Anatomy of a Seduction

I am going to give you the point-by-point breakdown of an actual seduction performed with a target that was what most men consider a 9.5 on a scale of 1 to 10. This example is being given to ensure that you understand how these tactics work on real live women, and that you believe that it does not require you to either wimp out (write her love poetry and lick her shoes) or that you have to be a GQ model with a Ferrari or a lot of money.

(Just for your knowledge, Mark, in this account, is not a GQ model, nor does he have a fancy car - it's a Jeep Cherokee.)

Note: This is a true account, though, "Mark" and "Betty" are not their real names. I have transcribed the events from an interview with Mark, a close friend of mine. I am also familiar with Betty, and verified the account with her over drinks.

Mark's Account:

First some background on the target, Betty:

Betty was a former co-worker who I had interacted with many times before. She and I had flirted, but at no time had I ever let on a sexual interest in her. Betty was five foot nine, blonde, and about 110 pounds. She was petite, and very intelligent. She had the body most of the stick-bug models would kill for, and she rarely exercised to keep it that way. She was also extremely arrogant and defensive, which made for some interesting arguments along the way. We would regularly get into contentious discussions about how something should or shouldn't be done at work, and there were times when she ended up storming out of my office, or lashing out in a public meeting. She was what you'd call the textbook definition of "bitch," but it got her what she

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wanted from other people. In the end, she and I would always come back around to talking again, usually by the next day. She would even drop hints about not wanting to "dip her pen in the company ink" from time to time, as if to acknowledge that there was some workplace sexual tension.

Betty had some mother issues (not unusual for women as a whole, but this case was pretty obvious.) So I knew there were some pretty typical self-esteem issues at work there. Betty also knew she was gorgeous, and flaunted her sexuality with every man she came in contact with. We would often talk about her search for a boyfriend on the Internet, and I saw first hand how every single guy she met screwed up with her from the start. Many of them would send her flowers on the first date, or even before the first date. Others appeared to bow to her every whim. It was entertaining to watch most of the time.

After a while, she was laid off from our company, and I felt a breath of relief. But I also knew I'd miss seeing that perky butt of hers wiggle by my office window every morning. We reconnected via email a few months later, and I told her we needed to hook up for some drinks. She agreed, and we set a time for it on that Friday.

On the night of the seduction date, I knew I was ready for this situation. First of all, I was seeing a couple other women, so I had my bets hedged. This meant that I could go into this date without caring about whether or not I got anything. In fact, I kept her negative qualities up on the front of my mind so that I even went into it with an obvious attitude of reluctance. I didn't need sex or attention from her, and that kept me at a challenging distance. I also had a sure-thing date lined up the next night, so I knew I wouldn't have any problems being satisfied that weekend. (Remember, keep a consolation prize.) It was a lot more relaxing to know that, no matter what happened, I was taken care of. I was in charge of my own good time.

We met at a cocktail bar in San Francisco, a trendy little place in the SOMA area of the city. She was already talking with some other guys when I met up with her, which I made sure to let her know did not bother me one bit. We broke off and ordered a couple drinks and started talking, catching up a bit on what had been going on in our lives. I also made it clear that I wouldn't indulge in a lot of negative gossip.

One of Betty's personality traits is that she likes to stir controversy while demonstrating at the same time that she's superior because of her intelligence. I smiled when she would make catty comments and always questioned her back about her assumptions.

"So, I hear that Mark isn't going to get the region when they reorganize," she said, knowing full well that Mark was a very good friend of mine that I worked with. He

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had turned Betty down for a dating relationship some time back. "That sort of figures, doesn't it?"

I took a sip of my drink and paused. "Really? Hmm. What makes you say that?"

She scrambled to justify her observation. "Well, I mean, after all, he just doesn't have what it takes to do it. He's just not that smart. Those guys from New York will cut him up."

I smiled and took another sip. I waited for the silence to become almost too much to bear. She finally broke it with her impatience. "Don't you agree? You know what I mean, right?"

Now, in the complete Seduction Method e-book, I take this situation (along with the rest of the evening) and break it down, going over what happened over the entire night (well, almost all of the night ... some of it will have to remain private.) Then, I go into what the key principles were and how they worked, so that you can see how seduction really works from the outside in. Here is some of that analysis:

Confrontation - The willingness to take her on as an adversary - worked to demonstrate Mark's willingness to confront Betty. She was always ready to get into an argument or fight, and she thrived on that kind of contention. Mark understood her personality from observing her enough that this wasn't a bad thing. Most guys avoid confrontation with a woman, and I'm sure Betty's dates did, too. What she found most attractive was someone who could fight with her and knew how to guide all her angry feline attitude in the right direction.

Sexual Power

There are a lot of men with strong repressed anger over the seemingly endless string of hoops guys have to jump through to get sex. This essentially comes from anger over women's authority and power - the ultimate say-so or say-no. If you find you have a lot of this anger, or extreme bitterness about the process of dating to pursue sex, you'll have to find a way to let it go if you expect to make any long-term success in the field of meeting and seducing women. This anger is rooted in a deep-


seated belief that since women control the supply of sex, and you have the demand, they somehow own or control you.

Nothing is further from the truth.

However, if there is a part of you that has a very difficult time getting over it and accepting that women ultimately can and do say "No" to men, you may wish to seek counseling of some kind. The techniques and strategies covered here are for men with very little (if any) emotional baggage about women. Again, you have to love women, and you can't be trying to change her if you want to seduce her.

Think about how our society refers to sex. Men are expected to "get lucky" with women, as if all sexual success is based on rolling the dice and seeing who you end up with, and if she will or will not "put out." Sex is a game of chance, according to popular belief, and if you try to learn the rules so that you can turn the game in your favor, you're looked on as some kind of cheater.

Why not take a planned approach? Why would you leave your future up to the fates when you have the ability to control your destiny?

Perhaps you've heard the serenity prayer:

Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference.

The fortunate (and unfortunate) part of this prayer is that the responsibility for the courage is still up to you. You have to be willing to go out and change those things to make a difference.

I get in heated debates with many people (men and women) over these concepts, and it is usually because they are fighting these principles with their rational minds. They believe in the way things should be, not the way things really are.

o Relationships should be built on trust o That's manipulation!

o You're tricking a woman into sex!

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