Flirting Signals

Vocal signals

You may be surprised to see this heading in the 'Non-verbal flirting' section, but 'verbal' means 'words' and vocal signals such as tone of voice, pitch, volume, speed of speech, etc. are like body-language in that they are not about what you say, the words you use, but about how you say it. We noted at the beginning of this 'non-verbal' section that people's first impressions of you are based 55 on your appearance and body language, 38 on your style of speaking and only 7 on what you actually...

Develop your sense of humor

Flirt Humor

Take note of the things that make you laugh. Pay attention to what others find humorous. You don't have to be particularly quick-witted or a great storyteller in order to make others laugh. In fact, some of the funniest (and safest) material is that which is self-deprecating. As a side benefit this approach lets your listener know that you don't take yourself too seriously. Brush up on current events. Even with limited time, you can have a cursory knowledge of what's happening in the world....

Flirting with intent

But flirting is also an essential element of the mate-selection process, and when you are 'flirting with intent', rather than just 'flirting for fun', you need to be a bit more selective about your choice of target. In mate-selection flirting, there are two basic rules about who to flirt with that will increase your chances of success and reduce the likelihood of embarrassing rejections. 1. Do initiate flirtation with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself This will give...

Interpersonal distance

The distance you keep from the other person when flirting is important, because it will affect his or her impression of you, and the quality of your interaction. Perhaps even more importantly, paying attention to the other person's use of distance will tell you a great deal about his her reactions and feelings towards you. When you first approach an attractive stranger, having established at least an indication of mutual interest through eye contact, try to make eye contact again at about 4ft...

Eye contact

Your eyes are probably your most important flirting tool. We tend to think of our eyes mainly as a means of receiving information, but they are also extremely high-powered transmitters of vital social signals. How you look at another person, meet his or her gaze and look away can make all the difference between a successful, enjoyable flirtation and an embarrassing or hurtful encounter. Eye contact - looking directly into the eyes of another person - is such a powerful, emotionally loaded act...

How to Make Conversation or How to Kiss the Blarney Stone

The Blarney Stone is part of Blarney Castle in Ireland and thought to be half of the Stone of Scone on which Scottish Kings were crowned. It is believed that kissing the Blarney Stone can grant you the knowledge on how to make conversation and the gift of eloquence. There's no doubt the Irish can make conversation, who are we to question tradition Knowing how to make conversation and having real eloquence in conversation are things many of us wish we had but travelling to Blarney Castle in...

Opening lines

When the subject of flirting comes up, most people seem to be obsessed with the issue of 'opening lines' or 'chat-up lines'. Men talk about lines that work and lines that have failed women laugh about men's use of hackneyed or awkward opening lines, and all of us, whether we admit it or not, would like to find the perfect, original, creative way to strike up a conversation with someone we find attractive. The answer, perhaps surprisingly, is that your opening line is really not very important,...

Mistake 4 Letting the conversation drag

Whoa This is one of the most commonly committed errors by men -- talking too long and trying desperately to keep this hot chick in front of you for as long as possible. Until, of course, the conversation starts to lag and you find yourself toeing the floor in front of you, repeating things that were funny at the beginning of the conversation, and then finally the dreaded 10 seconds of silence before saying OK, well I'll give you a call. You know what I am talking about. Solution -- When you get...

Conversation Making Conversation A Skill Not an

Do cocktail parties strike terror in your heart If so, you are not alone. Although the ability to converse with others comes naturally to some, it is a skill that most of us must develop. Many women don't realize that effective conversation has little to do with what you know, but everything to do with how you present yourself. The 19th century French novelist Guy de Maupassant said it best Conversation is the art of never appearing a bore, of knowing how to say everything interestingly, to...

How To Make Small Talk

Lifestyle Correspondent - Every Wednesday Forget about having a whole conversation with someone the thought of making small talk, whether it's with a date, coworker or stranger, makes your palms sweat (in which case you want to avoid shaking the person's hand at all costs). And your inability to make small talk hinders your ability to approach people in the first place. Just think about all the possibilities this eliminates. When you're standing around with someone you're not that close to,...

How to Read Female Flirting Signals

It's a girl's non-verbal flirting signals that give a guy the green light to approach her. Guys, if you're not sure, look for several of these signs of flirting. One alone means little or nothing - her lips felt dry she has an itch or a stiff neck - but when the signs come together, she's up for it She'll give good face. From a distance, you might get a direct look, prolonged eye contact, smiling - and it couldn't be a great deal clearer than that. If she's a little more shy, there'll be short,...

Flirting from afar

You will be amazed what a single, well-aimed look can achieve when it comes to scoring with the opposite sex. Making eye contact is the first and easiest thing you could ever do to show someone that they have got your attention. First, lock down on your target, be it Craig from accounts or the stunner at the end of the bar, by shooting them a coy, fleeting glance. When your eyes meet, hold their gaze for one sweet second before looking down or away. This move can be repeated as often as you...