1t's common knowledge that men want as much as they can get on the first date. It's your job to slow them down. Let him kiss you on the first date, but nothing more. Keeping it to a kiss will force him not to think of you as just a physical object. If a Rules relationship is to develop, he must fall in love with your soul, your whole being, not just your body. So the less you do physically, the better. Beside^ it's easier to stop something if you don't let things get too hot and heavy right away.
We know this is not an easy Rule to follow, particularly when you're out with someone really cute and he's driving fast in his sports car and kissing you at every red light. He's a great kisser and you wonder what else he's great at. This is when you have to brace yourself and say, "The Rule is no more than casual kissing on the first date. No, don't invite him up to the apartment. Nq, don't let his hands go everywhere." If you're getting too excited, end the date quickly so you don't do anything you'll regret. If he wants more of you, let him call you and ask you for a second
Some men might make you feel that you're being old-fashioned or prudish. Some might make fun of you or even get angry. Let them know as nicely as you can that if they don't like it, they can get lost! If a man pressures you, then he's not someone you want to date. Keep telling yourself that other women have spoiled men by sleeping with them on the first date but you're a Rules girl and you take your time. If he really cares about you, he will respect your boundaries. If he's a gentleman, he'll let the physical part of the relationship develop at your pace and never force anything on you. Forget all the "free love" theories from the swinging sixties. Besides, it's not spontaneous or cool to have an unwanted pregnancy or a disease.
In addition, if you are following Rule #9 (How to Act on Dates 1, 2, and 3), things should not get out of hand. As we said earlier, you should be talking about politics, real estate good movies, not marriage kids, love former boyfriends and girlfriends, and sexual positions. The conversation should be cordial, not steamy, so you don't end up in bed after dessert. Besides, if you really like him, just kissing can be a lot of fun!
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