Communication

Attraction Isnt A Choice

Chapter 1 Attraction Isn't A Choice An Open Letter From A Lonely, Beautiful Woman To Herself It seems like these days are all the same one guy after another. I guess I should consider myself lucky, but at the same time it's so frustrating to be me. My boss was flirting with me again today. It's starting to make me feel uncomfortable He'll come into my office for absolutely no reason and pretend he's letting me in on some kind of secret in the company. It's so obvious what he really wants. It's...

Two Steps Forward One Step Back

We don't realize how much we want the things we have, until we lose them, that is. How about making someone want something new, by giving it to them and then taking it away Sometimes a woman will be open and warm and other times, she'll be closed and cold. This can be because of all kinds of different factors how you're acting, how she's feeling, the setting you're in, what's on her mind, or what kinds of hormones are running through her body. I want to talk about a technique that I've found...

Turn Regular Conversation Into Flirtation

Because average guys are scared of drama and confrontation, all their conversations with women that they're attracted to are safe, agreeable, and BORING Conversation is another way that being willing to risk conflict sets apart Real Men from Wusses Real men aren't scared of flirting with a girl or teasing her. So heat up normal conversation into exciting edginess In Polite Conversation You In Attractive Conversation You Talk Like You Just Met Talk Like You're Old Friends Give Common Responses...

Avoid Boring Conversation

I got one letter recently where a guy was telling me that he had taken a girl out on a date, but that there wasn't any spark but he still felt attracted to the girl. He seemed to think that just because nothing obvious was BAD about the date that this girl should also feel attracted to him. (Maybe he thought that a few more uninteresting, boring dates would cause her to open her eyes and see the light.) These guys don't realize that you can't bore a woman into feeling attracted to you. You must...

Finding Hidden Patterns

Our amazing brains create meaning by finding patterns to make connections and associations. Just like Pavlov's dogs learning to connect the ringing of a bell with dinner time and drooling whenever hearing this sound, humans subconsciously learn to associate seemingly unconnected surface things with more important issues hidden underneath. Communication occurs anytime one person obtains meaning from another individual. Whether or not it's the meaning the sender meant to express, something has...

Balancing Ball Busting With Regular Conversation

It's important to balance Cocky Comedy with regular conversation. Keep in mind that Cocky Comedy and ball busting is actually teasing. It's supposed to be fun. Remember to use it as a spice and not the substance. Women don't want a guy who is sarcastic ALL THE TIME. If you rely on Cocky Comedy too much, you will come off insecure and immature. 1. Use the magic formula of COCKY FUNNY. Arrogance by itself is a turn-off to women. But arrogant humor that MAKES THEM LAUGH is a HUGE turn on. Make...

The Secret Language of Flirting and Sexual Chemistry

Most of what people refer to as 'chemistry' lies in the communication between two people. You'll notice that if a man starts a conversation in a completely serious and proper manner, i.e. there's nothing unusual about the way he communicates, there's unlikely to be chemistry between him and the woman he's boring. When we say there's chemistry between people, what we're really saying is that they're both flirting with each other. It only takes one person to flirt, but it takes two to have...

The Attitude Is Behind the Words

You want the most powerful pick-up line ever How about a simple Hi. I get dozens of emails asking, What's a good pick up line Typically, guys want the quick fix, the words, the magic bullet. The key to starting a conversation with a woman is your body language, facial expression, and voice tone. No magic pickup line is going to work if you're shaking so badly that you need to sit down to deliver the line. All guys want an approach that seems natural and friendly, gets her attention, but doesn't...

From The Mailbag

I am an entrepreneur and took the day off to study your book(s). I was laughing in amazement through the entire book. Before I had bought your book, i had taken my sister out to dinner to interview her about some of your ideas (from the newsletter) and to also get insight into women players . I used her ideas and yours to approach and get, two numbers from two attractive women. Thank you On to my question, I had set up a date with my younger sisters friend...

Mistaking Affection for Attraction Attraction and Being Nice

So if women leave when our inner nice-guy is revealed, why do so many guys eventually start showing their 'super-wuss nice side' all the time Well, I often think that us guys were given some bad wiring at birth when it comes to dealing with women. A few years ago, when I first started learning how to really be more successful with women and dating, I really thought that the best way to make a woman like me would be to treat her nice. Be a nice guy. This way only makes sense, of course. You be...

Body Language

I believe that the words you say actually don't matter much. What matters is HOW you say them with both your voice and your body language. You can say a word and have it mean just about ANYTHING by shifting your voice tone and body language. You can be sarcastic, funny, serious, or whatever. Women are as much as 10 times better able to read subtle body language than men. Women can see and then give meaning (and usually accurate meaning) from cues you never even knew existed. It's almost scary....

How Do I Come Off As The Most Romantic Guy In The World But Only Have Chicks Be Interested In Me For Short Term

I have a friend who has a solution that goes something like this At the beginning he says, I'm a VERY busy person. I have so many things going on in my life that I don't think I have the time for a long-term relationship. I'm not saying that I wouldn't have one, I just don't think that now is the right time. So here's the deal You can have a little of my time, or you can have none. I also think that it's important to not see a woman more than about once a week, twice at the most and only do...

Being Focused on your Goals is Attractive

All the great men in history have had massive beliefs that motivated amazing feats. Think of the passion behind Mel Gibson characters, Virgin Records and Airline billionaire Richard Branson, and Hugh Hefner. Knowing what you want and actually making an effort to get it is very strong and sexy to women. Making genuine effort towards your goals demonstrate that you're a cause and a power in life, which is unlike submissive wussboys. Trying not to move forward...

Secret Languages And The Matrix

What if I were to tell you that during your entire life, all around you, other people were using a secret language What if I also told you that they were using this secret language in plain sight the entire time, and because you didn't even know that the language existed, you would have a very difficult time learning how to be more successful with women What if I told you that there was actually MORE than one language that fit this description Finally, what if I told you that in these secret...

The Most Powerful Secret Language Innate Body Language

There are two distinct levels of communication in human body language the innate and the learned. The innate includes things like dilated pupils, licking lips, flushing cheeks, smiles, raising eyebrows, etc., while the learned includes vocabulary, dining styles, fashion, etc. Pupil dilation is a fascinating example of innate body language. The more dilated your pupils are, the more light they allow into your eyes. If you're staring close to something, you'll see it much better. In one article...

The Hidden Language of Self Confidence

Just as being Cocky & Funny communicates that you value yourself at least as much you value a woman, not conforming reveals that you value yourself at least as much as you value society. There are lots of ways to challenge others' assumptions and show your self-confidence in every communication you make. All the forms of flirting we've already discussed do this, but there are other forms of non-standard communication that don't aim directly at assumptions about the two of you but still...