What to Talk About on a Date

OK, think about this: why do you like your guy friends? Why are your best friends, your best friends? Simply because you enjoy each others company, right? They make you laugh, they intrigue you, they stimulate your mind, or they fascinate you. Whatever it is that they do for you, when you are together, you get feelings of pleasure. Otherwise, why else would they be great friends?

The exact same principle applies to a date. You want your date to have fun and you want to have fun with them. You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.

First let's define conversation. Conversation actually comes in two forms. There is, of course, the spoken word but there is also body language.

Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.

Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you're thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is: HOW to create an interesting conversation?

Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.

Important! Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:

• What do you particularly enjoy about that?

• If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?

By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.

I won't go into what the wrong questions are, but I trust you are a pretty smart guy and you can probably figure what those are without any help from me.

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