Knowing if theyre interested

After you've established someone's availability, test to see if they're interested. Initially, do this from a distance in order to test the waters without risking a face-to-face rejection.

If you've been playing with eye contact and flashes (explained in Chapter 7), now's the time to ramp it up. Catch their eye, hold it for up to four seconds, long enough for them to know you're definitely looking at them, then momentarily look away and back again. Follow up this little routine with an eyebrow flash and a smile. If they reciprocate, you're at first base.

If the person you're flirting with has a little preen, either adjusting their clothes or toying with their hair or necklace (as in Figure 6-3) for example (you can find other preening signs in the preceding section), they're letting you know they're interested. You can now safely begin a face-to-face approach. Go to Chapter 7 for information on making the first move.

Figure 6-3: Guy grooming.

It ain't easy being cheesy

I was working on a show with a TV presenter and some of the contestants were getting to grips with flirting body language. They were a youngish group of contestants and refused to believe that eye contact was the most effective way to make contact with someone you want to flirt with. This particular presenter was recently single and confessed to them that she'd used all my tips and, although she felt really cheesy using the four-second eye contact routine, it worked every time.

Continue reading here: Letting an Ad or Agency Help You Connect

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