Next and Other Rules for Dealing with Rejection

is not always fair. Fortunately, The Rules will help ensure that you are never unnecessarily hurt by a man. By behaving around men in a Rules way—independent and busy, not needy or aggressive—we do not put ourselves in a position to be hurt.

However, we cannot make a certain man like us or prevent a man from meeting someone else he likes better and consequently dropping us. And we can't stop an ex-girlfriend from winning him back. So what do we do when we get dumped?

Our natural reaction may be to stagnate and isolate wish we were dead, not wash our hair or wear makaap, cry, sleep a lot; play sad love songs, and swear we'll never meet anyone as perfect as him again. We might find consolation in the refrigerator or talk nonstop about him to our friends. Obviously, this is ridiculous. Allow yourself about two days of such behavior, and then go on.

The Rules recipe for rejection is to wear a great dress and flattering makeup and go to the very next party or singles dance and tell your friends you're available for blind dates. Hopefully, you've been diligent about The Rules up to the breakup, and your social calendar is already full of dates. Remember, until the ring is on your finger or you're exclusive—by exclusive we mean he's serious about marrying you and it's just a matter of time before he pops the question, as opposed to he's dating you until someone better comes along—you should be dating others. Nothing is better for cushioning the blow than the adoring attention of other men.

Whatever you do, don't lose your cool over this man. Now is the time to acquire faith, to believe in abundance. Tell yourself he is not the last man on earth, there are many others and certainly at least one out there for you. Talk to women friends who were dumped and then met "The One." They will tell you how happy they are now that so-and-so broke up with them, even though they didn't realize it at the time. Comfort yourself with uplifting slogans like 'When one door closes, another one opens" and any other positive philosophies you can think of.

Remember, Rules girls don't get hung up on men who reject them. They say, "His loss" or "Next!" They carry on. They don't tear themselves apart and wish they had done this differently or said this and not that. They don't write men letters offering to change or make things work out. They don't call them or send messages via friends. They accept it's over and get on with it. They don't waste time.

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