When youre confident enough to date
Nobody feels sure about every part of his life, and all of us feel most insecure about dealing with the opposite sex because we feel vulnerable and really want things to go well. So don't put off dating until you feel really, really sure of yourself, because you'll find that, by then, you're 90 years old. Just try to bolster your confidence enough so that you're not whiny or so incredibly needy that you're falling apart (see Chapter 3 for tips on building confidence and Chapter 5 to find out when is the right time to begin a dating relationship). Sweaty palms and dry mouth and a bit of anxiety are okay.
You want to know how much anxiety is okay and how much is too much, right? Not an unreasonable request since dating really can drain the confidence banks. If you're feeling really rocky on your feet, stabilize before you venture forth. Don't wait till everything is ducky, although ducky times are the very best times to get yourself out there. Clinging to someone for dear life isn't sexy or stable enough to work for any length of time, and the only people you'll attract in times of trouble are control freaks who really want and need to call all the shots. Also, don't look for a parent figure or someone as a crutch to lean on when you're starting the dating game, or you will find that dating is not at all fun and not a game but a desperate bid for survival. Check out Chapter 32 for a list of times when you should not try dating.
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