Some women are not easy to build rapport with because they are very defensive and guarded. You have to be willing to knock down the walls she has put around herself so that you can see what she's really like. This takes some skill, and some verbal ability. You have to "get real" with her so that you know how to get the rapport you seek.
Sometimes this is just telling her a few jokes to get her to loosen up. Sometimes more drastic measures are necessary, like showing her you're not to be walked on when she acts bratty.
Be ready to confront resistant behavior when it comes up, and work past it. She's only putting up defensive barriers, and she needs you to work through them as a test of your resilience.
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