Eye rolling is often analyzed as a natural way to stimulate certain parts of the brain. Unfortunately, though, the direction of the eyes might act as a turnoff to your audience
I By looking upward and straight ahead you'll probably find it easier to discover your inner script when you're giving a speech or a formal talk, but the advantages of this gesture are completely outweighed by the disadvantages as you'll look pompous or scared or disconnected from your audience I Rolling your eyes upward is a straightforward insult to the person you're speaking to, as it signals impatience and irritation The message you're sending is that you have to look heavenward to ask for patience in dealing with them It's the visual form of a sigh I Your direction of gaze will tend to signal that's where you'd rather be. So if you keep looking at the door when someone's talking, or gazing at other people who walk by, you'll imply you'd rather leave or at least be talking to someone else I There are claims that lifting your eyes to either side will suggest either lying or telling the truth Some psychologists claim there's no proof for this theory, but I've studied tapes of famous liars and also monitored people on training courses and I feel that this idea holds water I'll deal with it at more length in the chapters on reading other people, but keep in mind that if you're being put on the spot and you lift your eyes up and to your left you'll seem to be recalling the truth However by lifting them up and toward your right you might seem like a liar
I Glancing away or down at a key point in your dialogue could also make you look dishonest or deceitful Most people feel their eyes really are the mirrors of their soul and there's a very strong desire to hide them when you're being economical with the truth I By keeping your eyes diverted on more of a long-term basis you could look either evasive and shifty or shy If you drop your gaze when someone looks at you, but then raise your eyes to hold their gaze, you could look like a flirt, though! I An eye-block gesture is when you do a long blink, appearing to signal you want the speaker to shut up I Similarly, eye-cutoffs occur when you close your eyes for a longer period of time than a blink, usually signaling that you want to remove yourself from the situation or delete what you're seeing or hearing I Eye-flashing is that very direct, meaningful look you might throw, usually to your partner when you want to leave a party and he or she has just ordered another drink. I Eye-puff is when you widen your eyes to register surprise or shock
I Eye-stutters are when your blink-rate becomes irregular, which will seem to signal confusion I The accelerated blink. You'll know when you've been quick blinked at because it's another signal of irritation or impatience If someone asks you to do something for them and you really don't want to, it's more assertive to explain your reasons than to agree using a volley of fast blinks It's a sign that your adrenalin's pumping, which is in turn a sign of suppressed anger or irritation. Keep your blink rate fixed to normal, and don't use your body language to drop hints
I No blinking. Of course it's impossible to stop yourself from blinking altogether but I have studied some people who seem to have put their blinks on hold for an extraordinary length of time . Coincidentally, they have all been criminals and conmen who seemed to think a wide-eyed gaze would make them look more honest. Not blinking takes a lot of effort and you do need to ask yourself why someone would go to all that trouble unless it was with the intention of deceiving
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