Testing Closeness With Body Parts

You can use your arms and legs to indicate the desire to enter someone else's personal space. This is far better than using your whole body. By moving an arm closer to someone, you are in effect telling them that you want your whole body there but without being too forward and risking coming off as offensive. If a woman motions with her arms toward you, you are in good shape. It means she is comfortable with you and she may be interested in getting closer. You can also give her the opportunity to move into your space in the same way. As a rule, before entering the personal space of a stranger (closer than arm's reach), you will have at least made eye contact. To move any closer than this, a head nod at minimum to a simple greeting is in order. To move to the next level of proximity, a conversation should occur. As a rule, if no conversation has occurred, only very rarely will a woman tolerate any more intimacy.

Mark demonstrates a poor approach on a woman. He should have moved to the front of the chair where he would have been able to approach in plain sight. From this position, he has taken Julie by surprise and even if he could establish a dialogue it wouldn't likely go very far since she hasn't had time to assess whether or not there exists any attraction. He should have let her see him before randomly approaching her.

To get into a woman's personal space without being too forward, lend her a piece of clothing. If she gladly takes it, this can be used as a good indication that she is interested. If she refuses to take it then you may be wasting your time or else she may just be taking things slowly.

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