How To Do Weddings And Parties

Hell should freeze over before you allow yourself to get drunk at any social event organized by your partner's friends or family . Being "the outsider" is a role that can stick for years, at the very least until another member of the group pitches up with a new partner who is undeniably worse than you No matter how well integrated you feel you should always keep the thought in mind that you are penetrating your partner's group and therefore contain any "leading" behavior until you're back with your own pack .

Stay marginally more low key and low status with your body language at social events, and display good manners with your partner at all times

The secrets to good wedding and party body language are:

I Look genuinely happy when you arrive, as the entire room will be casting their beady eyes in your direction. Keep in mind that any big family gathering will always include several elderly relatives, people suffering in silence, or those on the edge—waiting for their waters to break, for example . Your weaned-on-a-pickle face won't gain you any Brownie points when you follow that lot into church I Listen, don't speak . The core skill of any social function is to produce active listening signals and use them on everyone. Eye contact, nodding, head-tilts, mirroring... all you need to do is to prompt people with open questions and then go into full-attention mode

I Never become overcongruent . Exaggerated niceness will offend as it looks phony and patronizing . Just because someone is either elderly and/or drunk doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to them as though they're an adult I Act like a royal. When members of the royal family go on visits they have an assistant running beside them to whisper appropriate bits of information to them about each person they will be meeting Your partner should be pressed into service for this duty, enabling you to begin conversations with lines like: "Ah, Caroline, aren't you the aunt who got into the finals of The Weakest Link four years ago?" and so on

Continue reading here: Greeting your own family

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