Be Sensitive Without Losing Your Manhood

Okay, guys, this is very important. If you are hoping to be successful in the world of seduction, you're going to have to know how to be sensitive. When a woman looks at a man, from her unique perspective, one of the key things she sees is how sensitive you are. It can truly be a pass or fail characteristic. If the lady in your life doesn't see a sensitive side, she's going to be put off. Personality counts for so much, especially if you're hoping to go further with a relationship.

To begin with, it's important to understand just what sensitivity is. Sensitivity, or being sensitive, is just one of those things that's gotten such a bad rap as to make it virtually a taboo. But false impressions are to blame for that, and women can dismiss such misconceptions here so they can get on with the business of becoming a more sensitive man. But what sensitivity really is, in truth, is responsiveness to things around you. It's a general sense of what's going on.

Unfortunately, some of you may be thinking you've already got it pegged. But don't think it's just a matter of self-awareness and a general idea of the world around you. The sensitivity women want in a man goes a bit further. Or, put more directly, women are looking for a specific kind of sensitivity in men. Here's an example you're sure to remember from some movie you once saw: a young couple are walking along a street at night, and the temperature is dropping. Conveniently, she had forgotten to bring a coat, but he had remembered to bring his. He notices her shivering, and quickly offers his coat to her, despite his own need for the coat.

Okay, that's a basic example. But what matters is that the guy was aware of his girlfriend's need, and he did something about it. Moreover, he made a sacrifice for her. This is a big deal. When a man can be more concerned about the welfare of someone else than himself, he's got a chance to impress the ladies.

Let's take that thought a little further now. It's not just some superficial act that makes for the kind of sensitivity women are looking for in a man. It's really more a way of life. And it's more than just a generous response to a need. It's also about understanding feelings, and about being in touch with your own innermost feelings to the point that you can express them openly. So many men feel they must always be solid as a rock, never let feelings show, because feelings are weaknesses. But women don't see it that way. They see the expression of feelings as a strength to be commended.

If you can understand and express feelings and emotions, great, you're on your way to making a good impression. Just remember that talking about your own feelings must be genuine. It's not hard to pick up on a line of, well, you know. That's another key. Honesty is huge, and it ties right in to the concept of sensitivity. After all, how sensitive can a person be if they can't be truthful? Lies are harmful, under any condition, and a sensitive person will know that there is no reason to fear telling the truth. Being sensitive is all about being in tune with yourself and with your companion, and not being afraid to show it.

Okay, so we've got the idea of sensitivity down. Now it's time to talk about why men cringe at the notion of being sensitive. Men, by virtue of our social order, should be masculine, and sensitivity has often been seen as a threat to masculinity. It's common to view sensitivity as the line in the sand beyond which manhood no longer exists. But that couldn't be further from the truth. Don't get the wrong idea; it's perfectly reasonable to be a bit uncomfortable with sensitivity at first. But there are ways to get around it, and they're well worth the effort when you're trying to advance your relationship.

First, remember earlier when I mentioned that sensitivity is all about being in tune with yourself and with others. Being in tune with yourself simply means knowing yourself and not being afraid to tell your companion who you are and how you feel. That doesn't mean you have to become overwrought with emotion. It just means you should be able to express yourself, your desires and your dreams. It's not about a departure from your's a declaration of who you are as a man. And it's the same when you show concern for her. You're still a man, with a man's perspective, and that perspective can be a precious component of your relationship with her. Talk to her, be open, and be honest, and she'll most likely appreciate what you have to say, not much to mention she'll appreciate that you took the time to pay attention to her in the first place. She'll know then that you're a sensitive person.

So sensitivity in a man can be a great thing, and it can bring with it many rewards. It'll make the relationship you have go more smoothly, and it certainly won't hurt you when it comes to seduction. But, as with everything else, things can go wrong. Be careful though, if you go too far, you may crash and burn. Just because you open up to your companion doesn't mean you should obsess over the little things. It can quickly turn her attention in other directions when she begins to think you're whining. And, if you start paying too much attention to too many things, she'll begin to think you're being oversensitive. That can be just as bad as not being sensitive enough.

The key is finding balance. Make sure you're focusing on what matters, but know where to draw the line. To avoid whining, just be careful not to focus on things that bother you too much. Sure, it's important that you can tell her if something is bothering you, but don't say it repeatedly. Once is enough. Remember that there are things you cannot change, so those things must be accepted as they are. Accepting the unchangeable will prevent the risk of whining. Much the same can be said for over-sensitivity. Noticing too many things, and reacting to them all, gives the impression that you may be looking for problems. As I said earlier, just know what's really important, and don't pay much attention to the rest. Little things tend to take care of themselves.

Being a sensitive man is not such a big thing. It certainly seems a bit complicated at first, but with a little practice, you'll be just fine. Just keep in mind those few stumbling points, and know how you plan to avoid them. If you can do that, you're headed for great things in your relationship. From the friendship of a relationship all the way up to the romance of it, sensitivity will serve you well as a guide toward how to treat that special lady. And remember, how you treat her is the basis for how she'll treat you.

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