Advanced Emotional Techniques
Michael Hall has developed an that he calls "Meta States"
'emotional reframing" concept
Hall has realized that we humans often "wrap" one emotional state around another, and then another... until they're so tangled up that it's almost impossible to "fix"
For instance: If you begin to feel jealous of another man who's with the girl you like, then get angry at yourself for feeling jealous because it's immature, then become depressed because you're getting angry at yourself (because it's not helping the situation), then you have depression ABOUT anger ABOUT jealousy
These emotions become intertwined in a way that creates a strong web that resists change
If you go to work on the depression, you're only working on one level... and you haven't changed the underlying jealousy... so you're likely to wind up back in the same spot very quickly
• By the same token, you can just skip trying to untangle the various levels and just "wrap" a POSITIVE emotion around the entire bundle, adding a higher logical level or frame, and changing the meaning of the entire lot!
• For instance, you might imagine what it would feel like if you were FASCINATED with your depression... and then you became excited about it
• This doesn't make "logical" sense, but try it
• Imagine what it would feel like to be happy about being annoyed
• Imagine how an emotion like jealousy would be changed by feeling joy about it
• When you wrap one emotion around another, it forever changes the first
Finally, you can stack and layer POSITIVE emotional states on top of one another, and build very powerful combinations that literally propel you forward. Creating these super-reinforced emotional states Is one way to Inoculate yourself against negative thinking and responses. Here are some examples:
Excitement about being successful
Anticipation about fulfillment
Joy about satisfaction
Gratitude about confidence about excitement
Imagine how each of these feels for a moment (repeat each)
Take a few minutes, and build a few powerful Metastates for yourself, and Imagine what they would feel like
Commit to programming yourself with these new Metastates every day In the future, and using them in challenging situations
% % Objectifying Your Demons
• Ken Wilber says that when you objectify one of your demons, describe it, talk about it, analyze it, and pick it apart you strip it of its power to run your life
• Objectifying, describing, analyzing, etc. is a way of REFRAMING
• Ifs very powerful because you begin to realize that this "demon" that has previously ruled your life is nothing more than an idea, a concept, a mind virus... or a programmed response... or an emotional reaction that you can take control of
• What are your own personal demons?
• Objectify, and thus reframe, your demons
• Objectify, and thus reframe, your demons
Shifting Your Locus Of Control Inside
• Most people take their cues for how they should act, feel, and think from the outside world
• They could be said to have an "Externa! Frame Of Reference" or an "External Locus Of Control"
• People who have an external frame of reference are unconsciously giving control away to others by looking to them for leadership
Definition: "Guided in thought and behavior by one's own set of values rather than societal standards or norms"
An Inner Directed person begins by considering what they want for themselves, and the outcome they are seeking -rather than beginning their thoughts and aspirations based on others
The Inner Directed person works to achieve their personal goals and objectives, and uses their own progress as their measuring stick
When it conies time to make important life decisions, the Inner Directed person bases them on their own personal values system - not the values of others
Internal Frame Of Reference
• An "Internal Frame Of Reference Person" or a "Self Referential Person":
• Uses themselves as the context or reference frame
• Considers their model of the world, self image, belief system and values to be the standards by which others are judged
• Compares progress made to their own standards, and works to improve their past results - not to beat the results of others
• Tends not to invest very much in what others say about them, because it doesn't really matter to them
A person who is "Field Independent":
• Tends to not follow the rules of "propriety" or being "politically correct"
• Doesn't base their actions or thoughts on the approval of society
• Thinks "outside the box" - and is typically very creative about it
• Feeis frustration when others try to push their rules or authority on them
• Tends to have a stronger personal constitution and be more emotionally resilient
Internal Locus Of Control
A person who has an "Internal Locus Of Control":
• Feels that they are the one that is in control of their life and the results they get in life
• Does not allow themselves to be victimized by others or by situations
• Is very clear that they can choose how they respond to situations physically, logically, and emotionally
• Approaches situations with the inner assumption that they can make things happen, change their outer environment to their liking, and create the results they want in the world
A person who can be described as "A Leader":
• Understands that most people are constantly looking for someone to follow and imitate
• Tends to do things that they know are the right thing to do without hesitation or watching carefully to make sure everyone else thinks so
• Isn't concerned with getting approval or acceptance from others
• Is focused on getting the outcome they want
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