Keeping your fantasies to yourself

Look, there are always temptations in this life: a dollar to pocket that's not yours, a tax form to cheat on, a cute face at work, a stolen kiss or drink, a broken promise, a sense of who will ever know. There is a part of all of us that finds temptation sexy (otherwise, it wouldn't be called temptation), but if you're tempted to stray, at least be smart enough not to be tempted to confess. If your partner has received no pleasure from your behavior, your partner shouldn't have to suffer any pain.

If you find yourself constantly tempted by another person, maybe it's time to sort out whether you are looking for an excuse to bail from your current relationship, and if so, you need to take a good look at your relationship and either fix it or leave it. Whatever you do, don't complicate it by cheating. In the long run, cheaters cheat themselves first and foremost. There are better ways to get out of a relationship than being thrown out for being a liar and a cheat.

There is nothing wrong about feeling tempted as long as you don't act out the temptation. Remember, fantasies can be useful pressure valves if you keep your mouth shut. Part of the reason it makes sense to toe the line is to have a clear conscience and not have to confess or apologize or hurt someone you love.

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