Goal Setting Motivational Software
As the saying goes, If they need money, they get money if they need people, they get people if they need ideas, they get ideas. It is also true that like attracts like. Act successful, do the things successful people do, and you will be successful. These actions develop confidence, belief in yourself and, most importantly, they create desire, which will enable you to pursue your goals regardless of obstacles, resistance, circumstances or the opinions and actions of others. People who don't really succeed in life, do so because they lack direction and motivation. Without a goal as a guide, you are like a ship at sea with no rudder. You will end up wherever the seas and wind take you you have no choice. Be the master of your own fate. Co wherever you wish. Become whatever you choose. Have whatever you desire. 4. How much effort are you willing to put into the pursuit of your goals If there are limitations, you are after the wrong goal. Any obstacle between you and what...
This chapter is about goal setting deciding exactly what you want and beginning the process of getting it. If you're an incurable romantic, you may be wondering why we're talking about goal setting at all in a book about seduction. Perhaps you think any mention of goals in this context sounds too much like business and not enough like pleasure. Maybe you believe goal setting will rob seduction of its mystery and magic. Relax That's not the intent here at all. Being a romantic myself, I'm a great fan of mystery and magic but I am also a firm believer in taking a proactive approach in all areas of life. In truth, goal setting is every bit as valid in your personal life as in your business dealings. Think of it this way Most of us have experienced romances that ended in disaster, or perhaps just in disappointment. And why did this happen More than likely it was because we set out blindly, with no idea of what we truly wanted and needed. We didn't have any goals we just let things happen....
All the great men in history have had massive beliefs that motivated amazing feats. Think of the passion behind Mel Gibson characters, Virgin Records and Airline billionaire Richard Branson, and Hugh Hefner. Making genuine effort towards your goals demonstrate that you're a cause and a power in life, which is unlike submissive wussboys. Trying not to move forward or just following others reeks of unattractiveness.
You need to know what you want up front so that you do not mislead either yourself or the women you date. If you only want casual dating, you have to be cognizant of your goal and do only the things that a man would do for a woman he was interested in dating - not marrying - such as resisting the urge to send poetry and flowers every week. Your goal will also affect your planning and strategies as you get phone numbers and set your dates each week. (We'll cover this in more detail in the planning section.) Your goal keeps you on track, like a homing mechanism.
You see, you have to be willing - and even a little eager, as sick as that sounds - to go through a little discomfort to get to your goals with women. Men don't have the built-in sexual instincts that women are brought up with. Women study this stuff every week, from reading Teen magazine to Cosmopolitan, and they know how the game works and how to play to win.
Your goal should be to make a woman feel good first, and then she will automatically be drawn to you by virtue of your behavior. Mind you, making her feel good does not include things like buying her flowers, or writing her love poems, or singing to her. There's the myth that Hollywood movies promote, and then there's the reality of what makes a woman truly attracted and sexually interested in a man.
O Use negs with 9s and preferably 10s only. Don't use a neg on a 7 or 8. The 7s and 8s know what they are - cute, sweet, pretty etc - but not drop-dead beautiful. Their confidence in their own beauty is only fairly high and it could easily be destroyed by a neg. Shaking their confidence too much and making them self-conscious could quite easily make them hate you instead of wanting to be down with you - and that's not what you want ) The 9s and 10s however KNOW they are beautiful - they've been told so all their lives and then there's always the mirror to confirm that ) So your neg will confuse and intrigue them and maybe even shake their confidence a little bit, but only enough for them to fall from the clouds (which is where many 9s and 10s spend much of their time ) to the ground (which is where you are waiting for them ) Compare that to falling from the ground into a deep hole, which could easily happen to a 7 or 8 should you happen to neg her, and you'll see, why you should be...
Use humour to get you started - or even give you a head-start ) Ross Jeffries Let's talk about using humour for a minute. Not only do most women LOVE a guy who can make them laugh laughing shifts a woman's physiology and mental focus, interrupting her thought patterns and creating a temporary blank, which YOU can then fill in. Just think about it a second. Have you ever been in a rotten mood, and then a friend suddenly makes you laugh What happens You start feeling a hell of a lot better, don't you What Ross Jeffries suggests as an almost perfect approach is using a humorous comment to get her to laugh, then all you have to do is to follow
As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your ideal woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what you want, even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive direction. By knowing what you want, you'll be able to eliminate undesirable types of women. You want to meet and get women you desire with little hassles or wasted efforts.
You've gone to a movie and are now having a bite to eat at a restaurant make sure she pays for her movie and for her meal you don't want to be wasting your money until she has expressed her interest in you in a most convincing fashion - has had sex with you ) . Instead of letting the date drag on to that awkward time when she finally says she has to go home, maintain control of the evening you should be running patterns here, getting kino, making her feel connected to you, getting her horny and wet etc, but this whole dating advice is obviously intended for those lacking the appropriate skills ) . While the conversation is still good, while the date is still going well, announce that it's getting late and it's time to go. Tell her that you enjoyed the evening what a lie, your goal wasn't to stuff your stomach and see a movie, your goal was to tongue her down, make her horny like she'd never been and give her the orgasm of her life ) and that you are...
Even during the remote possibility, that she doesn't display immediate interest, you still have plenty of options to evoke it - eliciting values, conversing on general patterning themes or even outright patterning, displaying the general attractive traits of humour and confidence plus anything you came to know she wants in a man via eliciting values etc etc. However, even if you need a follow-up technique to continue with, thanks to your initial pacing of the ongoing reality you're well on your way to getting her to like you. And from there on to well, whatever your goal happens to be )
Another part of this understanding is that there will be circumstances that will be difficult for you to overcome to make radical changes in your approach to women. Sometimes these are social limitations, like your peer group. Sometimes they are family issues, such as how you were brought up and the expectations placed upon you there. I would be ignorant to tell you to just change if there are factors underlying your current situation that you have difficulty changing. What I will give you is the understanding you need to begin working towards your goal and start the process of change from the inside as well as the outside.
If instead you come off as being whiny and desperate, it only exposes the fact that your focus is mainly on what's in it for you i.e., sex, love, a feeling of being normal, an end to your loneliness and isolation, a trophy to show off to your friends, etc. In other words, you see her only as a means for an advancement of your own selfish goals. This is dehumanizing. Why Because anyone could theoretically serve this purpose, there's nothing to make the particular women whom you've come to focus your interest on feel special in any way. You're acting exactly like the callus, crooked car salesman who's begging you to buy some jalopy just so he can get his hands on a fucking commission. Guess what She will do to you precisely what you would do to the slimy salesman she tells you to go fuck off. She rejects you And for the very same reasons you have no regard for how she's supposed to benefit from the transaction. That's no way to go around selling yourself and the boot marks all over your...
No matter where you are in your life, you should always know who you want to be. To build your self-confidence you need to know who you are, know where you are going, and be actively involved in making your goals reality. If you don't like something about yourself, or you want to try something new, then you should start using your spare time to achieve these personal goals. Take a class, attend a seminar, or enjoy other activities that will help you become who you want to be. It won't take long for you to start building the self-confidence to which so many women are attracted.
I'll cover theories in detail, starting with getting your game together through self-improvement right at the top of the list. From there we'll cover the relationship continuum, female psychology (yes, they can be understood), dysfunction and traps to watch out for, sexual practices, and some actual plans you can use to make your goals real. I'll add some wisdom from the great thinkers and strategists along the way, as well as highlighting the important principles for you with lists and visual examples. I'll spell out the goals you're aiming for, and I'll even give you the word-for-word phrasings you can use. I'll give you examples of male-female interactions to make these concepts work.
Everything you do will either increase or decrease a woman's attraction for you during the early stages of dating. This is the result you are looking to influence, and the ultimate bottom line. From here on out, I will point out what works for and against this so that we can stay focused on the results you want to achieve.
While your self-confidence is certainly influenced by events in the outside world, ultimately, it comes from within you. But just what is self-confidence It is the belief that you can achieve your goals, perform well in completing the tasks you face, and deal with challenges without being overwhelmed. It is a freedom from fear, arising from the knowledge that you are a competent, capable person. ment program soieJy to ptease or imp-reis somebody else. It'i certainly air right H pleasing another person is part of your motivation having someone else root for you can encourage you to keep up the good work, But whether you're losing ment program soieJy to ptease or imp-reis somebody else. It'i certainly air right H pleasing another person is part of your motivation having someone else root for you can encourage you to keep up the good work, But whether you're losing
In the sport of bodybuilding, you literally have to work your muscles to the point of exhaustion and then go beyond that to the point of failure to do any good. Actual microscopic rips and tears appear in the muscle tissue and the body responds by manufacturing more cell mass. The next time, you must lift more, go faster or push yourself farther to re-create another small amount of damage. Do this enough times and you can build up huge amounts of muscle by adding them layer-by-layer, a little bit-by-bit at a time. Body builders have a name for the mindset you need to maintain in order to stay focused down this difficult path No Pain, No Gain. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. horniness works against you as much as it does for you by obliterating your motivation to pursue real women. Sure, you scope them out and fantasize about tons of them every day, but since fear controls your actions it remains impossible to break through the barriers that rejection sensitivity and...
You see, you have to be willing - and even a little eager, as sick as that sounds -to go through a little discomfort to get to your goals with women. Men don't have the built-in sexual instincts that women are brought up with. Women study this stuff every week, from Teen magazine to Cosmopolitan, to know how the game works and how to win. They've always had the upper hand.
The first part of self-discipline is your willingness to pay a price, to do what you need to in order to reach your goal. Will you lose a few pounds Will you get at least a little in-shape Will you curb your need to fart in public Will you take the time and energy to go out on Friday to a ballroom dance class instead of watching wrestling If you start eating right and exercising the way an athlete does, you'll get those results. If you start approaching women the way I will explain, you will get more dates and more women in your life. If you start to take control of your thoughts and plan for your goals, you'll get them. It's not really complicated, is it
An interesting discussion on clothing and how to dress properly In addition to looking more appealing to girls a change
A confident person has no problem saying Hi to a stranger, and since the first part of this Boot Camp is geared toward building confidence, the goal of this exercise is to go around and say Hi or Hello to a total of 50 strangers during this week. Again, you can say Hi to any person you see, but since eventually your goal will be to get girls, you will want to practice saying Hi to attractive girls. Also, when greeting strangers, practice doing so with a smile and have fun.
As a review, just remember to stay focused on the process of flirting and kidding around with women, and release yourself from worrying about what the outcome should be. If you come to view the opportunity to flirt as a fun thing to do for it's own sake, instead of choking on the pressure of trying to score with her, you'll at least be able to function. The pressure of trying to score all the time is too much even for guys who are good at it, much less for the unskilled and the low confident. Being able to feel you have no goal in mind but to have a little verbal banter defuses the pressure cooker and re-frames what's happening in your mind so that it isn't so life and death. This allows you to 1) open your mouth and not be afraid to at least say something thus subduing your rejection sensitivity, and 2) assume a relaxed attitude that takes you light-years down the right track towards actually doing the thing that you're not really even trying to do, i.e., seduce her
Your victims live in their own worlds, their minds occupied with anxieties and daily concerns. Your goal in this initial phase is to slowly separate them from that closed world and fill their minds with thoughts of you. Once you have decided whom to seduce (1 Choose the right victim), your first task is to get your victims' attention, to stir interest in you. For those who might be more resistant or difficult, you should try a slower and more insidious approach, first winning their friendship (2 Create a false sense of security approach indirectly) for those who are bored and less difficult to reach, a more dramatic approach will work, either fascinating them with a mysterious presence (3 Send mixed signals) or seeming to be someone who is coveted andfought over by others (4 Appear to be an object of desire).
When you ' ve gotten the result from the goal you wee aiming for, you have accomplished it. When you deal with someone, specifically someone who ' s contribution on some level helps move you toward getting your goal, you sometimes have to accommodate them. (Do them a favor, or commit to doing them a favor, or be more patent about something you normally would not.) wanting something different, something more fulfilling, than you already have. Without that, you would not even try, much less try new things, in new ways, for new reasons. New reasons that will motivate yourself to do the things you need to, in order to get it done, and over with, so you can enjoy where you ' ve arrived And THAT is when you will grow, and advance, and evolve. As if like a breath upon the embers that ignite the fire, which will unleash the phoenix that is your Alpha. As smple as it sounds, directing your internal voice only requires that you dwell on solutions instead of obstacles. Understand that this is...
This one I want to make fun for you to do, because we tend to be motivate to push ourselves when there ' s an element of fun in doing it. D) Let ' s play let ' s pretend. I want you to close your eyes, and imagine what someone who is ALREADY MAKING MONEY THIS WAY would behave like. What would motivate THEM to put in the effort to make what they love to do, a way to make money How would THEY talk to people to get them interested in buying How much time each day would THEY spend on getting things done so they were makng money at it What resources would THEY be usmg How would THEY make sure that they sell a product that people are happy with How would THEY stay focused on maintaining what needed to get done I accept that I want to make money doing what I love to do, and will notice ways that will make it become a reality. I accept that I might be discouraged some times, but I will also be motivated some times, so the more I commit to actually doing what I should do, instead of just...
What differentiates a rambler from a good conversationalist is the ability to be a good listener This is a skill that
This is a good thing to do in any situation. If she looks away for a second, feel free to look at any other body part, but keep them on the eyes when she looks back at you. This is not a stare. Just be relaxed, and act like she has your focus. You can think about something else if it keeps your ears from bleeding. Also, keep a light smile, or grin on, like you agree with, or enjoy what she is saying.
Tip 8 Strike the delicate balance between being deadly serious and coming on like a Robin Williams clone
You're confident that your clever quips are funny, so you don't need to spray tons of them all around the room, right Just relax and stay focused on the process of flirting and having fun getting a little rise out of her-- don't get all wrapped up in her reaction or fretting about if you're putting through a positive impression of yourself or not. If you stay cool and reserved, you are.
Beliefs determine the range of your existence and the limits of your performance. Before you can accomplish something, you must believe that it can be done. Most beliefs that we have regarding our world and our abilities are products of accident or childhood indoctrination by parents or peers. Some of these beliefs still serve us well. But, as almost all of them were patterns laid down accidentally (as opposed to deliberately), many do not. In this chapter, we invite you to take control of your own beliefs and deliberately instill ones that serve you in your goals in the most effective manner possible. Feel free to expand on the on the ones presented here, or to come up with brand new ones that suit you even better. As for the old beliefs - do not give them too much heed any more. The more energy you focus on the new, more effective, more fun beliefs, the more the brain will automatically allow the tired old beliefs to wither on their own.
Let me define a term I'll use in this section Affectations. Affectations are those things we wear or do that are a bit on the extreme side, and can sometimes come across with a certain amount of pretentiousness. They seem exaggerated in the overall makeup of a person. For example, I live in San Francisco, CA, and there are many people who live in the Bay Area that have the counter-culture look body piercings, tattoos, pink hair, and every other imaginable adornment. Most of the time, these people tend to come across with a Hey Look at me appearance. While I'm not judging or condemning them in any way, I feel it's necessary to point out that if you are going to reflect your personality in your appearance this strongly, you will risk limiting your options. The grooming and personal hygiene that I'm proposing here supposes that you are not of the radical appearance variety, and that you want to make yourself as presentable as possible. I'm asking that you think over your style and make...
This is just one of my ideas on how you might be able to avoid this fate for yourself. In a word, don't settle. If you stay focused on acting the part of the high status male at all times, you'll have enough opportunities to keep processing the numbers you need to find a high quality match and have some fun along the way. This is the perfect way to get your own jollies out so you'll be comfortable enough to give it all up and settle down when that right one comes along for you. No regrets, no feeling like you missed out on something.
In order to achieve your goal, you must be aware of the dynamic at work between you and the woman you have targeted. She is a woman, and has a built-in thermometer on her excitement level. At each stage of her familiarity with you, she has to overcome a certain level of built-in mistrust in order to keep interacting with you.
By doing this, you do not let them get out of your awareness, and you don't push them away, either. Once you have control by your Occupation, you then use the principles of Aikido (another martial art) to use your opponent's energy and move them, redirecting their energy toward your goal. Take her energy and move with it. Redirect it to your goal.
The use of mental tricks serves to make women seem less intimidating to you. Changing your perspective changes your focus in a more effective direction. Playing a role allows you to play the part of someone confident. And the Inoculation technique allows you to become gradually desensitized, making the process as easy as possible for you.
Self-fulfilling prophecy is a very real and powerful force for good, or bad, in the persistent pursuit of goals and success. Choose your goals carefully the chances are that you'll reach them. Act as if Reaching your goals and desired achievements is truly only a matter of time. You are the director and master of your actions and achievements. Soon, your subconscious mind will accept the suggestions you give, and it will produce results you desire.
A lot of guys use the wrong leverage on a woman, or don't take the time to educate themselves to what really motivates certain woman. If you know a woman is vain, you know that her appearance to others is of primary importance to her. If you can cast her into doubt about it, you can have a strong effect on her. That's where teasing comes into play. You cast a beautiful woman's appearance into doubt with a tease about her hair being interesting instead of absolutely gorgeous. You're not insulting her, you're just letting her own emotions move her in the direction you desire. First, identify the result you want to obtain. Do you want to quit smoking If that's your goal, then the second thing to do is find a strong emotion of yours that you can
Especially if date number one was a date-ette. The location reflects a lot about you and how you feel about your companion. You don't have to spend a bundle, but if your goal is getting to know what makes your date tick emotionally and spiritually, a loud concert may not be the best way to go.
In order to observe the world around you, you cannot be stuck in your own head. Turn your focus outward. Turn your focus outwards. This will help you a lot in overcoming nervousness and approach anxiety. Sometimes men become consumed with the internal dialogue going on in their heads, Am I well dressed enough Will she like me Etc. This internal dialogue creates a vicious cycle. Once, you have internalized being relaxed, go to the next level What kind of a girl is she Is she bored at the moment How is her interaction with her friend
If you feel that option A is more painful, you'll probably never do what it takes to meet more women and get more pussy in your life. If you feel B is more painful, you need to keep remembering that pain every time you're faced with the chance to meet a woman and you feel you might weasel out of talking to her. In fact, all you have to do to motivate yourself to action is have a ready-made mental image of the pain you will feel if you don't do it, and then summon it up on command. Imagine it with all the gory details, so that you convince yourself to finally do something. Imagine that pain, and then turn up all the factors that make it intense for you. Now that's motivating Well, the sad fact of life is that we are more motivated by the possible punishment for not doing something than we are by the pleasure we receive from doing it. It's much easier to see the pain of a situation than the pleasure of it. Pain is much more vivid and motivating. Now, I don't recommend you motivate any...
Before I begin, the most important thing I want you to understand is that the phone email IM are all just tools that you use to meet her in person, so keep the convo interesting but don't ramble on for more than say 10-15 minutes or you have already wittled away valuable conversation time MINUS the kino Your goal here is to get her live and in person.
Just choose the girl you want to approach on the street, in a shopping mall or anywhere else. Try to make eye contact with her. Whether she looks back at you or not, smile, then go straight up to her. Don't approach her from behind or from the side. Your goal is not to scare her to death, but to talk to her. When you're in front of her, raise your hand gently and say, Stop, while still smiling and looking in her eyes. If she is located elsewhere, like sitting on a bench, sit next to her. Your state should be the same as when approaching a girl in a club. Be happy about meeting her and show it. You can use one of the I like you lines Hi I like you. You have a beautiful smile. Wherever you are on the street traveling on the subway or sitting in a caf if you see a girl that you like showing signs of interest in you, you SHOULD approach her. If you're pressed for time or are in a situation where one of you is in a hurry, there is a nice line I like to use. She is rarely approached with...
The other approach is to advance your assault, relentlessly. You must take every opportunity to move in on her, furthering toward your goal. Forward - Forward -Forward. You can pause between assaults (in fact, it's very necessary) but you keep going FORWARD. Never backwards.
A boss can also elicit greater productivity from his workers. He might say to an employee, Mark, you've been at this desk for hours and I can see results. You must be a hardworking person with your sights on your goal Keep up the good work. The boss attributes the good business results to hard work and prioritizing. Mark will subconsciously make the internal attribution that he is indeed hardworking and act consistently with this belief. A simple declaration yields a field of surprises.
In order to get what you want out of life, you've got to have a goal. Now, there's more than enough success literature out there to get you on the path (read Think and grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, or Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins for a start.) I will only re-state that you will drastically enhance your success in life if you would only write your goals down. If there's one thing you can do to improve your dating, it's to sit down with a pen and paper and write down the following (refer to the worksheet supplied with this book)
You can either use the affirmations I provide, or come up with some of your own. I would suggest a combination of both. The key to remember when creating an affirmation, is to use words your mind will accept. For example, you wouldn ' t want to have an affirmation like, My ability to fly like a bird grows stronger every day because your mind is going to hear that and go Fly Humans can't fly, so I reject that. You want to have affirmations that your mind can accept as poss e. For example, it ' s very possjble that you could have a job makng more money, so a good affirmation would be Ay ability to fnd a way of making more and more money is growing stronger while a bad affirmation would be My ability to find a way to make a billion dollars overnight is growing stronger. (Granted, it might still wok, but why be so specifc as to say a Billion If you only make 900 million overnight, then you will have missed your goal, right )
The sheer act of writing this information down in as much detail as you can muster will create an image in your subconscious mind that will help you achieve this goal. Be specific and realistic. And have the self-discipline to track your results, and hold yourself to your goals. Create a strategy to reach this goal (the what will you do part listed above) and then plan out your tactics for each step along the way and you will be assured success. Your goal is your compass for your actions. Always remember this, because along the way you will be very tempted to go off course - to get in arguments, buy her gifts, etc. - and remembering your goal for your dating will keep you from making mistakes. Always think to yourself Do I want to be right, or do I want to get what I want
But first, let's investigate what hers are. Without further ado, I now present what I feel are the Four Primary Emotional Needs that motivates every woman on the planet to find that perfect guy and, how to behave in a manner that suggests that you can be the guy to deliver on them
In today's society, the better you are able to assimilate information, the easier and more successfully you can compete. Reading is the basis of learning and of personal growth. The loftier the goals, the more knowledge will be required to reach those goals. The more knowledge you gain, the loftier your goals and accomplishments will become. The two go hand in hand. Set definite reading goals while you are using the program. Follow the 4-week program that is outlined for you. Set goals that require you to take action. Study what your gains will be with each step you take. Ask yourself What is in it for me
If you are on a date and have established some rapport, now you move to the next step and you can establish deep rapport and introduce some of the elements mentioned here. Deep rapport is the right time to talk about why we do what we do, what drives us, what motivates us, and what makes us strive in life. It's the time to talk about life, philosophy, our goals, and how these things make us feel.
But more important than managing your time, is managing the deasons you make obout your time. It's one thing to make the majority of your time spent on things that will directly or indirectly get you to your goal (more money, better reloti'onships, improved heolth, etc.) But it's another thing all together to sabotage yourself by thinkng you ' ve done enough to meet a particular goal each day. The best type of Alpha that I have seen, make better decissons about his her time. They place things in levels of importance right away, while staying focused on the task they are doing at the moment. For example, there are times when I need my solitude, my own time to be alone. Often I will use that time to read, to write, maybe escape to a move, spend time someplace to just sit and think, take a bike ride somewhere I have not visited before, whatever I want to use my time doing.
This goes back to what I discussed before about staying as truthful as you can during the seduction process. If you lie to her to get her into bed, you will pay a price. What goes around comes around. The best thing you can do is to be honest up front about what your goals are. Some guys think this will scare her off, but in most cases it will actually take the pressure off her and make it easier to complete the seduction.
In addition to being able to make friends with all their girlfriends, keeping girls as pivots has the added benefit of letting you be seen with girls. This makes other girls envious and intrigued about you, and presents you as a challenge as opposed to you being alone, thus easy and a bore plus a looks-like-nobody-wants-him-anyway . So get to know beautiful girls and their girlfriends, hang out with them, network, make them your pivots whenever appropriate. One word of caution though - don't forget that being friends with beautiful girls and making them your pivots is not your GOAL, it is only a side-strategy ) You do remember what your goal is, don't you )
Being engaged with others and having a social circle is also comforting to women. It makes you seem normal , as though you have a stake in Life (you do, don't you ). That's why it's no crime to change your focus for a moment now and then to chat with friends or acquaintances, so long as it doesn't turn into your completely ignoring her for any undo length of time.
Any woman you are interested in will have a definite style that she dresses by. Your goal is to match her style by dressing in a similar fashion - this could be sporty, casual, professional, or trendy. If you have your eye on a particular woman, you should try to reflect her appearance. A woman will notice men who are portraying an image similar to her own. If you are interested in a type of woman different from those you have dated previously, maybe it's time that you take a look at yourself and change your image. Project the image you desire and you will attract women with that image.
First of all, whatever your goals in life are, you will only achieve them by having a mentor (or several mentors, if you have the ambition). We all must believe in something, and we must all believe in someone. The first person you should first believe in, is yourself. If you don ' t believe in yourself, you will second guess your most important dec sions and choices not to mention doubt the value of your own identity. But it can sometimes be a challenge to believe in yourself. Especially if you focus on what has
Consider this very carefully, because it is the essential difference between men and women with respect to sex. Each gender has a different priority when it comes to sex. If you expect her to jump you within minutes of flirting with her, you're heading for disappointment. The truth is that most women are not willing to rush into sex with a man. If quick sex is your goal, you're going to have to put up with more than your share of rejection and frustration. You can get it only to the degree that you attend to her needs and innermost attraction mechanism.
On the other hand, if she replies You don't remember We drank, danced, made out, and came back here then you know that she did like the experience and your company. This is good. This means that if you play your cards right and not seem too desperate, she will want to see you again. You now start to act as if you only did that because you were drunk. You don't want to come across as if you regret it, but you don't want to be all cuddly like Ross from Friends. Your goal is to make it seem as if you were the catch of the night. She caught you. You are about to leave her net unless she does something.
So far, you have flirted, met amazing people and exchanged numbers. All of your goals so far have been achieved. Your confidence is soaring, you look great, life looks so much brighter and more colourful than ever before. It's now time to reflect on your amazing achievement, before you move on. 1. Firstly, what is my objective goal Do you just want to go out with different people and not commit to anyone or is your goal to find a partner with a long-term view, a life partner, marriage or children If you are just dating for fun, then no major questions are required as the impact on your life is limited to that date and that's all. If, however, your goal for the date is to discover if he she has the qualities you require for a long-term relationship, what questions are you going to generate for that
She wants, she'll begin to lose that gentlemanly picture of you she'd been building in her mind. In its place will be an overbearing, chauvinistic man much like all the others she's dealt with. You really don't want that to happen if seduction is your goal. Remember, she will appreciate you much more for taking the time and effort to learn exactly what she likes, wants, feels, thinks and needs because this is a sure sign that you care, want to understand her and want to make her as happy and feel as special as you possibly can. And after all, isn't that what we all want
A little idiocy is great for confidence. The game Crash and Burn. The object of this game is to crash and burn. Hit women with the worst lines, the most outrageous innuendoes, lame pickups, and so forth. Go down in flames repeatedly. Have fun doing this. Make this your goal. Okay, now you've been shot down in the most horrendous of ways. Fun, wasn't it And you are still alive And a whole lot more desensitised. Yes, this does work. I had six women laughing for an hour this way at a party. It's based on the Juggling school of management. In brief they teach you to juggle in order to be a better manager. The first thing that they have you do is drop the balls. You spend five or ten minutes practising this. The lesson is that you can't be afraid of dropping the balls. Screwing up isn't' failure, it's just screwing up.
If you didnt achieve rapport and some success raising her attraction during the first date with her the kiss is no
She will probably just kiss you to end things nicely and to not make things awkward. In fact, even if you don't think you got on so well with her, you may go for the kiss and be surprised to find her eager and willing. An Alpha Man always ends the date with a kiss. So if your goal is the kiss, go for it. You've got nothing to lose.
Surely it is better to be on your own for a while finding the right person, than to spend the next five years regretting what you have chosen. If you feel you just can't be alone, ask yourself why Being with someone just for the sake of it is not healthy for either party. If you are desperate for children, don't settle for anyone who seems OK. Look at this process as an adventure, a journey of discovery. Create a relationship you can be proud of. Know that through your past learnings and this process that the choice you have made is undeniably right for you. Most of all have fun and enjoy your new adventure. Be clear of your goal and take constant action towards the goal,
Once the situation has reached green light status, you may feel that you've apologized and given in too much. You may feel wimpy Don't. Remember that your goal is to achieve a stable, emotionally positive situation. Once you have that positive ambiance, you can start getting what you want.
Most importantly, establish your goal and take steps to work towards it, every day. If you do this, you cannot fail. Thank you so much for reading this short book. I would love to hear your experiences, so send me your flirting and relationship stories to feedback datingshoes.com
You're starting to date the girl, but you are not exactly sure how to operate. Do you show her that you're interested, and that you want her Or do you treat her like any other person and make her think that maybe you're not that interested. Well, both strategies are correct and incorrect. Your goal either way is to seduce her properly, hence this post.
One of the drawbacks to the single life is that it's easily embraced as a lifestyle if you're not careful. It's takes no effort at all to backslide into self-centered abandon to the point where you no longer care about the feelings of anyone else. Understand that low-horniness obliterates your motivation to pursue real women. Sure, you scope them out and fantasize about tons of them every day, but since fear controls all your actions it remains difficult to break through the barriers that rejection sensitivity and shame have placed around you. The valuable thing about horniness is that it's one of the few emotion-states that is powerful enough to challenge and overpower fear. By keeping your horniness in a perpetually depressed state your male superpower remains weakened and useless.
Body language that occurs naturally is much more subtle than what is displayed on film. Thus, I recommend examining any image meant to explain body language with this in mind. Not to mention the fact that when we are interacting with someone there are many distractions taking place all around use. It is sometimes very difficult to discern which cues are useful from those that are simply random. That's why looking over the photographs more than once can help. Repetition will move the cues into a place in your mind where identifying them will become second nature, shifting your focus back on your dialogue. messages is not worthy of pursuing. Instead of going after every woman, you can put your focus on a select few who are giving off positive cues of attraction. Happy hunting
The Head Line tells about how a person's intelligence is applied, how a person thinks and to a minor degree the well-being of the physical brain. The deeper and more clear this line the more potent the thinking processes of its owner. A thin delicate, islanded, chained or frayed head line tells you that the person is nervous, anxious, sensitive and indecisive, being too easily effected by arguments and the pressures of another's idea or will power. If the head line is short, the person is more instinctive and action motivated. If the head line is longer, the person is mentally oriented, wants to learn about many things, and has good mental focus. If the head line is more straight, the person is very logical, reasoning and wants the facts. If the line is sloping downward, the person is imaginative, creative and more sensitive. When there are deep dots or dents present on this line or islands sometimes this tells of headaches and possible physical problems with the brain itself. Other...
Light and amusing, always make them laugh. Important keep your humor on the clever side, never sarcastic or as an attempt to take a subtle shot at someone (women are very sensitive to this), and don't go overboard with the funny stuff or you'll come off as a clownish boy instead of a seductive man. Men are humorous -- boys are foolish jokers who don't know when to quit. It's painfully obvious when you're so happy to have someone finally cracking up at your stupid jokes that you don't know when to slide off the stage. You're confident that your clever quips are funny, so you don't need to spray a lot of them around the room. Just relax and stay focused on the process of flirting, don't get all wrapped up in her reaction or fretting about if you're putting through a positive impression of yourself or not. If you stay cool and reserved, you are.
When stacked beside each other, we are more motivated by the fear of pain than the promise of pleasure. There are many reasons for this Your goal is to use this principle to bring more pleasure to both you and the women you date. You never willingly use a threat of pain, since this is implied in the absence of the pleasures we offer. A woman will know that to turn down your offer of a fun, exciting date is stupid, and she will not risk your giving that pleasure to another woman. This is a type of woman I didn't include in the previous section for a reason. I don't feel there's anything necessarily wrong with her desire, only that looking to fulfill herself through a fairy-tale family skews her decision process. Happily-ever-after is what she's been looking for her whole life, ignoring herself. Her goal is a distortion created from her self-image. This makes it doubly important that you have your goals clear and can see what is happening.
Change can happen instantly, but habit takes time and conscious effort. So no matter how quickly you begin to notice and feel the improvements, you will only get the long lasting and quality habits though repeat practice and staying focused on the improvements. So keep doing it until it works. After all, haven't you grown tired of not having the life you admire others having
Doing things that scare us is good for us. It is part of the challenge of life. It's how we grow. Successful people have adopted this mind set and it is the reason they have achieved so much. So, believe in yourself. Anything is possible, you just need to want it enough, so attach enough pain to not getting it and drive yourself towards your goal. Now is the time to live that life you deserve. Get that confidence. If you do see someone in the street you like, say Hi . You never know and what's the worst that can happen to you If they say they are not interested, is that really so bad Are we really that fragile
The heart line shows how we feel, the head line how we think and the life line how much physical vitality we have to sustain the body. The motivation to live is not shown by the life line alone. One's inspiration for life could be arising out of a strong emotional need to connect with someone, reflected by an intense heart line. The desire to live could be motivated by an urge for intellectual pursuits. This will be reflected by a strong head line more predominantly developed than either the line of life or heart. The Head Line tells about how a person's intelligence is applied, how a person thinks and to a minor degree the well-being of the physical brain. The deeper and more clear this line the more potent the thinking processes of its owner. A thin delicate, islanded, chained or frayed head line tells you that the person is nervous, anxious, sensitive and indecisive, being too easily effected by arguments and the pressures of another's idea or will power. If the head line is short,...
Should you reach this point and decide that you do want to date one woman exclusively (and, again, I state that this should only happen if your goal is a long-term relationship and you clearly understand what it is you are looking for) you must not ask her to be exclusive. If you truly want her to date only you, it must come as her choice. Younger women will want to date around more, in general, and older women (28+) will already have an idea of what they are looking for. No matter the age, all women will want to feel that it is their idea to be exclusive for
And while an Alpha is somewhat controlling, the most effective Alpha also has the flexibility to realize that other people can have the right answers too. Just because someone else has a better idea, does not make you less of an Alpha. Search history, and you will find that every great leader had advisors. This is vital to remember, because ego can fool you into thinkng that you must have ALL of the answers. The surest way to lead yourself to defeat, is to become deaf to words that could have inspired, and to become blind to the images that could have enhanced the visson of your goals.
This is the perfect communication, meaning your words, tone, and nonverbal gestures are all dancing to the same rumba They give out a matching message and they complement one another This means you'll look honest, genuine, as though you really mean what you're saying Congruent bodytalk is going to be your goal throughout this book
Now that we've covered how not to represent yourself, the question is how do you want to represent yourself The answer is that you should represent yourself in the manner that is best aligned with your goals and intrinsic nature. On one end of the spectrum is the archetype of the rogue -- the bad boy, the dangerous man. He's in it for the adventure, to play the field and have some fun. He doesn't concern himself too much with the long term. On the other end is the nurturer and potential husband. He's more of a one woman-one guy kind of person. Figure out where you are on this continuum now. Also figure out where you want to be on this continuum, because you can change your position based on the principles you've read about so far. However, in the end, you'll be most effective and have the greatest fulfillment when you align your external message with your internal nature.
O Goals These are your possible objectives for the encounter. You can't expect to pick up a woman at a Wal-mart and take her home for sex. That's not very realistic. But you can expect to get at least a phone number, and possibly an add-on coffee meeting somewhere nearby. Make sure you understand your goals for each situation.
If you're perfectly OK right where you are, why would you need this book The fact is that in order to reach your goals in dating or anything else in life, you have to believe that at every point along your journey of growth, you are complete. A sequoia seedling is always a sequoia at every point along its path to becoming a towering tree. You are always signaling to the universe I am okay , and the universe will agree with you. If you signal Well, I'll be okay if I just get this little part fixed, but I'm not quite okay right now, then the universe will agree with you also.
If you can place most of your focus on the act of flirting and little on the potential results - then you will find yourself in a position to look at the world in an entirely different light. Everywhere you turn flirtable women will be available for you to play with. I know that your relationship with the fear of rejection is very troublesome for you, but this new kind of attitude is a fantastic way to short-circuit away much of its power. When you flirt with a woman, you're just tickling around the edges of her psyche to determine if she has even the slightest amount of interest in you. If after a moment or two there doesn't seem to be any, then you simply move on no harm, no foul.
You will run into roadblocks along the way to your goal. It's as certain as the snap on her bra that you'll have a few moments of discomfort and uncertainty. A lot of guys run up against this barrier (what I call a pain threshold) and back away because they don't know how to handle it. The first time you get a few steps closer to a woman, and then she backs off when you crack a joke that she doesn't take too well, you'll feel panic hit you square in the gut. Most guys scramble to save face, trying too hard to make nice with her. Gee, uhm I'm sorry, I didn't mean that. Can I get you another drink It's been hardwired into a lot of guys' mental circuits that they need to get a woman's approval to get sex. This is a fundamental error men make in most seductions.
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Let's be clear again You are not taking her anywhere she wouldn't go willingly. But you must be the one to help her get where she wants to go in spite of herself. Most of the job of a salesperson is helping a person buy what they already want. Your goal is no different.
I Focus on your goals before you speak . This will motivate you, making your words feel real, which should make your gestures feel genuine, rather than coming across as rehearsed I Sell your message to yourself first . Ifyou believe what you're saying, then your body will fall into synchronization I Avoid exaggerations when you're trying to be convincing. The more you stress your point the more chance your gestures will let you down I Control your breathing and de-stress your body before you speak When pressure builds up your muscles tense, making natural-looking body language impossible Breathe out slowly to relax your body and give your hands and feet a little shake to relax the muscles in your arms and legs I If your shoulder muscles are tense, then your entire body will look awkward Drop them back and down and stretch your neck upward as this will unlock your posture
3.1 Decide your goals and what you are willing to invest it all depends on you 1. Think about what you're like, and decide what kind of woman you want and what qualities she should have. Of course, you should take it one step at a time and be realistic. If you're a virgin, you won't become a player next week and bed the hottest Playboy models. You'll have to put a lot of time and energy into achieving your goals. Stay rational, and never aim at something you know you can't have in the near future. It's better to have short-term goals and small successes than to have a big disappointment. 4. Depending on how the conversation goes, either carry on or leave. Remember, your goal is not to bed her tonight, but don't stop if that's about to happen. After executing the opener into the conversation, you'll understand how easy it is to talk to strangers, and you'll realize you just took the first steps toward overcoming your biggest fear. How does it feel Eight or 10 are OK 20 are even better....
Unless you make an effort to apply your skills often, you will begin to lose them. Practice, or usage, creates confidence. A new skill becomes a habit through repetition. That is your goal Create a habit out of your new Rapid Reading Program. Continue to practice. On the other hand, if the skills are not applied and used continuously, all the instruction and practice will be for naught. They will have no lasting value. We refer to this continuity as the CIRCLE OF SUCCESS. If the circle is broken in any area, success in learning the reading and learning skills will be denied. KEEP THE CIRCLE INTACT Follow instructions in all your practicing. Apply what you have learned.
Two or more skills will become almost as one as they are developed. Your subconscious mind will begin to act more quickly and you will continue to increase speed and improve understanding and recall. Keep practicing according to the instructions you receive. Don't try to force yourself to understand and remember at first. Both of these skills will improve later. Your reading skill will go from seeing - hearing - understanding to SEEING - UNDERSTANDING. Each step you learn takes you nearer to your goal. The time and effort spent will be well worth it. Practice, practice, practice.
Yeah, you heard me right - you need to know how your own mind works. We all have conscious thoughts, and make conscious decisions every day. But there is also our subconscious to consider. When we set goals, our subconscious keeps track of these goals, and influences the results in our conscious mind. When we encounter fears or rejection, our subconscious deals with these obstacles and adjusts our conscious mind accordingly. We are able to keep our goals in focus through changes made in the subconscious mind. When you make mistakes, or face obstacles, your subconscious mind chalks these things up to experience and expects that you will continue to pursue your goals. And that is just what you need to do - learn from your mistakes and move on.
Have you ever seen a picture of a well-dressed guy in a magazine and thought you'd like to look like him Or of a woman you could see yourself being with Well, all these pictures, photos, advertisements, need to be collected and saved Use these images as incentives to realize your goals. Imagine yourself looking that good, or with that perfect woman. As well, cut out articles or ads for singles events, or of places you might like to go for a date. Collect any inspiring pictures as a way to visualize your objectives and remain focused. When the time comes for a date with an amazing woman, use the ads to create an exciting date filled with adventure and fun
Regardless of your goals, you'll get unwillingly entrapped less frequently if you know your objective up front. And you'll also be more successful, since the best places to look for wife material are often not the best places to find one-night stands. Define your goals, and then work toward them. It works in business, and it works in dating too. We'll expand on this process in the next few Lessons.
With the exception of video personals the drawback is the fact that you don't really know what the person looks like. But that's not a problem. It shouldn't be your goal to meet someone to seduce right away. This is nothing but an avenue for you to get practice and experience talking to women. But if things click for you why not go for it anyway If she turns out to be butt ugly just tell her that as shallow as this seems, without the physical attraction things aren't going to go anywhere between you two and move on.
Like every other aspect of a transaction, your body language needs to be fine-tuned in keeping with your goal(s) . If you understand your goals you will be well on the way to understanding how to maximize your body language techniques to achieve them. If you suffer from goal-confusion, though, you're destined to look something of a prize chump
If dancing isn't specifically what you came to do in a night-club, then dancing isn't really what you should be concerned with. Dance your dance, then extract her to a quiet and private place and start working your magic ) You could of course get some initial attraction already going on the dance floor if your moves are good - smiles, eye-contact, maybe even some initial kino - but then again, maybe not. You know your stuff and you know it works, but dancing can only be helpful at best, it is not the way of achieving your goal. So have fun dancing, but keep your ultimate goal (be it a close, a *close, feeling her up or tonguing her down, making her come right there in the club or taking her home with you ) in mind.
The better approach is to meet as many women as you possibly can, and work at seducing many different women at the same time. What you'll find is that you won't have as much pressure to make any one woman your goal, so you'll be much more relaxed across the board. The women will pick up on this, and you'll probably get many more women into bed than you would have if you had just pursued one at a time. You'll avoid the beggars can't be choosers mentality that makes so many men settle for what they get.
We realized that getting our goal of a screenplay sale was much like flying a plane from Denver to L A. If I, as a Left-brained dominant person had the controls, I would tend to beat our heads against a wall pushing through trouble in being so goal-oriented . But if I let him man the controls, he would get us lost . He said it was like he just wanted to check out Mexico on the way to L.A., but I said if he were at the controls he would fly us to China and we'd forget all about L.A., which was our original goal
The Seduction Method is a simple three-step process. If you follow these steps and work to improve your technique, you will be successful. They are time-proven methods to seduce your target, and they do not require you to perform a hypnosis act upon her. You will use both overt and subtle methods along the way to reaching your goal. You will spend most of your time and energy in Stage 2 Progression. The 80 20 rule states that twenty percent of the time you spend on a task will yield eighty percent of your results, and this is just as true here. It takes only a little time to find a woman you're attracted to and interact with her, and just a small amount of time after your seduction to review what worked and didn't work. But most of your focus should be on the constant increase of intensity associated with Stage 2. Working on the progression, the escalating sexual intensity, is where you will work the hardest. (If you can really call this work )
Well ain't we havin' some fun Just remember to stay focused on playing with her and don't get all nervous thinking about how you're going to go about asking for her phone number or something equally terrifying. That would represent the moment when you would have to reveal your shame -- so it will be stressful for you to imagine and you're dreading it. Just make asking her out optional. That's right if you get her number you get it, if you don't, you don't. Fuck it. The point to doing all of this flirting is totally pointless. What all this training a mere pointless exercise That's right How's that for some heavy Zen Once people discover to their great delight that you are the perfect foil for their opinions and ideas, they can't get enough of you This is not always easy to do of course -- especially if you're a miserable bastard who has his own strong opinions about everything and you're certain that you're right about every one of them and that the other guy's a fool. But remember,...
First, understand what the word Leadership really means. To be the leader is more than being the one in charge, more than the one directing who does what and when. Leaders take acton, they influence, inspire and motivate, and guide others in their part in the ultimate goal. Leaders do NOT smply give orders, nor j'ust give people asssgnments to complete, nor do they sit back while everyone else does all the work. The leader is the one who is most passsonate about the goal, and that passson becomes infectious on others, so they want to be a part of it. This is not to say you need to give employees stock in your company. Your particular situation may be one that is far from being a Southwest Airlines. But that does not mean you can ' t also inspire people in a smilar way. There are ways to create the same impact, even on a much, much, smaller scale. The key, is to know what motivates each individual person. Money is not the sole reason someone might be loyal to your leadership,
Just the act of writing this stuff down has an incredible affect on your subconscious mind. You'll find that your mind will start to work for you once you define what it is you're looking for. In fact, if you were to just write your goals down for the next year on a piece of paper and stuff it in a drawer, you'd find that after the year was up, you'd achieved many of the ones you'd written down. That's the power of your subconscious mind. So take a piece of paper out right now (index cards work really well for this, too) and plan out your goals for the next year. Then break them down into chunks that you can start working on this month. Then break it down into something that you can do today to get started, even if it's only calling someplace for information to be sent to you. There, you've completely mapped out a realistic plan to attain your goal. Now all you have to do is get busy on it.
Get some of the necessary books available on goal setting. One book I highly recommend is Anthony Robbins' Awaken the Giant Within. This was the book that got me started on the path to goal setting. Brian Tracy also has an audio series called The Ultimate Goals Program. Either of these is an excellent way to get started on the process. Have fun with this stuff, and try to not take it so seriously that you burn out and stop doing the work, but take it seriously enough that you achieve the goals. It's the most important work an Alpha Man can undertake, and it's up to you to do. No one else will set goals for your life except you. By the way, goal-setting work like this is immensely attractive to women. I make sure that I let the women in my life know about the goals I'm pursuing, and inevitably they become very interested and impressed. They know that a man with goals is an Alpha.
Cut off your cable or satellite dish, or at least reduce your service and viewing time drastically. Take a week where you unplug yourself from the numbing influence of television and experience what life is like. If you could regain just a few of those hours each week from watching television and use them to pursue your goals, just imagine where you'd be in a year. The world is full of distractions to keep you from reaching your goals, like the previously mentioned influence of television. We live in a world where one of the most common diagnoses made is ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. I believe that our society has conditioned us to respond with a shortened attention span and very little patience, so ADHD isn't a medical diagnosis as much as a statement of our new mental development programs. So beware those little things in life that steer you off course, because they'll pop up all the time. Sure, you might want to turn on the Playstation for a few hours of fun,...
As for measuring up, this is a concept that has no place in a delicious seduction scenario. It won't even be a concern if you place your focus on your partner instead of on some standard that has no bearing in reality. The formula is really quite simple If you pay attention to details, you will learn what turns your partner on. Knowing that, you can easily set a seduction scene geared to please him or her soft lighting, sensual surroundings, his or her favorite jazz musician on the CD player (we'll have more tips on setting the scene in later chapters). In short, a lot of focus, a little imagination, and a desire to please will make you a hit with your partner, and you won't even need a crew of technicians and make-up artists.