Work out in advance where in your neighbourhood you are likely to meet people and join clubs, societies, sports events, drama groups, anything where you are likely to meet potential partners.
The kind of partners you are looking for.
I know its a cliché but you will not meet people by staying indoors. Tip #8 -- Stop Dating Occasionally
Take time off from dating occasionally if it is not going well or causing dating fatigue.
Dating is an ongoing process and so recharging the batteries and keeping the confidence and optimism levels high is an absolute must.
The fact is, we all get tired of it - dating. I do and maybe you do too. Yes its true, we get tired of trying to meet people we like. We go through hell on earth to meet someone, elicit their details, spend ages and ages chatting, emailing, messaging, writing, phoning and then we go dating.
And then we go dating again. And it comes to nothing.
And ultimately dating fatigue sets in. We singles know this feeling and yet it is rarely discussed and even less written about. The fact is, being single is hard work and it wears us out.
I know that some of you reading this will have despaired from time to time, thinking that your perfect person is never to be found whilst also hoping secretly that they are hiding just round the corner.
After a number of dates you wonder if it is worth it. Emotionally drained, high hopes, low results and you think, "it can't only be me", surely!
Yes you are right, you are suffering from dating fatigue but it isn't only you.
We all feel it.
Well we make a mental list and then try and reduce it.
A mental list of the things we want our partner to be, the qualities and attributes we would like them to have. Maybe this comes from having our fingers burned, maybe from downright experience.
The fact is, we all have our list and we need that list. Mr. Right will just not be Mr. Right without us checking first. When we find that the people we date don't really match up to our mental perception of what we want after beginning so optimistic, we feel drained of it. We need to recharge our batteries before rejoining the dating battle.
And this cycle continues, time and time again.
There are a few yes, who are very lucky indeed and they will probably not be reading this, but for most of us we need to take a methodical approach. We are on a life campaign to find someone to love, so expect to get tired, expect to feel let down occasionally and pace yourself.
Don't go on 20 dates a week thinking Mr. Perfect is waiting in the next singles bar. He may be, but he probably won't be. Instead, concentrate on quality rather than quantity.
To avoid dating fatigue decide on what we want, who we want and when we want -it.
Do you build yourself up in anticipation before each date and lead yourself into an emotional crisis, or do you keep a cool clear head and wait to be pleasantly surprised?
Do you have just one or two high quality dates a month with true potential partners or do you go out with every available person you meet.
I suspect the latter will certainly bring on dating fatigue. But oddly, so will the former. You see, high quality dates are as draining and possibly a bigger let down than anything.
To be faced with true potential and then to watch it fade away over a Merlot is soul destroying and many of us have felt that. The fact is, there is no easy answer concerning dating regularity. They will both wear you down.
The single factor that crops up more than anything in giving us dating fatigue lays deep within communication issues.
By that, I mean lying.
People tell lies, they tell us what we want to hear, they pretend to be something they aren't and they avoid the truth about things they shouldn't. Not everyone does that, but a great many do.
It's because many people don't feel happy about themselves, they want to be something larger than life, they want to impress and in doing so, they exclude themselves from dating success. We realize we are not being told the truth, we acknowledge the original potential but its too late.
A friend of mine told me recently that there was no point in dating me because in truth I wasn't their ideal and they were now solely focusing on finding that perfect partner. I admire them for their honesty and their focused dating regime. It kind of lacks romance but I respect dedication to the cause.
I think that the way we all should deal with dating fatigue is simple: take some time off, like holiday if you like.
Go do something completely different, begin a new sport or hobby and enjoy the important simple pleasures in life and stop thinking about Mr. Right. And in doing so - well you may be pleasantly surprised who you meet. Oh and your batteries will be recharged too.
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