Conclusion

Women use body language as a means to an end. A woman's goal is to have you approach her. On the other hand, she may wish to send a message of repulsion. In a relationship, women take the first crucial step by sending appeals to men to approach them. You must take the next step. Body language as it relates to attraction is very strong initially, but women will not continue to flirt forever. Over time, if the hint is not taken, she will back away from signaling, fearing that you are either taken...

Pigeon Toes

When a woman turns her toes inward it suggests interest. It is referred to as tibial torsion anatomically. It is a gesture that displays submissiveness and can show that a woman is smitten in your company. She is shrinking up her body and creating a less threatening profile. In contrast, there is the military posture, in which the toes turn outward and the hands are held behind the back. If you see a woman in pigeon toes, you can be sure she is open to an advance. Just monitor what effects your...

The Peekaboo Game

This technique can be used by both men and women. Peek-a-boo is played in much the same way as kids play it, in a slightly more sophisticated manner. You can do this across a room with another woman by using objects such as menus, drinking glasses, or with people walking by. This game, if done properly, will function to arouse women. It teases them. It is as if the eyes, when finally revealed, are made better by their absence. Two people who are attracted to one another often do this at a...

Eye Games

If the woman reciprocates your face scans, then you should feel free to approach her. If she adds a couple of smiles and some other signs of interest you should have even more confidence in her attraction. As you approach a woman initially, be sure to catch her eyes. If she scans your body up and down and forms a small smile then she is sizing you up in a good way. This final scan before you approach is essentially going to represent her first impression of you...

Objects As Symbolic Closeness

If you decide that you want to move into her personal space then you must move fairly deliberately. You might also throw in brief eye contact followed by lowered eyes. Don't be afraid to look at her to give her the idea that you are interested. You can even hold this gaze a little longer than what is normally comfortable, but avoid staring. Keep a symmetrical smile and open hands and you'll want to speak positively and warmly. If you toss in a smile every once in a while you will show her that...

On Cornering

A common mistake committed by men is to block women in. It occurs when someone uses their arms and body to block someone against a wall, a bar, or even into a corner. This may be done either partially, by using part of an arm or part of the body, Hopefully Scarlett's actions are done in a flirtatious manner and quite likely this is so. She is making a playful face. However, Dave doesn't seem to appreciate being blocked in and up against the bar. Scarlett is playing a dominant role here which...

Appearing Relaxed And Calm

Men who have their affairs in order are calm and relaxed. They are at ease and aren't jumpy. In social situations, they appear to be in control. Their arms and hands are in front of them and they aren't fidgeting. Some body postures you should avoid are raised shoulders as if cold or scared, a wrinkled forehead, tightened facial muscles or eyes that appear wide open. Less dominant males have their eyes open wide, looking around the room nervously and appearing like they don't belong. The more...

Whispering

Whispering or talking quietly to someone else can often force people to move into your intimate body space. If a woman whispers to you, you can take this to mean that she wants you to come closer and is attracted to you. If however, she does not like it when you whisper then this can be taken as a signal of disinterest. Leaning in to speak to someone else should yield a similar response from them. It is also important to monitor her response after the whisper. Does she move back to her original...

Gazing Instead Of Staring

The best gaze patterns when talking to someone are those which are composed of short looks with intervals of three to five seconds in between. You may increase this to every two to three seconds as interest develops. Gazing is another special talent perfected by women and not easily accomplished by men. A gaze is a non-intrusive gander toward the opposite sex whereas a stare is a full on assault. Gazing requires a projection of emotion onto the subject at whom the gaze is directed. A man who...

Riff

This is a very overt gesture by Scarlett. She has taken on a dominant role by initiating touching. This could be intimate or fleeting and flirty depending on duration. Intimate would normally be defined as prolonged touching except in the case where sympathy was being offered. Context plays an important part in determining the meaning of body language. If Dave had just disclosed that his grandmother recently passed away, then touching would be to ease pain, but if they were in a normal or...

The Annoying Alpha

Alpha Body Language

Some men might become overly concerned about coming across as the main alpha male. However, for most men, this simply won't happen and neither is it necessary. For example, an alpha male will be the one to take up the most amount of space, really spread himself out, and appear loose and relaxed. He might also become boisterous and order people about. In reality, these men are simply making up for a lack of true confidence and are applying a mask to their personality. Taking up more room than...

Eye Blink Rate

If a woman likes you she will exhibit a high rate of blinking. When we blink we add moisture to the eye with the help of tears allowing us to see better. This explains the reason for blinking more often during periods of attraction. We don't want to miss a thing This is just one possible explanation for a high blink rate though. High blink rates can also be attributed to dry air, stress, or any multitude of other reasons. For this to be an indication of attraction it is best to look at the full...

She Wants To Kiss

Women tend to touch their mouths more when they are aroused. This may indicate that they have something to say (depending on the signal) or they may even want to kiss you. Another good indication of the desire to kiss involves forming a pouting gesture. It is done by compressing the lips together. A good kiss strategy is as follows First kiss gently on the lips with mouth closed. Then slowly make the kiss more firm but still keep the mouth closed. Then part your lips slightly. At this point you...

Pictorial On Personal Space

Intimacy Picture Body

Dave is making another poor approach here by ignoring body positions and levels. He has cornered Scarlett into the booth. She is showing that she is not impressed by folding her arms across her body. She is trying to act passively confrontational by avoiding eye contact. Dave should even the planes of their bodies and resume positive dialogue as Scarlett isn't receptive to his current advances. The tables have been turned in this situation. This illustrates the importance of body positions and...

She Wants To Dance

If she is dancing in her chair, she will probably dance with just about anyone who asks her. If she has a smile and looks to be enjoying the music or is smiling and looking to the dance floor, take a chance and ask her to dance. Another appeal to take motion is when someone has their hands on the front of their thighs near their knees in a sprinter position. This indicates that the person is ready to leave. If the dialogue that accompanies the gesture is about changing locations, then you...

The Rule Of Four

The rule of four states that in order to be sure that another person is unequivocally displaying nonverbal sexual interest, four separate positive signals must be present simultaneously and they must be directed at you. A person who is simply sexually aroused might display one or a great variety of cues, but they might be generally directed toward a room and not at anyone specifically. Does Scarlett s hair really need fixing Grooming and preening are both positive signals and so too is the hair...

Body Rocking

There are plenty of subtle cues we can use to indicate our intentions and thoughts to others. It's a fun game to play with people, especially when the conversation is fairly idle or one-sided in their favor. Really, it's for people who continue to chat forever when you are in fact more interested in leaving to go someplace else. Rocking is meant to outline the movement your body naturally does as it prepares to move in another direction. What you do is shift your weight from one foot to the...

Making A Good Impression

Often, the lifelong impression we associate with others occurs after the first two minutes of interacting. Dressing for status is a good idea. Any woman interested in a long-term relationship will be looking for a man who has resources. One way to show this to the world is to dress the part. In all likelihood, she will analyze everything that you do based upon the idea she has made in her first impression. If you dress nicely then she will take you to be confident and if you dress for comfort,...

Teasing And Oppo Site Body Language

Opposite side in order to be on the proper side of your open gestures. Playing hard to get can sometimes put you back in the driver's seat with women. For example, you could display a carefree attitude by slouching lower in a seat, opening up your posture, and taking up more space than necessary to demonstrate dominance. This may excite certain women since you are displaying as a typical alpha male, but if you go overboard, it will turn women off. You can also tease by showing feigned...

Info

Drinking in unison and in between topics of conversation is a positive sign of interest. It is an overall part of the mating dance. Imitative body language is a way to establish a connection and, for both the man and woman, a way to test compatibility. It's a way for their bodies to connect without touching at all. Playing with a piece of jewelry can be particularly seductive depending on how it is done. When a woman becomes aroused all her senses become heightened. This is partially why...

Crossing And Blocking

If a woman is disinterested, her legs will be crossed away from you. She may also show other defensive gestures, such as crossed arms and placing a hand over her genitals to protect them. She can also show disinterest by leaning away from you and not displaying her neck (with her head down facing you). If she is leaning toward you, she may still show disinterest by supporting her head in her hand and placing an arm so as to block her body from you. Another signal of disinterest occurs when she...

Steepling

When a person steeples (forming a bridge with the fingers meeting at the fingertips) they are in essence saying I know something you don't. If you are to be completely honest (something that women want) you should not seem as though you are holding information away from them. So, in essence, do not steeple Steepling is a great move for bosses and poker players though. The higher you show your steeple the more confident you are about your position. Some people even steeple so high that they have...

The First Touch

The first touch is often hand to hand. To initiate this first touch you could begin by walking side by side with arms at the sides. You can then accidentally touch the back of her hand with yours. If she does not remove her hand by placing it in a pocket or across her body or use it to hold a bag then you may take this as a pretty good sign that she is interested in holding your hand. One study showed that women are far more likely to show the first fleeting touch. So if you are patient and...

Open Posture Open Mind

Keeping an open body position is important to demonstrate a willingness to court since dating requires an open mind. Palms up, arms uncrossed and legs not crossed together represent a position of openness and acceptance. Having an open body is like having an open mind. Throughout an interaction your arms should be moving in synchrony with what you are saying. Your legs should be parallel or slightly apart, though generally one leg crossed over the other and bent at 90 degrees is acceptable as...

The Head Tilt

Women who are really attracted to you, will tilt their head forward and to the side (at about 45 degrees) when they speak with you. Any neck exposure is meant to display attraction. The neck is one of the most private areas of the body because it is so There are two prominent signals of attraction in this photograph. The most obvious is that Scarlett is crossing her legs higher than she normally would. Her right leg is crossed high over her knee with one leg firmly rested on the other. The...

On Inviting Women In

It is normally perceived as a threat to approach a woman from her side or, if you are driving an automobile, her blind spot. Thus, avoid sitting or standing directly alongside a woman, especially one you don't know very well. Women feel more comfortable if they are approached from the front because they can better assess the situation and are not taken by surprise. After this initial approach, and if the woman begins to relax, the man can then move to the side to continue the conversation. If,...

Taking Up Space

Avoid getting blocked out of position when speaking to someone. Often a girl or guy friend of hers or a competing male will try to usurp your target's attention by placing themselves between you and her. If this happens, try moving the target to another location if possible. If a woman allows you to be blocked out repeatedly or purposely, then she is sending you a signal of disinterest. There are plenty of ways to avoid getting blocked out and they depend on the location you find yourself in....

An Introduction

I'm excited to be the one to share this wonderful tool with you The ability to read body language will be useful to you for the rest of your life and is definitely not something you will pass over or forget. Body language occurs continuously and in every social situation making it ubiquitous. When a student of body language gets their first dose of knowledge it is very exhilarating. It opens up a whole new world, one that was always there, but otherwise deeply buried in our minds. With a...

Haptic Communication Touch

Haptic communication is the communication that occurs by touch. It is very important to know how to touch because it can be construed differently under different circumstances and can result in different outcomes. Touch can be used as an extension of friendship or as a full on assault depending on how it is delivered. The method and particulars of the touch also have meaning. For example, a hug or handshake that last a bit longer than ordinary can signify intimacy or compassion. Or comparably,...

The Room Encompassing Glance

A woman might look across the room in an encompassing glance. She will do so simply to assess the situation. She does this by casting her eyes around the room for 5 to 10 seconds. If she spots someone she is interested in (hopefully you) she will take a second look. This second glance is directed toward a specific man. It will be short and she will rotate her head 25 to 40 degrees to the side then look away (usually downward) within about 3 seconds. Women usually continue this behavior until...

The Forehead Bow Body Language

The forehead bow is a position of submissiveness. It occurs when a woman lowers her head, then looks up at a man from under her eyebrows. It's a sort of come hither look and could occur while eating dinner or while reading. It is akin to a full body bow which is used around the world to show respect. In contrast, the opposite could occur where the head is tilted backwards and a downward gaze is cast upon the other person. It is best pictured as looking down one's nose at someone and comes off...

Touching And Language With Coaches

An interested woman will make a point to get closer to you. She may even get so close as to accidentally touch you. What she is trying to do is give you the idea that she is interested. Touching is often infrequent and almost always indicates interest especially when done by women. Accidental touching can be one of the most basic and risk-free signs a woman can give. People have their pride at stake and want to risk as little as possible when it comes to vulnerable situations such as dating....

Shoulder Shrugs

This gesture is performed normally by a person with a soft side. It is given by someone who is prepared to let their guard down to someone else. It can be as subtle as a small lift in the shoulders or could be a full shrug and hold of the shoulders. It normally happens very quickly though and can occur in accompaniment with an eyebrow flash as well as eye contact. This form of gesturing is often unconscious so it makes for an accurate indicator of interest. Other shrugging movements indicating...

Full Body Steeple

If a woman shows this posture she is demonstrating dominance which often means that she is also not interested. She is sending a powerful signal of non-attraction to men by displaying this strong sign of dominance. In effect, she is saying that she is just fine by herself. She does not need help or companionship. If you are wise, you will back off at least until you can convince her to let her arms down and hence open up. However, if she lets them down only to bring them back up after you start...

Rotation Of The Pelvis

While sitting or standing, a woman may subtly roll her pelvis. She may also move her arms and shoulders back so as to make her breasts become more obvious. Upon interest, her chest will seem to protrude further and her posture will become more proper. If a woman is really turned on, she will hold all of her hair in her hands, and then place it on top of her head. She will then tilt her head around to face you while looking over a raised shoulder. You can probably visualize this image in your...

Available Women

Available women and non-available women (those in a relationship) all display the same types of body language when they find someone attractive. This is why body language is so universal it occurs regardless of whether or not a woman is in a relationship with someone else and therefore reflects a woman's true attraction toward all men. Women who are not in a relationship, however, will display certain gestures and actions that non-available women typically will not. It is important to watch for...

Working On Your Selfconfidence

Are you comfortable in your own skin Are you okay with your own thoughts These are some of the key issues that will arise when it comes to attracting a mate. Taking the time to think about who exactly you are is a key part of becoming attractive to someone else. Being honest with yourself is also a factor here. It is apparent to others when you are unsure of your own beliefs, or further to this, aren't particularly accepting of yourself. Great confidence comes from examining and accepting your...

Avoiding Power Plays

Or entirely, in which case a woman is physically blocked into a corner with the positioning of the torso. This has the effect of making the woman feel trapped, frightened or even angry. Blocking and cornering can have a profound effect on how a conversation evolves especially if this is during a first impression. Dave is doing something that no one should. He is blocking Scarlett in and cutting off her exits. In this photograph, he is completely blocking her in, but it could very well happen...

Echoing And Mirroring

When a woman is interested in you she will do as you do. She will echo or mirror your body movements. An echo is when a body position is taken by a man and a woman follows and adopts the same posture. This may happen some time after the posture has occurred - hence the name, echo. Mirroring on the other hand, occurs when a posture is adopted simultaneously by both people. There may also be a slight variation in the posture. This has the same effect as echoing though. If a woman really likes...

Signals Of Female Interest

Often when attracted to one another, men and woman display in a submissive manner. They will show meekness and harmlessness and the desire to form bonds with people will become more obvious. This has the effect of breaking down territorial borders that people often have and allows individuals to get closer to one another. If you are to get close to a woman, you must let down your daily guard. You must not show dominance and superiority. A man looking to get close to a woman should act more...

Showing Wrist

Wrist displays can be a strong signal of sexual interest when done by a woman. A woman might show you her wrist by pulling up a long-sleeved shirt, rotating her wrist upward, or playing with her ear or the side of her face. The wrist is another vulnerable area of the body and displays of this sort are quite similar to those of the neck. With wrist displays the palms are made more visible to the male while she is in conversation with him and occurs by rotating the wrists upward. It could be...

Hiking The Skirt

Another rather obvious signal of interest is the skirt hike. When Another rather obvious signal of interest is the skirt hike. When a woman interested will finger play with bottom of skirt. done specifically toward a man of interest. She will make sure that he is the only one to notice and not someone else. What a woman will do is slightly raise the skirt to show a little extra leg. If a man she is not interested in happens to spot this maneuver, she will quickly force the skirt back down and...

Pictorial On Showing Disinterest

Eye Contact Body Language

Both Mark and Julie are showing closed and disinterested body postures. Both have arms crossed and are guarded and both are looking away from each other. Clearly, there is no interest by either of them._ Both Mark and Julie are showing closed and disinterested body postures. Both have arms crossed and are guarded and both are looking away from each other. Clearly, there is no interest by either of them._ Julie isn't taking well to Mark. Her left hand is placed in between her legs so as to hide...

Eyeball Assault

Women are especially turned off by men who commit eyeball assault. Do not be one of those men. Try not to be too aggressive with your looks. Women are usually not attracted to this. Try to resist doing the old up and down no matter what she is wearing. She may be wearing sexy clothing to get attention but any man who is high in social rank will not fall head over heels for any woman, no matter how alluring. Good looking women are fairly common and easy to come by. What is rare is a nice...

Body Language A Conclusion

Because men and women are risking a large amount of pride on their interactions with each other, they often send conflicting signals. This serves to protect them from damage caused by rejection. You should never ever use verbal language to pose the question of the degree of attraction a woman has for you, especially early in a relationship. The most significant reason for not asking is because it's completely unnecessary. It also demands direct and often risky verbal language in return. You now...

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Body Language Body Positions

Julie is either disinterested or cold as her arms and legs are crossed. Mark is also partially closed off with his leg crossed and his right arm forming a barrier. Mark should try to open up his body positions and see if he can elicit the same reaction from Julie. Scarlett is obviously bored, tired or just plain disinterested. When a woman is sexually attracted to a man, her body will be flooded with gratifying hormones that will prevent her from feeling tired when around you. Scarlett seems to...

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Mark is playing a little game in this photograph. He is teasingly showing Julie disinterest, which is a test to see if she will reciprocate with additional cues of interest. By looking over his shoulder he is showing that she isn't the center of attention. Julie is falling for the tactic by leaning toward Mark and extending her interest. Dating is a game of cat and mouse. Mark is taking control with this open body posture. Julie is interested in Mark as she is leaning in and is playing with her...

The Eyebrow Flash

When we first see someone we are attracted to, we give them a quick eyebrow flash. If the person of interest is attracted to you, they will return the flash. Watch out for this. This form of interaction is one of the most common in the human species even more so than the smile. This also means that it is an extremely good signal of sexual interest. If you have never noticed this before, don't be surprised as it only lasts about a fifth of a second It is hardly ever a conscious action, but it is...