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"The Fault, Dear Brutus, Is Not In Our Stars, But In Ourselves"


Almost every single mistake you can make is contained in the two examples in Chapter 2. Because of story continuity some of the mistakes had to be repeated in the second story. I'll bet you missed most of their mistakes. The mistakes they didn't make are illustrated elsewhere in this book, with explanations of what was done wrong and why.

Both stories are very believable and could easily have happened. As a matter of fact, they did happen, but not to Jack and Bill. Jack is a combination of several different guys I've served over the years who unintentionally specialized in making complete fools out of themselves.

They piss off the ladies (not to mention the bartender)

while trying to act "cool." Jack genuinely thinks he's "hot stuff'

and the sad thing is, he's the only person in the bar who thinks so.

Bill is not a bad guy, and he's not a jerk. He doesn't know what he's doing, but he's much better off than Jack will ever be. He's learned something Jack will never learn: that women are human beings. He's trying to have a conversation with Linda but he refuses to see that she just isn't interested. Bill is a classic example of what I see guys do every night with women: they force conversation on women, totally ignoring her feedback as to whether she is interested or not.

But before I go any further, let's check out how you did in your homework. Let's grade Jack first. Take your list frf everything he did right. How many items are on it? Now for the shock-Jack only did one thing right: he walked into the bar. That's it. That's the only thing he did right.

Now let's look at the list of everything he did wrong: Well, since he only did one thing right, everything else he did has to be wrong. How many mistakes did you come up with. I can easily come up with 35 major mistakes he made just in his first visit. Some were obvious, some weren't.

The second time he came in, he just repeated a lot 6f the same mistakes all over again. Because he doesn't realize the problem is with him, he'll just keep on acting this way forever. That's fine with me, because guys like Jack make rrie look good.

Now let's look at Bill. Bill did a few things right, but not many. Aside from walking into the bar he was hone$t about himself, and he did try to bring her into the conversation. But because he didn't know what he was doing, he failed miserably. At the end of Bill's story we find out Linda lied to him ... she is available, as the guy who picked her up found out. You'll find out their whole story later.

I'll also explain specifically what Jack and Bill did wror|g later in the book. But to do that now, you'd probably either argue, disagree, or not understand. So, at this point, please be patient to learn the lessons in sequence.

First, I'll be teaching you how women feel and why they behave the way they do. I'll also be showing you why all the techniques you ever learned don't work. Then I'll show yc}u what does work, I'll explain why it works, and then I'll prove to you that it works. I've condensed 14 years of experience into the book. I have a lot to teach you, so get set.

Remember: Chapter 2 is an aptitude test. If you did poorly, don't get upset. It's important that you keep all your answers so you can compare them with your answers when you take this test again after you've read the book. It will be a great way to see how much you've learned.

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