I'd like to make the distinction between "persistence" and "being a stalker." Stalking a girl is never a good idea, not just because it's creepy anti-social behavior, but because it means you do not have a very good, active life.
It's important to have other stuff you're passionate about than just a woman. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue her a bit.
Lots of men make the mistake of not chasing after a woman, either through laziness, or ego, or what have you.
The fact is, in today's world, women still want to be pursued by guys.
Seriously, the whole "women's lib" notion of girls asking guys out is very few and far in between.
There's still that old status quo in place because I think women realized just how crappy it is to ask someone out and get turned down, so it's back to the old way of doing things.
However, most men know that it stinks getting turned down too, and some fall into the trap of waiting for the girl to call and suggest a meet.
Don't be that guy. He's lonely, and his porn collection is growing by the minute.
Be the guy who takes the time to call a girl when he feels like talking to her. Ask her to meet you for drinks or some other activity. Talk on the phone and see what's going on with her.
Women are busy people in this day and age, and if you don't stay in their life in someway, you'll get pushed aside and forgotten eventually. Even if a girl can't meet you, keep at them.
Call them every couple days until they're ready to meet. Don't get caught up in phone games. If you want to call her, call her. Leave a message.
Keep at it, not too intensely, but just enough to stay on her radar.
Drop an email, talk on IM, do whatever it takes to become a part of her life.
This kind of gentle persistence, though a bit of work, can pay off in the long run.
And if she doesn't appreciate it and doesn't want anything more to do with you, she'll eventually let you know.
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