Your Mood Ebooks Catalog
This impulse is part of the fight-or-flight survival response The first information those others will need to obtain is whether you appear to constitute a threat or not. After that, though, it's a bit of an image free-for-all as they try to discover your status, job, reason for being there, sexual desirability, and so on And this isn't just for people you're meeting for the first time . In business the blink factor is ongoing . Every day you'll be viewed with these same eyes as people try to judge your mood or your leadership qualities, your knowledge or ability to either take control or be submissive, and their chances of
In fact, image and perception is important everywhere in your life. In the first few seconds, when someone meets you for the fist time, they will have made up their mind about you. Whether you like it or not, your body is constantly giving off messages. Over 70 of your day-to-day communication process is through body language. Your body will project your mood and what type of life you've had.
One of the cleverest ways to effect a sense of rapport with anyone is to mirror their emotional state. If they glimpse a reflection of themselves in you, it somehow validates their own feelings of the moment. It's intoxicating in a way. I just mentioned reflecting back a woman's thoughts and ideas, but it's just as important to mirror back her mood as well. If you meet a girl who's in an up mood because you're at a wild party or whatever, your mood should be similarly upbeat. Set aside your slow, soft-spoken demeanor for another more appropriate time. Now is the time to be bright and loud
What I mean by this is that if a woman is mentally stable, meaning that wild mood swings or other neurotic and unpredictable brain problems do not control her behavior, these principles are true and should work just fine. Clinical depression affects twice as many women as men, both in the U.S. and in many societies around the world. It is estimated that one out of every seven women will suffer from depression in their lifetime. Additionally, women experience higher rates of seasonal affective disorder and dysthymia (chronic depression). While the rates of bipolar disorder (manic depression) are similar in men and women, women have higher rates of the depressed phase of manic depression and rapid-cycling bipolar disorder.
The first few people you see when you walk into your workplace are not responsible for your mood for the rest of the day Some receptionists and security guards are not fresh from charm school and many make it their life's work to take out their own inadequacies on the rest of the world Always go into holding mode with your body language . Keep your facial expression polite and friendly. Other people's moods are of no interest to your body language performance Find out their name and greet them by using it Never stop to talk, though There is a law of human dynamics that states the more miserable and rude front-line staff are the harder employees to cheer up . Don't try . It's a waste of effort. Employ holding mode and move on
Knowing your special lady well is going to require that you be able to understand her behavior. Behavior alone is a major key to the health of a relationship, and how she behaves in a restaurant, or at a concert, or down at the beach will be determined by many different things. To start with, try to pay attention to how your mood affects her mood. Noticing the way your good day, or your bad day, affect you, and then how your resulting behavior affects her, will help you tremendously. Similarly, take note of how she reacts when you're out on a date. Is there a crowd Does this bother her, or give her more energy What's the weather like Does she hate the rain, or does she think it has a romantic feel to it
Usually this will work but sometimes she will say no really, we should stop . In this case you do what Mystery calls a Freeze-out . You should act like she just ruined your whole arousal, but not your mood Turn on the light, snuff out the candle, check your e-mail, head to the kitchen get a snack, or get a magazine and ask her to help you with the crossword. Don't be emotional about it (don't be angry or pathetically disappointed). You also have to convey that you are not with her only for the sex and that you are going to stick around, spoon her, talk to her and so on. Women have a great fear of being ditched after sex. She will feel the loss and reinitiate physical contact. If she doesn't after 5 -10 minutes, you should.
From the very first moment you meet a woman and for the rest of your life with her or any other woman dont make
This light and fun, yet masculine approach works because you disarm women with your good mood. Your mood is also catchy. In addition, you come across as a sexy, masculine man that already has his needs fulfilled. You are not a weak man who would crawl on his knees for a woman. Add a sense of humor, and all she can think is that she will be laughing with a sexy awesome guy who can take care of her.
I imagine the most difficult part for you will be generating the willpower to keep experiencing the shameful feelings over and over again -- especially at the beginning when they are strongest and seemingly impossible to overcome. This is where another simple NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) trick called anchoring can help. The basic premise of anchoring involves replacing a negative fearful emotion with an upbeat, positive one by linking the replacement emotion to a physical trigger , like the touch of a specific part of the body, and then firing it off when needed to instantly pull the good feeling up on demand. This replacement feeling should be one of genuine strength and power. If it's strongly enough imagined, it will shove the negative emotion aside and take its place instantly modifying your mood exactly when you need it the most.
One of the cleverest ways to effect a sense of rapport with anyone is to mirror them. If they glimpse a reflection of themselves in you it somehow validates their own thoughts and feelings. It's intoxicating to the human spirit so make certain to exploit this tool early and often. I mentioned reflecting back a woman's ideas, but it's just as important to mirror back her mood too. If you meet a girl who's in an up mood because of some goings on around you like a wild party or whatever, your mood should be similarly upbeat. Park your slow, dark and soft-spoken sexy demeanor for another more appropriate time. Now is the time to be bright and loud in your approach and interaction with her. If you run across her in a quiet library somewhere, that's where the slow, soft and mellow you makes it's appearance. Otherwise you're attempting to pull her out of her present mood and into yours. That means she has to make an effort to mentally switch gears in order to match your...
Truth check Women control media and markets through their buying power. Who buys most of the books, fiction and non-fiction Why are there so many chick flicks Ever wonder how a book with a title like How to Dump That Jerk Man can be printed, but if a book titled How to Understand Female Mood Swings were to hit the shelves, there would be protests and rioting Because the book companies are in the business of making money, not publishing information and Great Truths. They do what they're paid to do, by their customers. Women buy most of the books published each year. Consider books on romance. Romance generated 1.52 billion in sales in 2001, romance fiction comprising 18 of all books sold and 54 of all popular paperback fiction sold in America. Of these readers, 93 were women, and half of them were married. (*Source www.rwanational.orq Industry Statistics.)
Truth check Women control media and markets through their buying power. Who buys most of the books, fiction and non-fiction Why are there so many chick flicks Ever wonder how a book with a title like How to Dump That Jerk Man can be printed, but if a book titled How to Understand Female Mood Swings were to hit the shelves, there would be protests and rioting Because the book companies are in the business of making money, not publishing
Your mood is created entirely by the thoughts you are focusing on. You can't be in a bad mood if your thoughts are on all the good things in life. You can't be in a good mood if you're thinking about all the despair and tragedy. You determine what your mood is by what you focus on. Whatever you think about will become your emotional reality.
Get enough sleep every night so that you're in top shape for approaching. Avoid drugs and alcohol that will leave you with mood swings, or tired and bloodshot eyes. If you absolutely have to take a couple drinks to loosen up on a night out on the town, keep it reasonable. Avoid beer if you can, because it leaves your breath smelling bad and makes it obvious you've been drinking.
Space and your use of it is a vital part of your workplace success Space and territory are what wars are fought over and you should never underestimate the importance of either I Move to the sides of the elevator when someone new arrives, but don't self-bunch If there is a rail, spread your arms out slightly along it I When possible, never take a desk with your back to the door of the office It makes you vulnerable in animal terms and will affect your mood and sense of well-being It also makes you look like an automaton to anyone
Get out of your chair right now and stand up. Do it, bytch OK, now interlock your fingers together and stretch your arms in front of you, palms facing away from you. Now take a deep breath and bring your arms up over your head, keeping them straight, elbows locked. Push up to the sky and you fill your lungs completely. Hold your breath for 10 seconds while you PUSH upwards Now exhale with a nice, hearty *sigh* and have a seat. Feel different Your mood should have improved slightly as your body thanks you for the release of stored tension. Another great way to amp your mood is to sing along with your favorite tunes. If you are feeling real frisky you can combine boosters with some song and dance before you hop in the shower. Sound corny Then you are already taking yourself too seriously and setting yourself up for failure. Time to lighten up, you self-important jackass
When you're feeling down, or discouraged, the actions you take will reflect your mood. Your brain has an urgency factor it attaches to certain feelings, and negative states will jack that urgency up, making you feel that you must do something to get out of this lousy emotional state. The unfortunate thing is that you are looking at the world through a skewed and inaccurate viewpoint when you are in a low or bad mood. Anything you do would be likely to sabotage your success, not help you. It would be like trying to walk across a board perched between two tall buildings while your contact lenses are blurry. What you stop and wait for is your vision to clear up, so that you can walk across without worrying about falling to your death. The best rule for managing your moods is (Regarding PMS You should watch out for a woman who is subject to too many wild mood swings. She may even have a deeper disorder, or a need for medication during the time preceding her period. The best advice is,...
Natural Depression Cures
Are You Depressed? Heard the horror stories about anti-depressants and how they can just make things worse? Are you sick of being over medicated, glazed over and too fat from taking too many happy pills? Do you hate the dry mouth, the mania and mood swings and sleep disturbances that can come with taking a prescribed mood elevator?