Find out about her values and give her what she wants
This part can be put in practice during the whole seduction process from the beginning or later, depending on the situation. It is used as a method for collecting important information about the woman with the purpose of getting to know better how to seduce her.
As we have already seen, it can be also used as a way to feed her back her values and what is important to her and increase the effectiveness of your seduction.
If used well and in the correct way, it helps seduction. If used in the wrong way, it acts against you.
The correct way to use this technique is to use it so that the woman does not notice what you are doing.
Another important thing is: if you use this technique but don't behave in an Alpha way and don't create attraction, the seduction will not succeed regardless of what you do.
In your company she will feel as though she is with a girlfriend. So don't lean on this technique as your only mean to seduce.
This technique is extremely useful for detecting women in whom it is not worth investing your time. By using this technique you can understand in advance who the women with psychological problems are.
You can in this way also discover which are the women who are likely to give you trouble in some other way. This will enable you to remove them rapidly from your game.
You use this also to collect information about:
- Her family environment.
- Her father and mother.
Information about her father is very important for knowing how to seduce her. This will be covered in the upcoming books of the Encyclopedia of Pickup, Seduction and Female Relationships for the modern man.
- Her friends, relatives.
- Her past relationships with men: very important information for knowing how to seduce her.
Used together with the other techniques - so that the woman does not notice it -this is an extremely effective seduction technique.
The technique consists of two phases:
1. Trying to understand the woman's values: Finding out about her values.
2. Making her feel that she is in the company of the man with whom she can realize those values: Giving her what she wants.
Now let's see how it is done:
Finding out about her values: we will return to this subject in a different chapter because it is very important.
Here I shall describe this technique only briefly.
Practically speaking in both the small talk phase and in the rapport phase you talk with her in a discrete way also for the purpose of collecting information about her: the people and the activities she likes and particularly the type of man she likes.
Functional values are the things, the events and the people she likes and Inner values are the sensations and feelings she feels when she is in the company of the things, the events and the people she likes.
Practically speaking by using this technique you obtain information about the mental state she likes to be in. It is very important to collect information about the sensations and the mental state she likes to have when she is in the company of a man.
Finding out about her values is a technique directed first at knowing about the things she likes (functional values) and then which are the sensations and the feelings she feels when she is in the company of the things, events and people she likes (inner values.)
This will be described in more detail in another chapter. But now, let's have a look at the following example:
He: "So you like animals"
She: "Yes I adore animals" (this is a functional value. She likes animals.)
She: "His name is Rolf."
He: "Nice name. So you have fun with Rolf."
She: "Yes. What a sensation of sweetness and warmth when I am with him!"
(Those are inner values: the sensations of sweetness and warmth she feels with
Attention! As I said, finding out about her values has to be done so that she does not understand what you are doing. If she understands that you are collecting information for the purpose of getting her into bed, you will get the opposite effect.
If you ask too many direct questions, you come out as being pushy and get a very negative reaction. Even worse, if you give her the impression that you are asking about her feelings and mental states in order to please her, you put yourself in the subservient frame; she classifies you as a beta and non-confident and treats you like a girlfriend.
Giving her what she wants: after a while the seducer and the woman go on talking about other subjects. The seducer starts to use the information obtained when he found out about her values for seductive purposes:
He: "Strange. This evening I feel different."
She: "How do you feel this evening?"
He: "Maybe it is this sense of connection we feel here. There is a strange sense of sweetness I have not felt for long time."
He: "I don't know. The sweetness of this evening in the town makes me feel good. There is so much passion and warmth in the way you live. It is like we are having an incredible connection."
He just gave her what she wanted: making her experience those feelings with him.
Remember that NLP has demonstrated how words feed the brain with feelings and sensations. By describing a pink elephant or a panther we have people "seeing" and "feeling" a pink elephant or a panther.
He has her feeling the feelings she considers as pleasurable for her!
And has her link those feelings to his presence!
Now that is for a woman a much more valuable experience than for a man!
At this point the game is done. He lightly touches her hand and if she does not resist he takes her hand in his own. We are ready for the close.
Of course, this is only a simple example. In reality it is not that simple, but with practice you will become an artist and learn to perform all the infinite possible variations of the above.
Continue reading here: The concept of the frame of an interaction
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