Conversational Tips

Am no longer an excuser

I can approach anyone I want to. I deserve a good girlfriend. I can socialize with people regardless of my surroundings. I am not bound by society programming and society bullshit. I live my life free of these false constraints. Put an end to the bad and limiting beliefs. From this day forth, things will be different simply because you believe differently. If you need to read this chapter again to recondition yourself with your new beliefs and words of...

Body Language

It is difficult to demonstrate body language through the pages of a book. I have taken a series of amateur photographs to help demonstrate, which I will review with you shortly. Some people refer to these core attributes as alpha-male characteristics. Regardless of how and what they are labeled, they are the behavioral patterns of a confident man and you should internalize them. It does not matter whose techniques you use. They will not work if the attributes you communicated through subtext...

The point of this is that you are no longer a sheep You are no longer bound by society bullsht

I am empowering you to live your life as you wish, to do what you want, to go after what and whom you want. I am, in essence, unplugging you from the matrix. You may be a guy in his forties who, after fifteen years of marriage, suddenly finds himself divorced and back in the single scene again. The entire single life might be new to you, and you do not know what to do. You may have a desk job and you are not wealthy. On the other hand, you may be a high school teenager who is just starting out...

People gravitate upwards not downwards

Let's assume that, you and a group of your friends were sitting at a table in a coffee shop sharing a great time. Would you invite some random guy to join your group Probably not, unless you were working trying to recruit someone towards your religion or the popular cult of the month, in which case another sucker is always welcomed. Most likely, you would not want the random stranger to sit at your table. Heck, you probably have people you already know whom you wouldn't want sitting at your...

Bonus Section

This is something you will develop as you interact with more people. At first glance, it may sound like a tremendous amount of analyzing. However, you will find that much of it will become instinctive to you. To me, instinct is analyzing and making decisions on a subconscious level. You are not consciously aware but your subconscious mind is extremely alert of the current situation. Calibration can help you size up a human being, MALE or FEMALE. It can help answer the following without him her...

Important Note on Party Girls

On some occasions, the rapport process might be skipped. You are drunk already and you find a hyperactive party-chick, (and if you are in the Hollywood Hills, there is a good chance she is coked up) and she will have sex with you in the bathroom. Believe me, I have seen it So, yes, that does happen. If you are solely after pursing what we refer to as Party-chicks, who are stimulation junkies, you might find yourself skipping the deeper rapport phase. If one-night stands with party-girls is what...

Calibration as a coldreading Technique

I have tried to stay away from techniques in this book for the obvious stated reasons. I'll share one of my favorite things that I like to do sometimes in an interaction with women. This is a technique and thus, it'll be a short segment. After this segment, I will get back to the attributes which are the main point. People love hearing and learning about them selves. This is why psychics, palm readers, tarot cards, and the like are so popular. This is also why I've met Pick up Artists who use...

Different phases of the conversation

The first 15-20 minutes of a conversation are what I refer to as the probationary period. It's similar to having a job with a new employer, or at least the way it used to be 30 years ago before the corporate age. You were given a trial period of two weeks where you were on probation. At the end of the two weeks, your employer could express that he did not want you, or you could have left the job because it was not the right fit for you. In such a scenario, there are no hard feelings involved....

Identity Beliefs and Internal Frames

A distinction has to be made between what is routinely referred to as Inner game and Outer game. Outer game is about techniques, lines, tactics, strategies and so forth. Inner game is about your internal state and feelings. It encompasses everything from confidence to your beliefs about yourself, your life and how you feel inside. Many people ignore one of these areas while nurturing the other. This creates a flaw in your overall persona because it creates incongruence. When someone's internal...

No one was born to walk around with a hunchback while being ashamed dejected and staring at the ground

These all happened because of negative social experiences and it is time to correct them. You did not come out of the womb with the feeling that you are not good enough. In the same way, you did not come out of the womb to feel that a purse or a shoe held the secrets to self-fulfillment and self-worth. These were taught to you, to me, and to everybody else. These things were all instilled upon you by society. Now, we are taking steps to free you You were born a free spirit. You still are. Over...

Social Calibration

One of the key skills you acquire in interacting with many people is calibration. Calibration consists of a number of variables. Amongst them are understanding what type of a girl you are talking with, what her desires are, what your environment is, what the immediate social climate is, how your interaction is proceeding, and so forth. This is the last skill to master and it's something that can't be taught in a book. It comes from field experience. It's not something you intellectualize....

Be your own person

You'll have to find a balance of looking like you take care of yourself and being comfortable. The following chapter is devoted to social conditioning. You will understand the importance of individuality when you read it. When it comes to your clothes, my tip is that regardless of what you wear, make it appear that you put some effort into it. I do not care if you have a normal, short haircut, shaved like Kojak, punk-style Mohawk, or perfect hair like Jon Bon Jovi. Just make sure that it looks...

Am walking to the store

Can you see what a difference tonality makes In each variation, the underlying meaning of the sentence was different. When you emphasize Walking, it emphasizes your method of travel. In this case, you are walking as opposed to driving, bicycling, or flying, and so forth. In each variation, the underlying meaning of the sentence was different. When you emphasize Store, you are making clear the destination you are traveling to This refers to the old axiom of It's not so much what you say, but how...

B1 Enthusiasm

Have you ever heard the expression that enthusiasm is contagious This also applies to meeting women. Your enthusiasm need not emulate the phony behavior of a used car salesman. However, being a little excited and upbeat about your life and environment is always helpful. Hopefully, the tape-recording exercises have given you good idea of what you sound like now and what you can sound like with a bit more excitement added in. I want you to make an effort to be more enthusiastic in your tonality...

Apologize for your actions

By passing these tests, you will convey that you are a man who is confident, knows what he wants, knows where he is going, and thus has a strong sense of his reality. Furthermore, you will convey that you are resilient, not a pushover, a challenge, and a bit unpredictable. Here are a few examples of real life conversation with women involving me or acquaintances of mine. Each reply is a reframe of the situation The woman jokingly might say Nice story. Did you think of that on the way over here...

Do not compromise yourself Make who you are count

I was watching a confident guy in the field who came across one of these self-indulgent comments from a woman. His reply This is so cute. Is this where you give your little opinion He was not hostile, and his tone of voice was certainly not angry. He was just confident and playful. The girl stood with that infamous deer in the headlights look, shook up from having been dethroned from her universe where she rules as queen. This is reminiscent of a guy who is not going to buy into her B.S. and he...

Exercise for the analytical people

As you go out into a social venue, I want you to try on a different hat. While interacting with people, make an effort to understand how they are feelings and what their emotions are. It might even be easier to start with a group conversation where you are not really involved. You can just sit back and observe. Do not analyze them Just try to FEEL. You may be in a group where someone is talking. Do this with people in your social circles so that you are with people you feel very comfortable...

Dont be a fact giver

Facts by themselves are not interesting. Facts are great in physics and in a court of law. They do not, however, constitute a great story. What if I were to ask you about the square root of 81 Wow So what It's a mathematical fact, but is it interesting Let's add a story to this seemingly irrelevant fact Now, what if I were to tell you I was in a game show and the 100,000 question was, What is the square of 81 Who knew your high school math could come in handy Suddenly, you would be curious to...

Enthusiasm in the delivery

Exercise for Story Telling and Spontaneity Here is a fun exercise designed to develop your spontaneity and story telling abilities. Get together with a group of 2 or 3 friends and do the following exercise. One of your friends gives you a random word and you must start telling a story stemming from that word. We conduct this exercise in our workshops and we find that in most cases, men will talk about a certain topic until they have nothing left to say. At that point, there is a silence...

Opening conversations with women you dont know

The 1 rule is do not talk about her constantly. This is the most common mistake most guys make when they see a cute girl. They ask questions in a rapid-fire manner What's your name Where are you from What do you do Where do you live How often do you come here How long have you been living here This is painstakingly boring. Even if she were initially interested, she would lose her interest after your game of twenty questions. A similar mistake is to start offering constant facts about your self....

Conversational Dos and Donts

This is not an extensive list, but rather a few tips on mistakes that can be corrected easily. In college, I took theater and film classes. One of the things that we were taught were the rules of Improv. The first and most important rule of improvisation is, Never go against what the other person says. You will see this displayed if you watch comedians doing improv. The improve scenario is that you and your buddy are test-driving cars. The first guy pretends to put a key in to open door. The...

Learning to Connect on Feelings for Deep Rapport

A workshop participant asked for advice regarding his conversation with a girl in his college who had brought up the subject of politics because it was important to her. (Keep in mind that he had known this girl for a few weeks. She is by no means a stranger at this point. This is not fluff talk.) He replied with, I don't care about politics. I don't want to hear your spiel about it. He stopped her cold on her tracks while she was trying to establish rapport. She didn't think very highly of him...

Conversational Tips For Relationships and Dating Advanced

Up until now, I have discussed the attributes of a guy who is successful in meeting and attracting women. What if you are dating someone or already have a girlfriend Do you feel your girlfriend complains too much Do you feel that half of your time is spent listening to complaints How do you steer the conversation away from a complaint session I will share some thoughts on that. However, before I discuss the issue any further, I must mention one important factor. If your girlfriend nags and...

Your frameperspective will be I know what I want and I know who I like Right now I like you and I want to see you again

That has to be delivered through the subtext of the encounter. If you can do that, you will be far ahead of 90 of men out there. Here is something else that I do which could be thought of or labeled as a tactic, but it really isn't one. While enthralled in an engaging and fun conversation with a girl, I'll give her my cell phone. She grabs my phone, punches in her own number. Believe it or not, most often they actually program their names into the cell phone's memory. That, gentlemen, is...

Societys Rules and Social Conditioning

If you are reading this book, you may have some limiting beliefs regarding yourself and what is possible. You may feel that you are being intrusive when approaching a woman, or perhaps you are bothering someone. You may feel that you are not good looking enough or that you don't have enough money. This is all social conditioning If you lead, keep a strong frame reality and project the right emotions people will join you. Example Take a look at conmen. A conman might be penniless and yet he is...

Projecting Emotions through tonality

Use your tonality to project positive emotions People will share your enthusiasm. Remember that most people are followers not leaders. People love to find someone to follow. That person can be you. Think about a simple scenario Consider watching a comedy movie, a funny TV show or standup comedian. It's fun to watch alone. How much more fun is it to watch it with your friends, laughing out loud at the top of your lungs together In fact, ever have something stupid happen between you and your...