Heres a basic outline for approaching someone initiating conversation and establishing rapport

Source: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16646

The Conversation - Part J: The introduction

The introduction of the conversation is very important in creating a good first impression; opening up the conversation strong is key. Delivering an introduction breaks the ice and puts you into a position to start asking questions and increasing the rapport.

I recommend using these 3 introductions / approaches:

Her saying her name is your cue to extend your hand, once you make hand contact say: "It's nice to meet you <their name>... my name is <name>."

If anything stands out or is unusual about her, now is your chance to drop a compliment. If there is absolutely nothing you can comment / compliment on, then you don't necessarily have to...if you're a beginner I recommend skipping this part initially. TIP: if you observe her, the situation, and the surroundings before approaching, you won't have to come up with something right on the spot after saying your name.

She should give you her name at this point...if not, then ask after a brief pause: "What's your name?".

Her name is your cue to extend your hand, once you make hand contact say:

"It's nice to meet you <their name>"

Then look to slip in a comment / compliment.

If she says hi and / or smiles at you, then continue from: "What's your name?" 3b) "Hi".

If she says hi and / or smiles at you, then comment / compliment on something about her. If she says thanks and / or smiles at you, then continue from: "What's your name?" 3c) *Don't say hi *

Comment / compliment on something about her.

If she says thanks and / or smiles at you, then continue from:

"What's your name?"

Note: Review the lesson on complimenting before using methods 3b) and 3c). Keys Points / Analysis

Shake her hand correctly. It's very important that you extend your hand at a slight angle with palm up to initiate a female type handshake in which she will respond by extending her hand with palm angled down. This will usually prevent it from turning into a formal handshake where both your hands end up vertically meeting. A formal handshake points you into the direction of the "friendship" zone right from the start; try your best to initiate a "girl" handshake.

Don't hold on too long. let go once she starts letting go. You will call too much attention to the your handshake if you hold on longer than she does and it won't seem natural to her. Remember you're trying to work on her subconscious; you don't want her becoming suspicious of anything.

Initiate kino (body contact) as early as possible. A simple non-threatening handshake is an excellent way of creating early kino. It also makes her feel more comfortable with you.

Say her name, after saying it was nice meeting her, this works subconsciously by giving her the illusion that you're familiar with each other already.

Refrain from complimenting. During your first several approaches so you're able to get into the groove of your rap without the pressure of having to do too many things all at once. After a few dry runs, you'll know when you should give one or not.

Use proper eye contact. Don't stare in her eyes the whole entire intro but don't look around either. Look in her eyes when asking her name. After she gives you her name, glance down for a second towards the area you'll be shaking hands while extending your hand. Once her hand is about to come into contact with yours, look back at her eyes and finish your intro.

Conclusion

DON'T use "pick-up lines". The best approach is a straightforward approach; don't start off by beating around the bush.

Continue reading here: The second part from Pimpologist

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