Speed Seduction, or SS, is an advanced collection of methods to quickly cause the woman to feel for you the things she wants to feel when in the presence of a real man. There are lots of resources on Speed Seduction both on SoSuave's Discussion Forum (www.sosuave.net) and on the site dedicated to the practice - www.fastseduction.com
You're starting to date the girl, but you are not exactly sure how to operate. Do you show her that you're interested, and that you want her? Or do you treat her like any other person and make her think that maybe you're not that interested. Well, both strategies are correct and incorrect. Your goal either way is to seduce her properly, hence this post.
This isn't some Speed Seduction technique tip. While I won't argue about the effectiveness of SS, I have never learned about it and hence have another method I go by.
Seduction is important to attracting women - some unfortunate bozos really don't realize this. While some guys may think that their good looks alone (unfortunately I'm one of those) are enough to attract chicks to sleep with them, good looks can only take you so far. No matter how good-looking you are, if you can't seduce her, you'll never obtain what you want. If you're just average looking and you know how to seduce her then you won't have to be reading this article.
Some guys here have such low confidence that they beat around the bush trying to fool the chick into their beds by using dumb pickup lines thinking it's the way to go. A real seductor has the confidence to be honest and straightforward with his target, he knows what he wants and not afraid to show it. He doesn't have to use pickup lines in order to bed girls. A true seductor uses his seduction technique to lure the fish into taking the bait.
Even if you have the perfect approach, it will not guarantee you success. But don't be discouraged; I can honestly tell that the rejection rate is very high when approaching women you don't have previous meetings with (even for good looking guys that get approach by women). You might run into chick who already have boyfriends, don't have the time to stop and talk, having a bad hair day, or are just not interested. Don't blame yourself and don't let your ego take a hit. This is normal and happens to many men -even players. Getting rejected by a stranger is part of the game - it's a fun part of the game because you can laugh at it.
Always approach with a plan. I can improvise successfully (this is a pain trust me), but regardless of the case, having a plan always helps your chances of coming across as a person she might consider dating.
Always be honest about what you want. Don't hide the fact that you want to get into her skirt - that's the thrill of it. She already knows what you want, lying and fooling her is only going to make you look like an idiot. Most guys think that they can fool a chick into giving them their number. Chicks already know that you're trying to pick them up, so don't beat around the bush. Be direct and let them know exactly what you want. You'll come across as a confident and straightforward man.
Just be patient, Patience is good. Don't rush into things like a hungry Hyena finding a dead carcass. Have a good approach - be confident about your approach. Know that you can get any girl you want and when you want - have this attitude always. Don't end up looking like a little boy craving for ice cream.
Look into her eyes when you talk to her. Do not stare at her breasts or let your eyes wander elsewhere. Let your body language, your lips, and your eyes convey and explain your desire for her - your desire to touch her body and feel her skin. Do not say it in words. Avoid any sexual comments and quit gazing at her body at all times - keep your eyes to yourself pervert!
Maintain a stimulating conversation. Be original about things you say. Use as less compliments as you can about her looks. Remember, you don't want to come out like a rabid dog in heat.
You need to look good, stylish and trendy. You don't necessarily need to look like a model - but it will definitely help. Take time to look your best. Make it look like you at least invested some time and money on your looks, not like some bum off the street. That goes without saying: maintain proper hygiene. Have a little fashion sense: go with a trendy shirt, a pair of decent pants, and maybe even an alternative hairstyle (don't go too far).
Appear friendly and approachable. A good smile will definitely do the trick, show those gorgeous whites gents. A lot of women aren't comfortable talking complete stranger so it's up to you to make yourself appear harmless - not like a lost puppy dog mind you, just friendly and approachable. A little humour usually helps.
Be the charming man. To attract beautiful women, you project confidence, good-looks (or appearance of looking good), intellect (yes, very important), and the most important of all, your charm. How do you show charm? Look into her eyes when you speak to her - let her know that you are comfortable to be with her without telling her. Eye contact always. Stimulate her mind and make her think. Just show her that you respect and value her opinion by asking her questions related to current affairs. Laugh at her jokes even if it isn't funny (this is really hard, but you can just laugh at how stupid her joke really is) Show her that there are other things on your mind besides sex. Avoid topics related to sex, sports, ex-girlfriends, money, cars, and so on.
Seduce her emotions and play with it. If you can make her feel then you're on the right tract. Make her excited, give her that rush of adrenaline that she always wanted go on a bike ride ask her to go sky diving with you.
Make her believe that you are real with all your intentions. Leave an open mind. Make her feel beautiful about herself without saying it in words. Again, use your body language and your eyes to accomplish this. Feed her ego without setting yourself up as a stooge. Appear to be a person who would give her pleasure. Light touches to erogenous zones (when invited) are the way to go.
Just keep practicing this. The more you do it the better you become at it. Improvise, just because the above methods worked for me doesn't mean it will work for you - just have a plan and be dynamic.
Here's a move you can do in the first date that will denote confidence and class, while allowing you to get in some kino and judge your date's interest level!
Kinesthetics means "Subtle touching" and is normally a word abbreviated to kino.
The included articles will give you tons of information on this practice and will inform you of how important kino is.
This is the move that will solidify you on early dates.
Courting is a ritual. A series of progressions into different stages of a budding relationship. More things go on in the first 4 dates than you realise.
Anyways, early on, you are simply there to interview your new date. Elicit what info you can and determine whether or not you want to spend some time getting to know them or just don't want to waste your time with them. Once you realise that you DO want to continue on with them it is your turn to make a move... This magic little ditty will do wonders.
When walking from your car to a restaurant or whatever, simply crook you arm (don't look awkward doing it, don't for a second believe she will pass). She will accept the offer, as is proper etiquette whether she's into you or not. By doing this little manoeuvre you are indicating to everyone else that the two of you are out together. You are indicating to her that you've accepted her as having potential and the evening is going well. You have NOT taken her hand, you have not indicated any level of interest, merely said "I am accepting your company this evening and enjoying it".
1) You come across as a Gentleman. Manners ARE important.
2) She gets to play Audrey Hepburn and feel like an all American Princess and warm and fuzzy.(It's all about how you make them FEEL when they are with you)
3) You discourage others from eyeing her.
4) You get some good Kino in.
5) You don't come across as possessive because SHE is holding on to you, not the other way around. In fact, you set the precedent.
6) You can deftly move from this position to an arm around the waist.
7) She gets to check your pipes out.
8) Other women check you out when you have a woman hanging off of you... your date sees this and puts more value on you.
9) If she's wearing heels and stumbles she can hang onto you... Women love a sense of security in the man they are out with.
10) It shows that you know what you are doing.
11) Holding hands early on may be too personal or show too much affection, this is a counterbalance. Cons:
1) If she's a femi-nazi you get the "I can walk on my own" speech.
2) If she doesn't take your arm when you offer it is a snub, don't date women who snub you. You are spending your valuable time on showing them a good evening. Snubbing is unacceptable.
3) If it's cold and her nose is runny it might drip on your sleeve and dry cleaning is expensive.
4) If her most recent ex sees you together he might draw the conclusion that you are closer than you actually are and deduce that she cheated on him with you and decide to make a scene. In which case you have to throw the guy through a store window and everything goes to hell in a hand basket.
Yeah, I think it's a magnificent manoeuvre for a first and second date... even if you're already sleeping together.
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