• Can you keep conversation going with her?
Now I don't have to explain what the answer "yes" to these questions means, do I:) http://tranceboy.fws1.com/bodylanguage.htm (2 of 4) [8/3/2002 9:32:23 PM]
From "Sweep women off their feet...": "All these signs usually tell you that the girl is captivated by your charms. But before you get there, chances are that her body language changes as the discussion progresses. Make sure that you watch her closely and as soon as you get a sign that should be an indication that you are on the right track, keep going in that direction. If the opposite happens, just change the subject and see what happens."
Update. The really gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get around to displaying the signs of interest described above. They simply don't have to, as they are used to getting some attention already long before that. With such girls you have to be on a lookout for the initial and thus much more subtle signs of interest. One example of this would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face. Obviously people tend to look at what or whom they like to look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at your face and then progresses into the more overt signs of interest described above, looking at your face from time to time might be the only sign of interest you'll ever get from the most beautiful of girls.
So if you think you're not getting any signs of interest from beautiful girls - you are, but you just can't see them well enough yet.
Update. Don Steele: "Here are signs of interest sent from across the room. Most are applicable to both sexes. The sequence of the list approximates the courtship sequence.
DON'T BOTHER ME
Looks at you a few times Fleeting eye contact Holds your gaze briefly Looks away quickly Downcast eyes, then away Looks away, eyes level Posture changes to alert Posture unchanged Preens, adjusts hair, attire Does no preening Turns body toward you Turns body away
Head remains vertical
Narrows eyes slightly Eyes remain normal
Neutral, polite face
Matches your posture Posture unchanged
Normal or dull eyes
Licks her lips
Keeps mouth closed
In Summary. Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away is great! Shine of the eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good, away, bad. Overall posture, erect and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in front as a barrier, that's bad. Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or stroking is great.
Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social interaction is expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open posture. But, during courtship, the more open the other person's posture is, the more open that person is to you and your advances. And, the more open you are, the more likely the other person is to open up to you. First Conversation Signals. Men, pay attention to all the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk with her.
KEEP TALKING MOVE ON
Alert, energetic Tense, restless
Pupils dilated Normal or small pupils
Gradually opens posture Posture remains closed
Lowers drink Keeps drink high
Touches self gently Grips or pinches self
Caresses objects Squeezes, taps objects
Crosses and uncrosses legs Legs remain crossed
Flashes of palm Back of hand gestures
Crossed legs steady Swings crossed legs
Dangles shoe on toe Keeps shoe on
Hands never touch face Touches face
Touches you any reason Never touches you
Feet firmly on floor Feet on edges or toes
Loosens anything Tightens anything
Leans forward Leans away
Steady hands, feet Tapping, drumming
In social settings, most of us start out in a closed, defensive posture because we're a bit apprehensive. A closed posture feels safe. When the person you are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally, opening up to you and what you have to offer.
It takes courage to open up to the other person. If you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your move from closed to slightly more open. Open up in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.
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