The Emotional Roller Coaster

One hot summer afternoon in 1894, Don Mateo D az, a thirty-eight-year-old resident of Seville, decided to visit a local tobacco factory Because of his connections Don Mateo was allowed to tour the place, but his interest was not in the business side. Don Mateo liked young girls, and hundreds of them worked in the factory. Just as he had expected, that day many of them were in a state of near undress because of the heat it was quite a spectacle. He enjoyed the sights for a while, but the noise...

The Cold Coquette

In 1952, the writer Truman Capote, a recent success in literary and social circles, began to receive an almost daily barrage of fan mail from a young man named Andy Warhol. An illustrator for shoe designers, fashion magazines, and the like, Warhol made pretty, stylized drawings, some of which he sent to Capote, hoping the author would include them in one of his books. Capote did not respond. One day he came home to find Warhol talking to his mother, with whom Capote lived. And Warhol began to...

Charisma and Seduction

Charisma is seduction on a mass level. Charismatics make crowds of people fall in love with them, then lead them along. The process of making them fall in love is simple and follows a path similar to that of a one-on-one seduction. Charismatics have certain qualities that are powerfully attractive and that make them stand out. This could be their self-belief, their boldness, their serenity. They keep the source of these qualities mysterious. They do not explain where their confidence or...

The Art of Charm

The insecurities and emotions it stirs up can often cut short a relationship that would otherwise be deeper and longer lasting. The Charmer's solution is to fulfill the aspects of sexuality that are so alluring and addictive the focused attention, the boosted self-esteem, the pleasurable wooing, the understanding (real or illusory) but subtract the sex itself. It's not that the Charmer represses Birds are taken with pipes or discourages sexuality lurking...

Baldassare Castiglione

Dream of the red chamber, translated by chi-chen wang surprised that BlackJade Therefore in my view when the courtier wishes to declare did not take offense at his love he should do so by his actions rather than by speech, for a man's feelings are sometimes more clearly re- thought over hie signif- vealed by . . . a gesture of respect or a certmn shyness tfan icance of the handkerchiefs by volumes of words. she was happy and sad by turns happy because Pao-yu read her innermost thoughts and sad...

The Eighteen Types

People of this type were once happy-go-lucky seducers who had their way with the opposite sex. But the day came when they were forced to give this up someone corraled them into a relationship, they were encountering too much social hostility, they were getting older and decided to settle down. Whatever the reason, you can be sure they feel some resentment and a sense of loss, as if a limb were missing. We are always trying to recapture pleasures we experienced in the...

Choose the Right Victim

Everything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey thoroughly, and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can fill a void, who see in you something exotic. They are often isolated or at least somewhat unhappy (perhaps because of recent adverse circumstances), or can easily be made so for the completely contented person is almost impossible to seduce. The perfect victim has some natural quality that attracts you. The...

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Create a False Sense of Security-Approach Indirectly If you are too direct early on, you risk stirring up a resistance that will never be lowered. At first there must be nothing of the seducer in your manner. The seduction should begin at an angle, indirectly, so that the target only gradually becomes aware of you. Haunt the periphery of your target's life approach through a third party, or seem to cultivate a relatively neutral relationship, moving gradually from friend to lover. Arrange an...

Madame Recamier

Women the contrast between reserve and seduction, and between the most devoted tenderness Interpretation. Madame Recamier's list of conquests became only more and a sensuality that is impressive as she grew older there was Prince Metternich, the Duke of ruthlessly demanding Wellington, the writers Constant and Chateaubriand. For all of these men consuming men as if they she was an obsession, which only increased in intensity when they were away from her. The source of her power was twofold....

Agreed said Hermes Examples of Natural Seducers

The'chiid b At OfynPpus As a child growing up in England, Charlie Chaplin spent years in dire told Zeus all that had poverty, particularly after his mother was committed to an asylum. In his happened. Zeus warned early teens, forced to work to live, he landed a job in vaudeville, eventually Hermes that henceforth he gaining some success as a comedian. But Chaplin was wildly ambitious, and propery and refrmn from so, in 1910, when he was only nineteen, he emigrated to the United States, telling...

The Feminine Dandy

When the eighteen-year-old Rodolpho Guglielmi emigrated from Italy to the United States in 1913, he came with no particular skills apart from his good looks and his dancing prowess. To put these qualities to advantage, he found work in the thes dansants, the Manhattan dance halls where young girls would go alone or with friends and hire a taxi dancer for a brief thrill. The taxi dancer would expertly twirl them around the dance once a son was born to floor, flirting and chatting, all for a...

The Hot and Cold Coquette

In the autumn of 1795, Paris was caught up in a strange giddiness. The Reign of Terror that had followed the French Revolution had ended the sound of the guillotine was gone. The city breathed a collective sigh of relief, and gave way to wild parties and endless festivals. The young Napoleon Bonaparte, twenty-six at the time, had no interest in such revelries. He had made a name for himself as a bright, audacious general who had helped quell rebellion in the provinces, but his ambition was...

The Tantalizing Object

Some time in the 1880s, a gentleman named Don Juan de Todellas was wandering through a park in Madrid when he saw a woman in her early twenties getting out of a coach, followed by a two-year-old child and a nursemaid. The young woman was elegantly dressed, but what took Don Juan's breath away was her resemblance to a woman he had known nearly three years before. Surely she could not be the same person. The woman he had known, Cristeta Moreruela, was a showgirl in a second-rate theater. She had...

Keys to Seduction

One of the great sources of frustration in our lives is other people's stubbornness. How hard it is to reach them, to make them see things our way. We often have the impression that when they seem to be listening to us, and apparently agreeing with us, it is all superficial the moment we are gone, they revert to their own ideas. We spend our lives butting up that the house belonged to a member of the wealthy and powerful Barmecide family. Shakashik approached the doorkeepers and solicited alms....

The Libertine Reader

Desired as a woman, and on some level cannot help but enjoy his love for her. Of course she struggles and resists, but that is only a sign that her emotions are engaged. (Indifference is the single most effective deterrent to seduction.) By taking his time, by making no bold moves even when he has the opportunity for them, he instills in her a false sense of security and proves himself by being patient. On what he pretends is his last visit to her, however, he can sense she is ready weak,...

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HONG AND EDNA H HONG tle if you wallow in your weakness, overplay your hand, you will be seen as angling for sympathy, or, worse, as pathetic. No, what works best is to allow people an occasional glimpse into the soft, frail side of your character, and usually only after they have known you for a while. That glimpse will humanize you, lowering their suspicions, and preparing the ground for a oft times practised towards deeper attachment. Normally strong and in control, at moments you let go,...

Howard V Hong And Edna H Hong

Therefore, the person who Then, a few weeks after their engagement, Johannes sent her a letter. Here is unable to write letters he described the state of his soul, and his certainty that he loved her. He dangerous seducer. spoke in metaphor, suggesting that he had been waiting for years, lantern in hand, for Cordelia's appearance metaphor melted into reality, back and either or, translated by forth. The style was poetic, the words glowed with desire, but the whole was delightfully ambiguous...

Robert Greene

You want by manipulating everyone's greatest weakness the desire for pleasure Seduction is the most subtle, elusive, and effective form of power. It's as evident in John F. Kennedy's hold over the masses as it is in Cleopatra's hold over Antony. Now, the author of the bestselling The 48 Laws of Pozver has written a handbook synthesizing the classic literature of seduction from Freud to Kierkegaard and Ovid to Casanova, with cunning strategies illustrated by the successes and failures of...

Enter Their Spirit

People are locked in their own worlds, making them stubborn and hard to persuade. The way to lure them out of their shell and set up your seduction is to enter their spirit. Play by their rules, enjoy what they enjoy, adapt yourself to their moods. In doing so you will stroke their deep-rooted narcissism and lower their defenses. Hypnotized by the mirror image you present, they will open up, becoming vulnerable to your subtle influence. Soon you can shift the dynamic once you have entered their...

Give Them Space to Fall The Pursuer Is Pursued

If your targets become too used to you as the aggressor, they will give less of their own energy, and the tension will slacken. You need to wake them up, turn the tables. Once they are under your spell, take a step back and they will start to come after you. Begin with a touch of aloofness, an unexpected nonappearance, a hint that you are growing bored. Stir the pot by seeming interested in someone else. Make none of this explicit let them only sense it and their imagination will do the rest,...

Examples of Charmers

In the early 1870s, Queen Victoria of England had reached a low point in her life. Her beloved husband, Prince Albert, had died in 1861, leaving her more than grief stricken. In all of her decisions she had relied on his advice she was too uneducated and inexperienced to do otherwise, or so everyone made her feel. In fact, with Albert's death, political discussions and policy issues had come to bore her to tears. Now Victoria gradually withdrew from the public eye. As a result, the monarchy...

The Masculine Dandy

In the 1870s, Pastor Henrik Gillot was the darling of the St. Petersburg intelligentsia. He was young, handsome, well-read in philosophy and literature, and he preached a kind of enlightened Christianity. Dozens of young girls had crushes on him and would flock to his sermons just to look at him. In 1878, however, he met a girl who changed his life. Her name was Lou von Salom (later known as Lou Andreas-Salom ), and she was seventeen he was forty-two. Salom was pretty, with radiant blue eyes....

Master the Art of the Bold Move

A moment has arrived your victim clearly desires you, but is not ready to admit it openly, let alone act on it. This is the time to throw aside chivalry, kindness, and coquetry and to overwhelm with a bold move. Don't give the victim time to consider the consequences create conflict, stir up tension, so that the bold move comes as a great release. Showing hesitation or awkwardness means you are thinking of yourself, as opposed to being overwhelmed by the victim's charms. Never hold back or meet...

Typology of the Anti Seducers

Anti-Seducers come in many shapes and kinds, but almost all of them share a single attribute, the source of their repellence insecurity. We are all insecure, and we suffer for it. Yet we are able to surmount these feelings at times a seductive engagement can bring us out of our usual self-absorption, and to the degree that we seduce or are seduced, we feel charged and confident. Anti-Seducers, however, are insecure to such a de- Count Lodovico then gree that they cannot be drawn into the...