 2-on-2 approach (ASF): Hi my friend isn't from here (introduce friend) so how do you guys know each other? You can also use this to approach a larger group. So how does everyone know everyone else? Yeah, that line is great especially when the truth comes out and the guy that THOUGHT he was here on a date finds out he's only HANGING OUT with the girl he wants and she declares herself free for your picking
An example of a pattern-like approach (ASF): I'm sure that you, like me, have had some really interesting experiences in your life. You know experiences that were incredibly fascinating and absorbing, like maybe when you were a kid and you went to a museum and you just got lost in wonder and delight at what you were seeing. If you were to share a memory about one of your most interesting experiences, a person you met perhaps, or a place you've been, or something you've learned that still holds a deep interest for you, what would it be?
Another pattern-like approach. Odious, ASF: Excuse me (to get her to stop) I just wanted to say thank you.
Her curiosity bells just went DING. She'll almost inevitably ask why, though it is ok if she doesn't. Move into standard mirroring and rapport building techniques as you continue
Have you ever had one of those days where, you find yourself feeling sort of aloof you're not really happy, but not really sad either you just feel like your adrift. Then suddenly you find you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?
She will almost surely smile more at this point, or give some degree of positive response.
So, I just had to thank you for brightening up my day Though, you know it would be a shame if this is the last time I'll see that wonderful smile what's your name?
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