Dont Judge a Book or a Woman By the Cover

I know this tip may sound very cliché, but it's true. At some point or another women are all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While it's not right, women still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman. Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty don't necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone. Let me explain a few reasons why to help you understand women better.

Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening. Women don't want to worry that if they become pregnant their man is going to find our swollen belly and puffy ankles repulsive. Women want to know that despite our girth you'll find women beautiful. If a woman gets the slightest hint that you're basing your interest in her more on her physique than anything else you probably won't get very far with her.

Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. Wrinkles, gray hair and gravity are of great concern to women. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. And while not all of women are willing to go to extremes to maintain a youthful appearance, women surely don't want to be criticized for aging naturally. This is important to bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

I'm not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. We all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. It's a matter of compatibility. But what we do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. As I mentioned earlier, there's more to a person than just their body. And most of what attracts to people to each other is about what's inside, not outside. So take the time to find out what's inside before you discount women based on what's outside.

I'm sure you're wondering why I'm spending so much time on this. Well, it's simple really. When attempting to seduce a woman you have to make her feel comfortable with you. But beyond comfort is something even more important. A woman must know that she can trust you with her heart. To make a woman feel that way you must be willing to accept everything about her, including the fact that inevitably time will take its toll on her body. If women know that their man loves who we are more than how they look it makes it very easy for them to trust him.

To be successful with this it's imperative that you find traits in a woman that are more important to you than physical beauty. Concentrate on things like charm, intelligence, honesty, loyalty, ambition, humor or anything else that you find attractive in a personality. Next, give thought to how this factors in to the overall relationship. Take time to think about what will make you want to maintain a long-term relationship a woman. Now think 10 years into the future. Consider what you and she will look like then. Do you think you'll she'll still be as physically fit and physically attractive as she is now? What about your physical appearance? Chances are neither of you will be as physically fit and physically attractive as you are right now. But take some time now to consider all of the other characteristics that you find attractive. Chances are they haven't changed. And if they have, generally it's for the better. Spending time with a person whose personality compliments your own makes a very positive influence on both people. It enhances every aspect of who they are. So you can see that despite the fact that neither of you will remain as attractive physically, when it comes to mental and emotional attraction there is much to look forward to in the future. And if you can tell a woman that you're attracted to her and mean that you're attracted to all of her, then you're on the right path to seducing her.

The best way to make a woman understand that you're not superficial is to compliment her without constantly referring to her body. Women would prefer you compliment them on their body less and the rest of them more. This makes them more confident that you appreciate everything about them, not just their appearance. If you tell a woman she's sexy, she'll instantly assume you're referring to her body, never mind the fact that she has a very sexy personality. You can be successful at this by complimenting women on how good they are at their job, how funny they are, what a great smile they have or any number of other things. This doesn't mean you should never compliment them on their physical appearance. Just find a nice balance.

There's one last thing to remember about avoiding the tendency to be superficial. When you open yourself up to the idea that you could find more about a woman attractive than just her body, it opens you up to being able to experience a new level of connection with a woman. As I mentioned in the previous tip, you'll be amazed to find that being with the right kind of person, rather than the person who looks the best, will allow you to experience the pleasure of being with someone whose personality really meshes with yours. This will inevitably make you and her both more comfortable, allowing you to share openly and honestly with one another. By doing this you will be able to get inside her mind and really learn about her.

Now that you can see how much there is about a woman that you can find attractive and alluring let's take the time to discuss what this characteristic will mean to your woman. Not only will she feel more comfortable with you and feel like she can trust you, but she will feel that you're not overly critical or judgmental. That's very important to them. She'll also feel that even if her looks fade with time that there's still much more about her that you love and appreciate. She will also feel that the two of you have that in common, since women tend to look for characteristics in a man like personality, loyalty, honesty and ambition first, then looks later.

When a woman feels that you'll accept her and love her just the way she is, she can envision you being happy with the way she is in the future, too. And with her feeling this way about you, you will be well on your way to being able to seduce your woman, mind, body and soul.

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