Making your Voice sound attractive
A well-rounded, modulated voice is the most attractive to listen to. We spend a fortune on products to make us look and smell attractive, yet how many people do you know who've invested in making their voice, one of the most powerful assets we possess, sound good?
John was writing a letter to an important client and he asked Elizabeth for some help with the spelling. Elizabeth had never claimed that she'd won prizes for her spelling but, in the absence of a dictionary, she offered her opinion. When John saw the client, they pointed out all his spelling errors. He ranted at Elizabeth. Bemused, she offered the defence that she never claimed to know how to spell the words correctly. 'But you sounded so confident, I assumed your spellings were right,' he fumed.
People have much more confidence in you, your abilities, and your credibility if you 'sound' confident.
The voice is generated by a group of muscles, and like any muscle they need working on to be defined and strong. Here are some ideas:
✓ Record yourself reading out loud. Analyse the recording. Be careful not to say, 'this is rubbish; I sound horrible; my accent stinks' and focus on thinking 'How can I improve my voice?' Could you improve your diction - how clearly you actually say words - or your breathing technique?
Shallow breathers often sound raspy or rushed in long sentences and also take faster breaths when nervous or anxious, which can make them appear less confident or flustered. By practising taking bigger, deeper, longer-lasting breaths you can gain more control over the length of sentences you can say and have a more stable-sounding voice.
✓ Become involved in a local college or hospital radio station.
The experience will be invaluable, because it will force you to improve the quality of your voice and speech, build your confidence by speaking publicly, you'll meet lots of new people, and possibly have the opportunity for a good flirt!
Avoid smoking! Not only is smoking bad for you health and a passion killer on the breath, it's extremely bad for your voice.
Watch your favourite romantic film and listen to how the actors lower their voices when the mood becomes more intimate or when they're gaining the interest of the opposite sex.
Your diaphragm drives the power in your voice. Good posture is essential for creating a confident, well-projected (not necessarily loud) sound. Any slumping or sagging seriously affects how confident you sound. Adopting a confident stance (refer to Figure 5-4), both when standing and sitting, means you'll sound great.
Improve your diaphragmatic control by lying on your back with a large book placed over your abdomen. When you breathe in, take the breath right down through your lungs and into your stomach so your abdomen inflates and raises the book in the air; then let the air out slowly and make a long continuous note. Try to keep the quality of the note constant all the way through the breath.
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