Dating Guide

Fish or Cut Bait Relationship Evaluation

There comes a time in any dating situation where you have to decide whether to go to the next stage or the next relationship. Going to the next relationship is exciting and can re-create the fun early days of getting to know someone. But if you're not careful, you may find yourself doing only dessert and never the meal, because in dating the dessert part comes first. If you're looking exclusively for excitement, it always makes sense to move on. If you're looking for intimacy and even...

Pre Date Affirmations Sweet Talking to Self

An affirmation is a positive statement about yourself made in the present tense. A few kind words to yourself can calm you instantly, as well as quell any surges of anxiety you may feel as lift-off draws near. Repeat after me I'm a fun, interesting, worthy person. I deserve success and happiness. A date is only a date it's not do-or-die time. I'm calm and fearless. I will enjoy myself tonight, and my date will, too. You're now internally and (if you've read Chapter 11) externally ready to have...

An inherent Internet temptation Longdistance relationships

A lot of people are meeting up online with people who live very far away. I'm not a fan of longdistance relationships because they are more fantasy than reality. In a long-distance relationship, you spend so much more time anticipating being together than you actually spend being together. If you're not careful, you'll end up only having sex when you're together rather than actually slowly, carefully, and organically getting to know each other, which will result in increased longing for one...

Casual dating

Casual dating means that neither of you is taking the relationship terribly seriously because one or the other of you is 1 Dating others You like each other but see other people as well. 1 Living far away from each other You live so far away that you can see each other only occasionally. i Only in town temporarily This is similar to a holiday romance you know that the relationship will last only as long as the business trip, vacation, or whatever does. i Not interested in a commitment You want...

Step 2 Progressive relaxation

You can banish stress from your system in several ways, including exercise, meditation, Tai Chi, Pilates, and Yoga. But one of the quickest and most effective ways is a technique called progressive relaxation. It focuses on each muscle group, from your toes to your head, and releases tension. I walk you through the process, step by step. Still seated in your comfortable chair, with your eyes gently closed, start with the tips of your toes. Repeat each muscle group sequence twice. 1. Make a fist...

Decoding Girl Time versus Boy Time

Girl time is quite different from boy time. When a guy asks for a girl's number, she assumes that means he's going to call on the way home from the party. She checks her machine twice an hour, has the phone company check to make sure the line is okay, and won't take a bath for fear she'll miss the call. If Mom calls to talk about Dad's surgery, she'll politely mention that she's expecting an important call and will call back. Guys, on the other hand, will almost never call on the way home from...

When to say I love you and when to keep quiet

Few things are more memorable than the magical, angst-ridden, fingers-crossed, breath-held, passion-filled moment when either you or your date says, I love you. The phrase is much more than three little words. It's also a silent question. As in, Do you love me, too Properly managing this moment can spell the difference between euphoria and humiliation. Tips i Wait at least several months, a minimum of three but preferably longer, before confessing your true love even if you feel it on the first...

Dont sweat it

You know, the thing that really separates men from women. Men love the Three Stooges women just don't get it. A few weeks ago I was loading my sweaty 'tards into a laundry bag at the gym when a cute fella walked by and started to chat with me. I cautioned him that he was standing dangerously close to the rather ripe scent of my exercise gear. He got a dreamy look on his face and said, Yeah, smells like sweat, baby, baby. Like I said, a difference between men and...

Lights camera action

When I have a moment to prepare folks who are and participate. If they sit back, just moving far doing TV with me for the first time, I always tell enough forward to be heard takes energy, and them to sit forward in their chairs. Doing so puts then their moment in the spotlight may be gone. them right in the middle of things, ready to go As I'm sure you've figured out, the woman who wears the flashy, low cut dress and the man who brags about his conquests may be insecure and trying to convince...

Sidestepping emotional pitfalls

It's certainly okay and appropriate to ask yourself whether you can live with your decision over time. But be aware of the emotional seductions that are part and parcel of this experience they go directly for the gut or the jugular and completely ignore that grown-up, smart part of you. Music is as old as human history and is part of each of our personal histories. Lullabies your mom sang you the first time you heard the Star Spangled Banner or Yesterday or Heaven Help Us or Feelings singing...

Keeping a Dating Notebook

Throughout this book, I include exercises you can do to find out more about yourself and what you want, as well as suggestions for noting your feelings and impressions. Treat this as both an opportunity and a project to find out more about yourself. Buy yourself a spiral notebook and a pen and write down specifics. (Be sure to write in ink because it's useful to go back and see what you were saying as opposed to erasing it, if you didn't like it, because your musings can be a work in progress,...

Sexual viability

One of the major drawbacks of large age differences deals with the age-old problem of childbearing years. An older woman who is through childbearing with a younger man who decides he wants children is going to create chaos, as is a younger woman who wants children with an older man who doesn't. Tradition, tradition I do (and I don't) The divorce rate has remained steady at around 40 percent (the 50 percent statistic was a computational error that was admitted in 2005 because it divided the...