What She Says
I want a man who's a good provider.
I really like sex. I really like giving blowjobs I like older men.
I want to be able to stay at home and take care of the children.
I like you as a friend. dating you.
I never sleep with a man on the first date.
I always pay my own way.
You're a jerk!
You're a gentleman.
What She Really Means I want to be spared from the necessity of having to work for a living and to have a lifestyle I can't afford on my own.
Until he slips the ring on my finger.
They have more money, are less sexually demanding, and if I marry one, he could kick off soon enough for me to have fun with his cash.
Talking on the phone with my girlfriends while I keep an eye on the kids sounds a hell of a lot easier than slaving 8 hours a day at an office. Pretty soon I'll be able to pressure my husband into paying for a nanny and a maid, and I'll never have to lift a finger again.
Your income isn't large enough for me to waste my time Ditto
My Pussy Power isn't working on you. Pussy Whipped
He's a truly brainwashed sucker who will pay for everything and won't ask for sex.
I love you.
You're sexually harassing me
I'm being discriminated against
Men are "pigs".
Men think with their dicks.
I want a man with "class", who will treat me "like a lady".
Men can't communicate. on me, me, me.
I believe in equal rights.
You're an excellent workhorse
I want to be able to freely use my sexuality to get ahead in life, but I don't want to be accountable for my actions.
I don't have talent, skills, or training to get a better position, but I want to be promoted anyway, and be paid "as much as a man".
I have learned to lie to myself about my sexual desires, and prostitute them, and scorn men because they don't.
He will spend money without reservation or hesitation for my pleasure, and will demand nothing in return
They aren't able to read my mind, and they aren't focusing
As long as standards are lowered; as long as I can still use my sexuality to get ahead; as long as I can earn an equal salary but still expect a man to pay for me; as long as I can attend male-only schools and join male-only clubs, but still subscribe to institutions which discriminate against men; and as long as I am not susceptible to draft or combat.
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Sommers, Christina Hoff. Who Stole Feminism?. New
York: Simon and Schuster, 1994.
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