One of the most common complains women have about men is that they don't pay attention. Seriously, have you ever had a girl ask you "Are you even listening to me????" or better yet, "You're not listening to me!"
C'mon. We've all been there before.
Well, the ladies do have a point.
Now, I'm not saying you gotta start listening to everything they say. Actually, I'm saying that you have to start paying attention to how they RESPOND.
I call paying attention to how a woman responds to you "calibration." By allowing yourself to see how she is reacting to what you're doing, you give yourself the information you need to either escalate what's working, or fix what isn't.
This is very important.
And it always applies.
Whether you're just meeting a girl for the first time, or you're out on a date, or you're in bed together, you always want to be calibrating.
Calibration mostly has to do with the reading of body language. You gotta pay attention to the signs she's sending you (even though she may not know she's sending them!).
For instance, say you see a girl standing around with her arms crossed, and she's got a big scowl on her face, and looks like she's having the worst day of her life. That will help you decide if you want to approach her, and how to approach her.
Would you want to approach a girl when she's all closed off and negative like that? Or would you prefer to look for an easier target?
If you decide you do want to approach her, how would you go about doing it? Maybe you could ask her "What's wrong, you look like you lost your best friend?" Then go about cheering her up or making her laugh.
When you're talking to a girl, pay attention to what she's giving you. Is she leaning back?
Not really engaging in conversation? Then she's not that into what you have to offer her.
But what if she's leaning forward?
Are her pupils dilated?
Is her head tilted?
Is she playing with her hair?
Smiling a lot?
Is she touching you?
If so, then chances are what you're doing is working and you should be doing more of it.
Women will tell you exactly what you need to do to get them. You just have to pay attention!
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