These come under the heading of shooting yourself in the foot . You make your point but then you take it back by the use of a small mouth-shrug or eye-roll or shoulder-shrug of apology It's that endearing but oh-so-fatal normative influence at work again, with your desire to be liked overruling your desire to have gravitas and make a serious impact
Denial gestures aren't only prompted by the pressure of a lie, but they do create the impression that everything you've just said was not strictly true You can try this one at home but only if you have a death wish: next time your partner asks you if you love him or her, say 'yes' but then follow it with a swift eye-roll or shrug .
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